When faced with a situation where their girlfriend doesn't want children, many couples feel confused and upset. I think you can figure out the following three questions before deciding whether to break up. Throw bricks and lead the way, and work with everyone.
Children, as the hope and bond of the family's future, are of irreplaceable importance to many people.
However, each person's values and life plans are unique, and with the progress and development of society, and the diversification of lifestyles, people are more and more likely to disagree on whether to have children.
So we might as well ask three questions:
You have to figure out the script of your life: not a sequel to your parents, not a prequel to your children, not a side story of your friends. You might as well take a bold risk with life, because you will eventually lose it. The hardest stage of life is not that no one understands you, but that you don't understand yourself. - Nietzsche.The presence of a child can have a profound impact on a family, including financial burden, timing, personal development, and more.
Therefore, before deciding whether to have children, first determine whether you love children yourself and whether you are happy to carry them with you when you have children.
Again, determine what specific reason you are looking for this woman to marry.
Is it because this person is very good to you, because of the person's mind, personality, appearance, or because of the person's family background, occupation, and even physical health, which is suitable for being the mother of your future children?
Plants need sunlight not to be able to be sunlight, but to always thrive in a vegetative way. ——Yu Hua, "A Warm and Mixed Feelings Journey".Communication is the key to problem solving. When we find that we have a disagreement on the issue of children, we should sit down and communicate frankly.
In addition to their own diseases or family genetic diseases, which are difficult to talk about and unwilling to tell you, people also have various reasons not to want to have children, such as people who lack love in childhood have a certain probability of not wanting to have children.
Understand your girlfriend's thoughts and concerns, while also expressing your own thoughts and expectations. In the process of communication, it is important to maintain respect and understanding, avoid accusations and quarrels, and understand the reasons.
Through communication, you can clearly express to your girlfriend your plans for the future of the children and the family of three, and your expectations for the future, so as to dispel your girlfriend's concerns in this regard.
However, sometimes even after communication, the two parties still cannot reach an agreement. In this case, she may have something to hide. We need to seriously consider whether we should continue the relationship or not.
Life is not as clear as the seasons of the year. Even if a 40-year-old sumo wrestler is very old, a 50-year-old politician will still be called a rookie. It's hard to tell exactly how old you are, and we have to decide for ourselves whether we're old or not. - Takeshi Kitano.Of course, this does not mean that we should give up the relationship as soon as our girlfriend expresses that she does not want children.
Everyone's thoughts and attitudes can be changed, especially when it comes to love and family. As a result, we can give each other some time and space to give both parties a chance to re-examine their positions and expectations.
You want to raise children to prevent old age and celebrate dozens of people during the New Year's holidays, she wants to live her own life, and even wants to raise herself again with her own hands, using it to ** her own soul, which is understandable.
Looking at the world with a normal heart, flowers bloom and are landscapes.
In addition, we can also seek professional help and advice. A counsellor or family counsellor can provide professional guidance to help us better manage this issue.
They can help us analyze the needs and expectations of both parties, provide solutions and suggestions, and facilitate communication and understanding between both parties.
Finally, whether we choose to continue the conversation or break up, we should respect each other's position and decision.
Love is based on mutual respect and understanding, and if both parties cannot agree on this issue, then breaking up may be a better option.
After all, we should all pursue our own happiness and fulfillment, rather than spend our lives in contradictions and dissatisfaction. Respect for each other and respect for oneself is indispensable. Life choices