There is a saying in the "Book of Songs": "The leaves are pale, the white dew is frost, and the so-called Yi people are on the water side." ”
When I was young, I was used to judging people by their appearance, and I always thought that having a beauty in my eyes was the happiest thing.
When you are middle-aged, you can really understand love when you have firewood, rice, oil, salt, sauce, vinegar, tea, pots and pans, and you are old.
It is true that no matter how good love is, it needs to be supported by a career, and it needs money to maintain it, and it is better to go home and have a full meal if you say 10,000 words of "I love you" every day.
If a man finds the wrong wife, he will inevitably suffer from a miserable life.
On Zhihu, netizen "Xiao Youma" said that her aunt has a very strong personality and is very arrogant, so it doesn't matter what happens.
My aunt married a man from the next village and raised a son and a daughter.
My uncle is a very good-tempered person, who can do housework and earn money by making mobile banquets.
To outsiders, they are a happy family.
It's a pity that my aunt was pampered and not very content, so she started the mode of playing mahjong everywhere, and the child didn't care.
When my aunt's son was a teenager, he used to hang out in mahjong parlors and then learned to gamble.
The aunt did not interfere with her son's behavior. Because in her bones, she is patriarchal and willing to give anything to her son.
In a flash, the son grew up and became a "cancer" in the village. The daughter got married, and on the grounds that she had been treated poorly since she was a child, she basically stopped interacting with her aunt's family.
When my aunt fell ill, my relatives found out that my aunt's family couldn't even afford the medicine. The son would rather be on the street than go to the hospital to take care of his parents.
Last year, my aunt left, my aunt became a helpless person, and the family was scattered.
As the saying goes, "Heaven is especially evil; It is forbidden for a man to do iniquity. ”In real life, there are many women like "aunts" who are ordinary themselves, but they control the lifeblood of the family. There is no way to manage the family well.
A woman is a lover at first, then a wife, and then a mother-in-law and grandmother. Every character is important, and the slightest mistake can ruin everything.
Men, once they enter middle age, do not have a decent wife, and no matter how hard they try, they will have a sense of powerlessness.
One,Women are patriarchal, and there will be a lack of tutoring. If a woman becomes a mother-in-law, she will embarrass her daughter-in-law. This is the pattern of "women are embarrassed women", and family internal friction is very obvious.
Second,If a woman can't manage her money well, the family will become poor, and there is no guarantee for the old age life of the couple. The lonely appearance is distressing and hateful.
Thirdly,If a woman is not faithful to her feelings, then the man will not have the spirit to work hard to live. Once a man breaks the jar and breaks it, or simply abandons the family, the family is a complete failure.
Fourth,If a woman is not industrious enough, there is no way to support the whole family, and a man makes money while taking care of the housework, taking care of both sides, and neither side can manage well.
Husband and wife are a balance, before marriage, pay attention to the right family, after marriage, pay attention to "go hand in hand", if not, then the man is destined to bear the unbearable weight.
The real success of a man is the success of "marrying a wife".
The ancients said: "Mother-in-law manages men, and her fame comes from the boudoir." ”
A man who is managed by a good woman is destined to get more fame and fortune.
Many boys, once they meet a woman they like, will immediately change their image and begin to become mature and hardworking.
Specifically, the following three types of wives are the forces behind a man's successful career.
First, an assertive wife is the stabilizer of the family.
At the end of the Qing Dynasty, there was a ** named Shen Baozhen, who married Lin Zexu's daughter Lin Puqing.
For a while, the Taiping army suddenly appeared and besieged Guangxin City.
The governor of Guangxin City is Shen Baozhen. But he happened to be out collecting food.
Lin Puqing called the ** in the city, pointed to the well at the door, and said: "If the city is broken, the bottom of the well is my place to stay." ”
* When he heard this, he was greatly moved, and gathered all his strength to protect the city and distribute food to the people.
In a hurry, Lin Puqing also wrote a letter to ask for help from the general soldiers of Yushan Town.
After seven battles, Guangxin City was defended. Shen Baozhen was also promoted.
Zuo Zongtang wrote a couplet to Lin Puqing: for the daughter of a famous minister, for the wife of a famous minister, Jiang Youzuo Yuanrong, and Mrs. Brocade have great achievements; Born in the Mid-Autumn Festival, passed away in the Mid-Autumn Festival, the horizon is bold, and the predecessor of the Yunshang Fairy Certificate.There is a stark contrast between an assertive woman and a "long hair and short knowledge". No matter what bad people and bad things you encounter, you can always deal with them properly, and men can rest assured when they go out; At all times, the family is also stable.
Second, a well-connected wife can always help a man solve his difficulties.
Li Bai wrote a poem "Nanliu Yelang Sent Inside".
"Yelang is resentful and left his home, and the sound in the Mingyue Building is sparse. The spring of the northern wild goose is exhausted, and the south is not allowed to read the chapter. ”At the low point of his life, what Li Bai remembered was his wife Zong. And what he got out of the trough was also by his wife's strength.
It is necessary to understand that men's socialization is too rough, and women's participation in socialization happens to make up for men's shortcomings with delicacy.
There are also many women who borrow the strength of their mother's family to open up the situation of their husbands' lives.
For success in life, ability accounts for 20% and social interaction accounts for 80%. If women can account for more than 40% of the social situation, it will be much easier for men to open up their life situations.
Third, the wife with perseverance insists on taking everyone to the future.
After reading the story of "Le Yangzi's wife and Meng's mother's three moves", you can draw a conclusion. Women are ruthless, more powerful than men.
When men can't hold on, women's encouragement is particularly important; When men are swaying from side to side, women's advice is crucial.
All the bright prospects are the result of perseverance. Boiling is more of the power of "pillow wind" and the result of love.
In the Book of Songs, it says: "Husband and wife are together, like drums and harps." ”
In the countryside, you carry water, I loosen the soil; In the city, you start a business, I cook; In the factory, you work, I also work. There is no such thing as an unsuccessful one.
Of course, no matter how good a wife is, she also needs a man's care.
Women are like flowers, if men ignore them and beat and scold, they will also wither.
Men need to remember that investing in their wives is a surefire business.
If we struggle all our lives, the family is not rich, the children are not outstanding, there is still the love of husband and wife, and the family is stable, it is another kind of success.
I only hope that a lover will eventually become a family member, and a lover will be accompanied by loyalty.