A junior high school girl in Qingyuan, Guangdong Province committed suicide by jumping off a building, and I also saw a lot of comments below, all kinds of voices, whenever we see such reports, I believe many people will say that the psychological quality of today's children is very poor, and the ability to withstand pressure is too weak.
I might have thought the same thing before my child went to junior high school, but since my child went to junior high school, my mind has completely changed and I don't judge such things lightly.
Because after my child went to junior high school, the children I saw were very lucky, and I myself felt very tired, every day the children got up at 6 o'clock in the morning, forced to eat at school at noon, and sometimes let self-study during the lunch break, and the children in the first day of junior high school left school at 7 o'clock in the evening, and the children in the third year of junior high school left school later at night, and left school at 9 o'clock, and had to write homework after eating after returning in the evening.
I often see parents in the group, some parents ask other children what time is to finish their homework, why her children can write homework until more than 12 o'clock, my children write homework is quite fast, but it is also 10 o'clock, every day the children go to and from school to carry dozens of pounds of schoolbags, not an exaggeration at all, see the children's learning and living routines every day, how much free time is left for the children?
There is also a lively class group every day, every day the teacher sends the children's learning scenes, what classes which students speak, which students' homework is not completed, which students perform well, which students have good test scores, these are directly announced in the group.
I am most afraid of the teacher beating ** or letting parents talk to the school, I was called by the teacher ** once, is to let the school talk, I thought it was a big deal, startled, it turned out that the child was talking to a few classmates in a self-study class, a few classmates joked, causing the class to laugh, the teacher said that this nature is particularly bad, we must teach a good lesson, said that the child is still good at learning, the future goal is to go to a good school, this performance is not good.
When I arrived at the school, the head teacher brought the child over, saw the child's eyes were red, tears rolled in his eyes, the head teacher explained to me what happened, said that he was going to stop the child's class in the afternoon, think about it, let the child write a full page of review in front of the parents, the teacher has returned to the class in advance, write it and let the child go to her again.
After the teacher left, the child cried aggrievedly, I know my child better, he is not the kind of naughty child, nor is he the kind of extremely unproportionate, but the child has a weakness is that his self-esteem is particularly strong, and he usually can't stand a little grievance, he was going to quarrel with him, but I held back, I also think that this matter is nothing, is the child really big mistake? But I don't have this feeling, maybe I really have too low requirements for the child, I helped him wipe his tears, and said to him, every student will make mistakes, just know that the mistake is corrected, don't make similar mistakes again, and the teacher is strict with you is also for your good, the teacher values you more, has high expectations for you, and wants to be admitted to a better high school.
Afterwards, I think about children of this age is the time when the mind is immature, but also the age of rebellion, what children experience, we don't take the way adults deal with things to ask them, since the child went to junior high school, I think the child is really tired, it is not easy, more tired than I go to work, every day shouting double reduction, can reduce **, but there is no child at home to go to school can not experience, what is the current education education, I can't say how the school teachers are, And most of the time you have to cooperate with the school and teachers unconditionally, and what the school says is what it is.
When I read too many news reports that there are many children going to extremes, and then look at the current living and learning environment of the children, you can't blame the children entirely, there is a fundamental reason for such a thing, is it a problem for the entire education community? Problems for educators? Or is it a parent's problem?
Maybe my pattern is small, my children I love, I am responsible, I don't expect others to be out, in the current environment, I don't want my child to be more productive in the future, what famous universities to be admitted, as long as he is physically and mentally healthy, positive thinking.
I don't want to show the real situation of children's learning and life, and I hope that all walks of life will be more considerate and concerned about today's children, after all, they don't have adult thinking and problem-solving skills.