Youyou, will it be difficult for you to understand some couples?
In the past two days, I swiped a chat record, the two of them have a "hello" on the left and a "thank you" on the right, which is so polite that it feels strange.
First Look: This is talking to customer service, right?
Second Look: Oh, the background of the chat is a wedding photo, it must be that the husband and wife have quarreled, and it is weird in yin and yang.
As a result, when I read the comments, many people and their other half talk like this every day;
This is not a husband and wife at all, it's just that I've been sleeping in the same bed for two years, and I'm still not familiar with my husband.
We have seen a lot of incompatible couples.
Unfamiliar couples, that's so new.
Other couples show life, it's all intimacy;
Unfamiliar couples toss and turn, all of which are alienated.
Other couples fight and make trouble every day, scratching farts for each other to smell;
The unfamiliar couple replied to the message 20 minutes late, saying "Sorry for not responding to your message in time." ”
The workplace atmosphere is not as serious as the family atmosphere of the two of them.
Other couples get married in the beautiful cave room, and greet each other's whole family when they quarrel;
After the unfamiliar couple gets married, they ask each other, "Where are you going?" I'll find someone to send you. ”
Make a kind of relationship, the relationship between the two people is finally legal, but it doesn't seem to feel so legitimate.
Nalan Xingde said that "if life is only as first seen", unfamiliar couples really do every day like the first time they meet.
Someone misremembers the other party's work unit, and someone misremembers the other person's birthday;
Some people have even forgotten each other's names.
But no one gets angry, because that's not how they relate.
In terms of money, ordinary couples don't distinguish between you and me, and even many of them go to court because they don't distinguish between you and me.
Unfamiliar couples don't have this concern at all, they are afraid of taking advantage of each other and owe favors.
The accounting is accurate to thirty decimal places, and the other party's 100 points are consciously transferred, and the other party must come back if he transfers five cents less.
Other couples don't quarrel and rely on business, and unfamiliar couples don't quarrel and rely on distance, and there is no way to scold.
Seeing this, do you think that distance produces beauty, and that as long as you don't quarrel, it's not bad to be an unfamiliar couple?
They weren't always so amiable.
The place where the conflict occurred, mainly in bed.
Lying on the bed, both of them felt that the other was the superfluous one.
Breaking the ice between husband and wife has become the most difficult thing to complete, and they want to call the police and arrest each other if they move more.
Regarding how unfamiliar couples have children, "Into Science" has to shoot five episodes.
The two are strangers but do not delay the birth of children, and having children does not delay the husband and wife to continue to be unfamiliar.
If you are pregnant, the man will only say "congratulations";
The child's father buys something for the child, and the woman also says "thank you";
Women are like single mothers, and men don't have as much of an existence as their uncles.
Looking at this sexually constricted couple, I wonder how 1.4 billion people came to be.
Although living under the same roof and sleeping in the same bed;
They are not involved on the physical level, and there is no communication on the spiritual level.
The WeChat dialog box slides up 3 meters, and there is only help to get the express;
In addition to looking at each other, being silent, and only saying "What are you eating?" ”
All happiness and sadness in life will not be shared with each other;
When it comes to something urgent, the first person who comes to mind is not the other party.
They jokingly refer to each other as "roommates" and "teammates", but it seems that the actual relationship is more distant than that.
"Husband and wife" is more like adding a name to two people who have nothing to do with each other.
There is no more color than the legal significance.
None of them have any resentment about such a relationship, and even these young people have a kind of innocence:
Isn't it a happy thing to have a family of your own?
I followed the question, why didn't it feel right?
If you look through the comments, you can find that most of the couples who don't know each other know each other on a blind date.
Even if you know each other in love, you are introduced by colleagues or friends, and you don't get along too much, and you decide to be together depending on the matching conditions.
Without exception, they quickly got married and had children quickly.
Ordinary people need to think deeply before deciding, they seem to just want to get it done.
A while ago, a couple was on the news, and they completed a blind date marriage and pregnancy within a year;
The elders in the comments are applauding, praising newcomers as winners in life.
If you ask the person concerned, how did you get married to someone you don't know;
They will say "it's time", "the family is urging it", "the other party's conditions are very good".
It's quite like an arranged marriage, but it's just that I wrapped myself out.
Today's young people seem to be more anxious to become a standard "adult".
When you reach a certain age, a life list comes out of thin air;
Get married, have children, and have another ......There's everything on this list, it's just no emotion.
They are in a hurry to put a mark on their life list and to complete their socialization.
Ignorant and understanding to enter an intimate relationship that can no longer be fake, but also to create a beautiful picture of husband and wife;
just to show others, explain to parents, and explain to outsiders;
As for yourself? When others say they're doing well, that's good.
But life is made up of every minute and second that two people get along;
In the face of a long married life, the approval of others is just a cold residue, which cannot fill the hollow intimacy.
The essence of the problem will come up on its own, and it will be cold to those who do not want to face it.
may be because I have seen a real warm relationship between husband and wife, or it may be that I suddenly fell in love with someone;
But in the end, most of them are "Husband and wife live together in the end" to dissolve everything;
Then calmly tell some things that seem rather frightening to the unmarried.
So there was "my husband is out of love, I don't know how to comfort him".
So there is "I hate my teammates, I want to vomit when I see him".
So there is "each to his own play, but not to divorce".
"Marital relationship" itself is a gender-neutral word;
Loving people give it a happy interpretation, and those who disrespect it give it a terrifying appearance.
Although we talked about not urging marriage, not getting married because of urging marriage, we talked about it for several years;
But seriously, when you get older, you don't know that the pressure to stay single or divorce is sometimes greater than being in a fake marriage.
When you reach a certain age, if you have been divorced, you will be suspicious of what is wrong with being divorced, and you will never be married.
We spend more time dealing with external noises and rarely quiet to think about what we really want.
All the voices are telling us what is good in this environment;
But no one tells young people to think about what is good for themselves and to find the "good" that belongs to them.
We dare not persuade everyone to refuse to follow the crowd;
I only hope that everyone can have their own courage;
Have the courage to enter into marriage for love, and also have the courage to live happily alone.