Happiness ** in ordinary life".
We always want life to have ups and downs.
We always think that happiness is when life is colorful.
For this reason, he lives a busy and fast-paced life, physically and mentally exhausted.
In the end, I realized that life will not go as expected, and simple days are the most cherished.
An ordinary life is the happiest.
1. It's better to be a normal person.
We mourn on the one hand, and burn non-stop on the other. As I walked, I often forgot about myself.
One day, I suddenly stopped and looked back, and saw a person who married a "suitable" woman at the "right" age, did a "stable" job, and lived a "happy" life. Why is my smile so polite? Why are the limbs so stiff? Oh, my heart is here, not in my body. That me, took a "conventional" path.
I accept my fate, but I doubt life, I don't want to live like someone else, I just want to be the only person in the world when I die.
Nothing is more convincing than time, because time can change everything without notifying us.
We first came into this world because we had to; Eventually, we leave this world because we have to.
Cry with laughter and live with death.
As a word, "alive" is full of power in our language, and its power does not come from shouting, nor from attacking, but from enduring, to endure the responsibilities that life gives us, to endure the happiness and suffering, boredom and mediocrity that reality gives us.
Man lives for the sake of being alive, not for anything other than living.
Humans can't stand too much truth.
We can't forget four things: don't say anything wrong; Don't sleep in the wrong bed; Don't step on the wrong threshold; Don't make a mistake in your pockets.
No matter how big a person's life is, if he wants to die, he can't live at all.
The end of life is nothing but death, and the meaning of death is nothing but rebirth or eternal sleep. Death is not the loss of life, but the stepping out of time.
It's better to be a normal person, fight for this and that, fight for and lose your life.
The standard for testing a person is to see where he spends his time. Don't kid yourself; When life comes to an end, only time doesn't lie.
As long as the family is together every day, they don't care about any blessings.
When people are old, they are also people, and if they are people, they must be cleaner. If people are so tired that they don't have the strength to do it all day, they won't think about it.
People are all the same, when the hand reaches into someone else's pocket and takes out the money, the eyebrows and smiles, and when it is their turn to give money, it is the same as crying and mourning.
People die like ripe pears that fall from trees, and those who pear are departed.
Life is something that belongs to each person's own feelings, not to anyone else's opinion.
has been crushed by fate, only to understand the mercy of time. Why should I let go of a good life and think about these tiring things like glorifying my ancestors.
None of us knows what awaits us in the time ahead until the coffin is closed.
2. Insist on reading and benefit immensely.
In today's world, where people are increasingly replacing hard reading with touchscreen browsing, do we still have in-depth and serious reading?
Just browsing, it is an instantaneous stimulus of sight and hearing, and it is easy to stay at a relatively shallow and fragmented level.
In the social atmosphere of rushing for success, there have been a number of people who know everything, know everything, do not check, do not distinguish, do not generalize, do not backtrack, have no scrutiny, have no analytical ability, and have no creative plane information performance people.
Some of these capable people are still angry, and their mouths are dirty. Their appearance is a disaster for the Chinese nation's tradition of "having poetry and books in their belly, and being calm in the depths of their reading."
More people think that as long as they have a mobile phone, they can know which ** is ugly, which celebrity's family members have committed crimes, and which food has killed people.
Of course, I also know which Uncle Bird became the world's number one dance star, and which five-year-old child published his or her first book of poetry.
Now there are too many people like us, he sees, he listens, he preaches, but he doesn't think.
Even more and more people who have not read it carefully, but just watched the audio-visual program, feel that it is ordinary or even boring, which greatly spoils the perception and appetite of classic works.
To quote the words of Confucius, "If you learn without thinking, you will be reckless, and if you don't learn, you will perish", saying that if you learn without thinking, your level is the same as that of a networm and an Internet addict, you know a lot of things, but you have no brains. What is it to think without learning? If you don't learn, you don't have that much knowledge, and you're thinking there all day long.
I can't help but be afraid that the result of technological development will make people idiotic, why?
Because the development of science and technology will weaken people's original abilities.
What is the greatest joy of reading?
It was in the book that I discovered life, and I discovered a life that I didn't understand in the past.
So what is the happiest thing in life?
It's when you find a book in your life, a certain situation, a certain landscape, a certain feeling, you feel that it should be in the book, or you feel that it is really the same as what you experience in the book, and the feeling when you read it, this is the happiest thing.
Books and life can prove each other, complement each other, and see each other.
We must admit that books are never as rich, so intuitive, so vivid, and so subtle as life. But books have the characteristics of books, and there are some contents that cannot be fully obtained in life.
Why?
Books are established primarily by means of language and words. Books symbolize life, and the result of symbolization is to add people's thinking to it, and books are to express people's thinking ability.
What is the relationship between books and life?
1) Books have a classicality.
Some books have a high quality that life does not have, and even a divinity. Books represent the wisdom, experience, and understanding of the predecessors, and only by reading these books can we grasp the classics and obtain the classics.
2) The book is organized.
