The ancients said: "It is better to live a poor life than to be poor." ”
Born in a poor family, it doesn't matter, but I am afraid of being poor and dare not change my fate.
When interacting with people, we all want to get positive energy and benefit from it. In case you meet someone who is "poor", you should walk around and don't be infected by the other party.
In fact, people with their own poor appearance are easy to discern, and they put the following words on their lips. If you like to say something similar, please correct it right away.
"Why can I help you": blindly rejecting others will lose your connections and opportunities.
The poet Schiller said, "Opportunity is like a rough stone, which can only be reborn in the hands of a sculptor." ”A lot of opportunities, like the "metaphors" we write, are not obvious and need to be polished ourselves before they are revealed. If someone is always judging things by their appearance, it is easy to miss opportunities.
In the last years of the Qing Dynasty, the situation was turbulent, and ordinary people had a hard time. But some "banks" are thriving, and they are acquiring a lot of wealth and sitting on interest.
There is a bank called "Rishengchang Ticket Number", which is considered a large account in the capital.
* Before Zhang Zhidong became famous, he went to the owner of the ticket number and wanted to borrow some money.
The boss took out the ** register and found that there was no name of Zhang Zhidong on it, so he said, "Are you in a hurry?" I'll give it to you in three days."
The boss used the method of procrastination and politely rejected Zhang Zhidong.
A few years later, Zhang Zhidong became the governor of Liangguang, which made the "Rishengchang ticket number" regret it.
I am not related to him, so why should I help him? Such thoughts are in the minds of many people.
Remember, helping is love and fate.Our ancestors also had the rule of "saving the emergency but not the poor", and never let us refuse all help.
In the eighties of the last century, my family lived in the countryside. A merchant stayed at my house, and because he was short of money, his mother waived his accommodation fee.
Later, when our family went to town, the merchant went out of his way to find my mother. It turned out that he had opened a shop in the city and expressed his "willingness to lead the way in business". Although no one in my family does business, this road is firmly kept.
In the long run, no matter who you encounter asking for help, don't say no right away, but identify the situation and actively help those who are really in need.
Give others a certain benefit, and the debt will be left, and others will become your nobles in the future, and it will be much easier to change your fate.
"Everything is fate": Accepting fate early is to make excuses for your laziness.
I don't know when it began, more and more people believe in the pseudo-truth that "life should be like this".
To be a man, don't lie still at the age when you should struggle. The thunder in the sky can wake up the earth in spring, but it can't wake up the people who pretend to be asleep.
In the Northern Song Dynasty, there was a person named Fan Zhongyan, and when he heard the fame, you were like thunder. But what happened to his life may be more tragic than yours.
His father died very early, and his mother took him to remarry to the Zhu family.
In order to change his fate, he walked into Yingtian Academy, forced himself to calm down, and studied for five years. I couldn't stay up, so I poured cold water on my face, and slept in my clothes at night, just to get up and read at any time.
At the age of twenty-six, he fell into high school. Because without his support, he has been a petty official for a long time.
As a civil official, he also had the experience of leading troops to resist the Western Xia Kingdom.
When he became famous, he was not idle and founded a non-governmental charity - Fan's Yizhuang. Donate your money to help the poor.
Three years after the establishment of Yizhuang, Fan Zhongyan passed away.
It can be seen from this that he has been tossing all his life and has never accepted his fate.
To put it bluntly, he accepted his fate at a young age, but he was actually "lazy", he didn't want to do anything, and he didn't dare to face setbacks.If you've met someone who's lazy, there's bound to be something like this:A dorm room where everyone is sleeping, you wake up early, look weird, and go back to sleep. My mother used to say, "Go and do things, you can't make a hundred dollars a day, but you can make ten dollars." If you don't do anything, you will sit and eat. ”
When you have nothing to do, you can pick up waste and exchange it for a bowl of rice. **Can there be no way to live?
Saying "my life is hard" every day will really be hard because I have lost my fighting spirit. Change your words and say, "I'll have a way," and the situation is reversed. Although you don't know what will happen in the future, the pace has not stopped, and this is the principle of "people move to live".
"Don't take it for nothing, don't take it": love to be greedy and cheap, and it seems that the pattern is very small.
In the workplace, it is often said that "if you don't eat public food, you won't eat it for nothing"; The old people often go to participate in activities and get small gifts, which is very happy; As a child, when you get your parents' money, you don't care about it at all.
There are always people who think, "Everyone is like this, why can't I be like this". Seeing others get benefits, and not taking a little bit of it yourself, you feel like you're losing money. Such an idea is actually too little.
Throughout the ages, we have all admired the moral rule of "leaving no stone unturned". This shows that it is not possible to get something for no reason, and there is fraud in it.
During the Jin Dynasty, Tao Kan became an official in charge of the fishing grounds, and someone sent him fish. Tao Mu immediately returned the fish and said, "I'm ashamed of you."
After sending the fish away, Tao Kan established an image of honesty and integrity, and his official fortune was prosperous.
Those little bargains, like invisible nets, the more you get, the tighter you sleep. How can you change such a life?Literary scholar Feng Menglong said"When you seek happiness, you are not happy, and when you get cheap, you lose cheap." ”People who want to make a lot of money will settle the accounts, but they will not calculate the cents; People who mix well in the workplace know what their job is, and they will also help people around them do something; People who can manage the family will not ask for money at home.
Lu Xun once wrote: "As for people, being able to stand upright is naturally a great progress; Being able to speak is naturally a big progress; Being able to write and compose is naturally a big progress. However, it also fell, because then it also began to speak empty words. ”Originally, being able to speak is a sign of human progress, but some people open their mouths to say negative energy, which makes people go downhill all the time.
The mouth is the door of blessing and misfortune, take care of it, open your mouth to send blessings, silence is gold.
If fate is too bitter, then speak well, cheer yourself up, and give strength to others.