I read a very sad sentence: "People have backgrounds, but I only have my own back." ”When people reach a certain age, they will find that being helpless is a process that must be experienced in life.
When I was a child, I could snuggle up in my parents' arms and be coquettish, as long as it was what I wanted, my parents would do their best to do it.
When you grow up, your parents are slowly getting older, and they are stumbling when they walk, how can they continue to send you to distant places.
Whoever you rely on, you can't rely on it, you can only rely on yourself.
Your parents are good to you, but they can't hold an umbrella for you for the rest of your life.
Seen such a story.
A father, early in the morning, called his son from afar, saying, "Son, it's raining over there." ”
The son looked out the window, the sun was shining on the earth, and there was no sign of rain. However, he still believed his father's words and brought an umbrella.
I took the subway to work, and as soon as I got out of the subway, the rain suddenly fell. Most of the people are standing at the entrance of the subway, at a loss. But he calmly opened the umbrella and walked into the wind and rain.
On that day, he was very happy - in his invisible hometown, with his parents worried, always paying attention to the changes in the weather, worrying about the development of the situation.
Reality, life, but not so poetic. When you grow up and walk into a strange city, the relationship between your parents and you will gradually become estranged. It is more likely that the parents are too old to walk, and they don't need you to take care of them, which is already precious.
One day, you will encounter such a situation: walking on a strange street, suddenly encountered heavy rain on the way. You ran hard for a while, but the rain was getting heavier and heavier, and you had to stop and hide under the eaves on the side.
The people who were under the same roof, waiting for the people who came one after another to deliver the umbrellas, all left. It's just you, you've been waiting, looking forward to the rain stopping sooner.
When everyone is **, you feel lonely, like a lonely lamb, more and more scared, and really want to cry.
In life, you must always be prepared to walk alone.
Life is cruel, but there is always a warm corner of your own.
There is a girl named Ren Yueli, who is known as "Xidan Girl".
She was born into a poor family, and her parents were sick and could not be relied upon. In order to make a living for her family, at the age of 16, she came to Beijing to work in a restaurant alone.
Because she was still young and honest, a month later, the restaurant owner fired her and did not pay her.
In order to survive, she became a wandering singer, a guitar on her back, and used Xidan's underground passage as a stage.
It is said to be singing, but it is actually begging elegantly. Life is extremely difficult, and half of the income has to be mailed home every month to make my parents live a little better.
In 2008, a passing netizen casually took a picture of her singing and posted it on the Internet. Just overnight, her singing voice was recognized by millions of people. More people, running over to help her.
Later, she walked to the stage of the Spring Festival Gala.
"If life goes so far as this, there will be no me from now on, I will find an angel to love you for me, I believe that you are still here, never left, my love is like an angel guarding you. Believe that as long as there is love in your heart and you pursue it obsessively, angels will come.
In fact, many people have the experience of "Xidan Girl", but it is just not as exciting as her.
When I was a child, my family was very poor, and leaving school meant that I was working on my own. Strange streets, strange people, and gratuitous ridicule must be accepted.
It is also possible that before you are an adult, you have to support the whole family, just like an adult, straighten your waist and say "I can do it". For example, Hong Zhanhui in Xihua County, Henan Province.
Someone praised him like this: "In his eyes, as long as life exists, there are no ups and downs that cannot be overcome." She studied in poverty and became self-reliant in hardship. Today, he is still weak, but mentally he has always been strong. ”Sometimes, we have to live the life of a beggar as a "beggar prince". Imagine yourself as a hero like "Qiao Feng", the world is big, even if you are looked down upon, you have to stand up to the sky. Survival is the first priority, and then you can think about love, houses, cars, poetry, and distant places.
Life has hit you hard, don't be afraid, it's crossing you.
There is no place that is your safe haven, then in your own arm, is.
No matter how small the umbrella is, as long as it is your own, then it is better than sending someone under the fence.
It is better to ask for others than for ourselves, but we have to ask for others.
At the end of the 90s of the last century, I worked in Dongguan.
Through the introduction of my fellow villagers, an electronics factory in Qishi Town took me in.
Working day and night made me feel very lost. But I persevered, thinking to myself, it would be good to wait until the end of the month and pay my salary.
Unexpectedly, the factory had to deduct one month's salary as a deposit, and pay wages normally from the third month.
By the third month, I found that my salary was 200 less than that of my co-workers.
The worker said, "You, you've been cheated by your fellow countrymen." He wants to take a commission from your salary. ”
At that moment, I was angry, but quickly calmed down. After all, I am not familiar with Dongguan, and if I didn't have the care of my fellow villagers, I might have been wandering.
People are under the eaves and have to bow their heads. If you have to hide under someone else's umbrella, then you can only obey someone else and follow suit.
Writer Zhang Ailing wrote an article "Under the Umbrella".
"It was raining heavily, some people were wearing umbrellas, some people were not carrying umbrellas. Those who do not have an umbrella go under the umbrella to hide from the rain, which is somewhat hidden, but the edge of the umbrella is surging down the water, which is more fierce than the rain outside. People huddled under the edge of the umbrella have their heads sparsely wet. ”I finally understood that people who don't have an umbrella would rather walk in the rain, and don't stretch out chopsticks for dishes that don't belong to you.
If you go to befriend others, you will get benefits on the surface, but in fact, you will be used by others, or even framed to blame.
On a rainy day, a traveler hid under the eaves and asked for help from a Zen master passing by with an umbrella: "Wait for me, take me for a ride." ”
The Zen master said, "You have an eaves, I have an umbrella, and each of them is well." ”I deeply believe that life is hard, and the only way to cross it is to cross it.
It is not the opponent who can defeat you, but your "dependent mind". Don't expect anyone to be truly strong. Facing a strange city, looking at an unfamiliar face, there is nothing to be afraid of, as long as you work harder than others, you will excel.
If you're unlucky, wait a bit, the rain will clear and the sky will be clear, and even if there is no rainbow, there will be a refreshing wind.
When the winter of life comes, you will lie dormant, and when the spring thunder sounds, you will wake up and quietly go vigorous.
The spring water, through the winding valley, has the beauty of the spring tinkling; A person who regards the trough as a place to rise has his own umbrella.
It's nothing, you're not brave, no one is strong for you.
Nothing, the city is very windy, and lonely people go home against the wind.
Nothing, people who run with tears are the most handsome.