Daily life gives people feelings, today I know Jiaojie, tomorrow I know bright, the day after tomorrow I know bright, I know the day after tomorrow I know fragrant, but these experiences in life are messy. Only after combing through symbols, language and words, can a person's understanding of the world begin to be organized, which cannot be given in daily life.
Because there is order, there is clarity, and what is said more clearly. Sometimes even between spouses, the most feared thing between spouses is not disagreement, but confusion about where the inconsistency is, sometimes I think, if you don't write out which three for me to do, I will understand it at a glance, and it will be clear.
3) Books have ideals.
What is ideal?
I just hope that there is, but not yet.
The road is also a trip to the world, the world is for the public, the selection of talents and abilities, and the cultivation of faith and harmony. Therefore a man does not kiss his own kinsman, nor does he have only his son.
Everyone not only loves their own parents, but also loves other people's parents as much as they love their own parents, and when they see other people's children, they take care of him and help him like their own children, how good this society is.
There are many noble ideals that can be expressed in the book, and these noble ideals are not fully obtained in life, which is ideality.
4) The book is general.
Because human language and words encapsulate a lot of things that cannot be seen or touched.
Happiness, nobility, nobility, devotion, benevolence, morality, direction, these abstract things can only be summed up by words and words.
What people can't see, language can reach; What people can't hear, language can reach; What people can't touch, words can also reach.
Language is human thinking, using human thinking to see the world and understand the world; Look at history, to understand history; Come and see life, come and understand life. If you don't study, it's just that in life, no matter how smart a person is, he can't reach it.
Books cannot be replaced, no matter how rich a person's experience is, without books to improve, summarize, and promote, life will never reach a relatively high level.
What kind of books should you read today?
I advocate reading a little bit of hard work, reading a little bit of books that you are not used to, and reading a little bit of books that require you to look up information, ask others, and discuss with teachers and friends.
In addition to interesting books, read a little serious books. In addition to books that break news, books about miracles, and books that vent, we need to read books of science, logic, analysis, and innovation and artistic courage.
In addition to books that go downstream, you should also read books that climb up and need to be weighed. In addition to the familiar books in the vernacular, recitation books, you should also read books with a little academy atmosphere, ancient Chinese books, foreign language books, and tomes.
In addition to the books that you know well, you should also read books that you have read little in the past, so that you will not be able to find a feeling for a while, rather than reading them for ten minutes and getting laughs or praise.
The more convenient, comfortable, and quantitative information you get, the more you must read books carefully and read books that cost you a lot of brains. Use your brains to read, and definitely not just follow the crowd, follow the fun, be proud of being proficient in gossip, talk about it, and finally become a smart, know-it-all idiot.
Keep reading and you'll benefit immensely. In the age of touchscreens, don't be a slave to the Internet.
3. Happiness is worth striving for.
As long as animals do not suffer from disease and have enough food, they will be happy and content.
The same should be true of people.
However, this is not the case, at least not in most cases.
If you are unlucky, you may admit that you are not an exception in this regard.
If you are happy, ask yourself how many of your friends are happy.
When you have made a comment on your friends, you should learn how to read words and emotions so that you can feel the emotions of people you encounter in your daily life.
Blake said: I have seen all the faces, spotted with cowardice and a little bit of grievance.
One of the most important tasks of our civilized age is to seek a social system free of war.
Yet humanity is so unfortunate that it is more tempting to kill each other than to enjoy the sunshine of life for a long time.
In such a situation, it is difficult to achieve even the best system.
If mechanized mass production is for the benefit of those who have the greatest need, then it is necessary to prevent permanent poverty.
But what's the point of making all the rich rich rich if even the rich are unfortunate?
Intimidation education by resorting to sticks is bad, but if the instructors themselves are slaves to this passion, they cannot give other forms of education.
However, in the here and now, in our society of universal nostalgia, how can one achieve one's own happiness?
In discussing this issue, we focus on this category of people who have not suffered any great suffering from outside. Assuming that they have enough income, they have solved the problem of food and clothing; They are healthy enough to have the possibility to engage in a variety of daily activities.
We don't think about great cataclysms, such as the death of children and public humiliation. This sort of thing is really worth discussing, and it's really important; But they belong to a different kind of thing than we want to say.
Our aim is to provide a prescription for the daily misfortunes that befall most people in modern civilized nations.
This kind of misfortune is unbearable because it has no apparent external cause, and once it comes, no one can escape it.
To a large extent, this misfortune is caused by a wrong view of the world, a wrong sense of ethics, and a wrong way of life.
The result is a loss of the natural passion and desire to pursue the things that are possible, and on which all happiness, human and animal, ultimately depends.
The attainment of these things is within the scope of one's ability, and we propose such ways of transformation that we can achieve happiness through these transformations if we have general good fortune.
Obviously, the psychological causes of misfortune are varied.
But they all have certain things in common.
Typical unhappy people are those who, in their youth, have been deprived of some normal satisfaction, and who regard this satisfaction as more important than any other kind of satisfaction, and who seek it all their lives.
They give enough, undue attention only to success, not to the activities themselves.
Today, however, another phenomenon is extremely widespread.
