No man shall be disguised, and no sea shall be measured.
In the Tao Te Ching, it says: "Difficult things in the world must be done easily; The big things in the world must be done in detail. ”No matter how big your belly is, how much knowledge you have, and what your status is, it must ultimately be reflected in the details of life.
I like a quote"Look at the face to know the character, look at the eyes to know the character, eat to see the tutor, dress to see the aesthetics, the figure to see the life." ”
Judging people by their appearance seems superficial, but in fact, it has another deep meaning.
People with outstanding temperament and are very talented.
As the saying goes: "There is poetry and books in the belly." ”A person who doesn't like to read, as soon as he opens his mouth, he says vulgar things, and yellow jokes fly all over the sky. When it comes to the key point, the spit flies, and the spittle stars spray on other people's clothes and arms, and they don't realize it.
Such a person, even if he looks like a natural beauty, will also be annoying.
In fact, with the change of age, no matter how beautiful people are, they will become old and ugly. When there are wrinkles on the face and gray hair, no matter how you maintain it, you can't stop the traces of time, and once you remove your makeup, your appearance will be even uglier.
Zeng Guofan said: "People's temperament, because of their nature, is difficult to change, but reading can change their temperament." ”Only reading can make a person's spirit fuller and speak more elegantly. Even if it is a critic, it will carry a gentle air and be able to guide the way.
For example, if a child makes a mistake, the vulgar person will glare at him or slap the child. Elegant people will say: "What is the mistake of **? We need to ** it. ”
Iyengar, the founder of yoga, said, "There are women whose knowledge is in their faces, and all their wisdom flashes in their eyes." ”
It is true that a person with a good temperament has more wisdom, even if he is very old, he can still give people a feeling of standing out from the crowd, or he can feel an aura.
I love clean people and focus on things.
Yang Lan once said: "No one has the obligation to discover your excellent inside through your sloppy appearance." ”I have a classmate, Lao Zhang, who works as a manager in the personnel department of an electronics company, and the company recruits and promotes a group of employees every year. Therefore, he can be regarded as a person who has read countless people.
Once, Lao Zhang was ordered to go to a vocational university to recruit employees. Looking at the resumes of the students, they are all excellent. Some vocational schools, in order to make students look for jobs more decently, will deliberately improve their academic performance, or highlight the advantages of students, and ignore the shortcomings.
After two rounds of interviews, Lao Zhang selected twelve students - all clean people.
Lao Zhang said, but all dirty students, don't do it. With experience, people who love cleanliness, pay more attention to details, and have a higher desire for work.
With just a few minutes of interview time, who can see through a person's true knowledge? People who can answer fluently may be witty, not necessarily do their homework very well.
The ancients said, "Time will see people's hearts." However, it is difficult to achieve such a depth in interpersonal interactions, and the only way to do this is to look at the appearance and then make a judgment based on the first impression.Dressing up cleanly not only makes you more comfortable, but also takes care of each other's feelings. In the workplace, a clean person is likely to have habits such as tidying up and being good at grooming, have a passion for the unit, and have an in-depth understanding of the work.
A person who knows etiquette pays attention to virtue.
There is such a story in the Book of Rites: During the Spring and Autumn Period, the mother of Ji Sun, the minister of Lu State, passed away, and Lu Aigong went to condole. Confucius's two ** Zengzi and Zigong then arrived.
The gatekeeper said that Lu Aigong was in the house, and the others were temporarily in the house.
Zeng Zi and Zigong walked aside, tidied up their appearance, and then went in. Lu Ai saw it and took the initiative to do it.
At the end of the article, it is written: "The way to decorate is far away." ”Tidying up the appearance is also a very important thing, it is respect in the bones, and you can't help but do it.
In fact, it is a moral rule to make your appearance clean and tidy, wear different clothes and shoes, and comb different hairstyles according to different occasions.
For example, when an old man dies, the younger generations have to wear a white cloth on their heads, which is filial piety; At the birthday party, dress up festively; To condolence the people who have failed to start a business, look dignified, and don't frolic.
In society, many moral rules are related to clothing and people's expressions. Those who are too casual will lose such morality.
People who are always smiling and have big hearts.
There are many grievances in the rivers and lakes, and there is a grudge and hatred.
Those people with small bellies and chicken intestines, when they encounter enemies, they will definitely be angry, and even want to step forward and fight with each other to vent their dissatisfaction.
A person who is good at forbearance always keeps his composure, can talk and laugh with his enemies, and what is more valuable is that he has forgotten his hatred and does not mind being friends with each other at all.
In "Romance of the Three Kingdoms", after Wu harmed Guan Yu, Liu Bei of Shu was angry and raised troops to invade Wu, but he was burned down by a fire and suffered heavy losses.
After Liu Bei's death, Zhuge Liang took the initiative to show weakness and formed an alliance with Wu again, in exchange for the peace of Shu.
There is such a sentence in the "Historical Records": "A gentleman is virtuous, and his appearance is like a fool." ”A truly virtuous person has always been humble and always asks for advice from others, and looks stupid.
Who can say that they are the best people in the world? It is really not advisable to settle the grievances, and it is really not advisable to confront others, it is better to smile, the grievances are left to yesterday, and today to make friends again.
One of the presenters said that if it's too late to put on makeup, keep smiling. A smile is the best cosmetic product, isn't it?
No matter what happened to him, how difficult life is, and the person who can still laugh shows that he has a big pattern. At the same time, laughter will also quickly shorten the distance between people, gain trust, and facilitate cooperation and cooperation.
Conclusion. Born from the heart. From a person's appearance, we can gain insight into his life pattern, attitude towards others, inner realm, living conditions, true emotions, etc.
The body is skinned, and it is received by the parents. Eyes, ears, figure, etc., at the beginning, inherited the genes of their parents, but when people reach a certain age, their appearance is the result of their own maintenance and transformation.
People who are naturally beautiful will become bloated, have dirt on their faces, and have greasy skin if they don't take care of their bodies.
Therefore, I support everyone to judge people by their appearance when interacting with each other.
May you and I always groom our appearance, and we can be the same on the outside.