A person may feel that he has failed so completely that he no longer seeks any form of satisfaction, but only for relaxation and forgetfulness. He thus became a lover of "happiness".
That is, he diminishes his vitality in order to make life more bearable.
Alcoholism, for example, is a type of temporary suicide. The happiness it brings is only a negative, temporary happiness of forgetting unhappiness.
Narcissists and magmaules believe that happiness is possible, although they take the wrong approach in order to get it.
But the person who seeks mental anesthesia, no matter which way he takes, has lost hope and seeks nothing but obscurity.
In this case, the first thing to convince him is to tell him that happiness is worth striving for.
The unfortunate people, like the insomniacs, are always proud of it. Perhaps this pride of theirs is the same as the feeling of the fox when he loses his tail. If this is the case, the healer will show them how to grow a new tail.
If people see the path to happiness, few people will choose the path of misfortune.
Of course, the existence of such people is not denied, but there are certainly few such people, and it is difficult to become a climate.
4. Cherish the health and love of the moment.
Man, as a whole, is in a perpetual illusory situation; Continue to live in a temporary state until the end of the journey of life.
Therefore, we should not let the future worry, restlessness, anxiety and anticipation; Nor should we indulge in remorse and regret for the past, but should firmly remember that only the present is real and certain; The future always dashes our hopes without exception; The past is often far from what we once expected.
Neither the future nor the past is what we imagined.
The same object, due to the spacing, may appear smaller to the naked eye, but the mind can imagine it to be larger.
Only now is it real and feasible. It is the only moment of reality, and it is in this unique moment that our existence is real.
Therefore, we should always be filled with joy for it, give it the welcome it deserves, and enjoy every moment to the fullest.
We will not be able to do this if we are frowning at the frustration of our hopes for the past and anxious about the prospects for the future.
It is foolish to reject the present moment of happiness, or to hinder the present happiness by being upset about the past and worrying about the future.
Of course, there are always times in a person's life when they have a long time to think and regret for life.
However, once the past has become history, in order to ease our emotions, we should think about the deceased and say goodbye to it. It is necessary to overcome the sadness of the mind about what happened in the past and keep the mood happy.
As for the future, we can only think that it is beyond human power, and only God knows it.
As for the present, let us go through each day happily, and our whole life seems to be in this every day
Let's welcome it as pleasantly as possible, it's our only real moment.
Only those misfortunes that are bound to befall us at some uncertain time will intrude upon us, and yet few can fully explain this.
Because there are two types of misfortune or disaster:
Or just a possibility, even if it's a great possibility;
Or is it inevitable.
Even those that are inevitable are uncertain when they will occur.
So, if we do not give up all the pleasures of life because of the fear that some of them are inherently uncertain and some will happen at some point, we should either regard them as disasters that are absolutely impossible, or as disasters that will not happen soon.
Thus, the more a person's peace of mind is not disturbed by fear, the more likely it is to be agitated by desires and expectations.
It is only when a man abandons all hypocritical conceit and seeks to turn to unadorned, naked existence that he can attain the peace of mind that is the foundation of human happiness.
Peace of mind. That is the essence of any moment's pleasure; Moreover, the joy of life is fleeting, and we must seize the moment of the moment.
We should keep remembering that today is only once and that it is gone. We always thought we would come back tomorrow; But tomorrow is a new day, and it's gone.
We often forget that each day is a whole and therefore an irreplaceable part of life, and instead we are accustomed to seeing life as a bundle of ideas or names that cannot be experienced, and if this is the case, the life that contains the individual in itself is destroyed.
In those happy and vibrant days, we should enjoy and enjoy them to the fullest; Even in times of sorrow and sorrow, we should recall the past and the envy of the past, which seem to be far away from pain and sorrow in our memory. The past is like a lost Garden of Eden, and only then can we truly appreciate that they are our friends.
However, we celebrate happy moments without cherishing them, and only hope for them to return when disaster looms upon us. Countless hours of joy and pleasure are wasted in boring affairs; We often miss these pleasant moments because of all kinds of unpleasant trivialities, and when misfortune strikes, we sigh in vain.
Those moments, even if they are by no means ordinary, are often passed away carelessly, even impatiently aside, and they are moments that we should be proud of.
People never imagined that the passing of time is constantly turning the present into the past. There, memory idealizes it and shines with eternal light. Later, especially when we are in a difficult situation, the veil is lifted, and we regret it for the rest of our lives.
Many of the prosperity in life are just like mirages, and many pursuits in life are only as ethereal as an attic in the sky.
Instead of spending your life chasing those things you can't get, you should cherish the people around you and walk the road under your feet.
When the wind of the years blew by, I realized that the people and things I cared about were just traceless old dreams that passed through the years. A turn, the years passed, and time became a story.
The longest-lasting happiness never comes from the glitz and bustle, but from the beauty that can be glimpsed in the ordinary life; The greatest achievements never come from impetuousness and complacency, but from continuous hard work.
A happy life is not far away from us, only with a heart that loves life, feels life, and has the best attitude, can we live a wonderful life.
Ding Jungui. March 7, 2024.