Pity the hearts of parents all over the world.
Hope, hope, that the children are grown up and can travel alone, but the parents are old.
The love of parents is undoubtedly great, but unfortunately not all children can understand it. Even because of love and hate, children feel that their parents do not give enough.
If one day, when you are old, you find that your children have become bad, and you don't care about your parents' old age, what should you do?
In "Lü's Spring and Autumn Period", it is written: "The ancient monarchs and the people, benevolence and righteousness govern them, love and benefit them, and faithfulness guides them, so as to eliminate their disasters and think of their blessings." ”Ancient kings governed the country by means of benevolence, love and profit, loyalty and trust, and the elimination of harm for the people. As a parent, compared to the family, isn't it the king of a country? Learn from the wisdom of the ancients, put yourself in the right position, take the initiative, and no matter how bad the family is, it can be saved.
Govern children with kindness and righteousness, and awaken their conscience with love.
"Caigen Tan" wrote: "Don't blame people for small mistakes, don't send people's privacy, don't think about people's old evils, the three can cultivate virtue, but also can be far harm." ”No matter what happened in the past, don't talk about it, don't think that villains are heinous, if you do so, it is virtue in itself.
Many old people, once they have an opinion with their children, have been haunting and unwilling to forgive. In the eyes of the elderly, children who make mistakes will never be productive, and they will be raised in vain.
For example, a person who has been in prison re-enters society and has no relatives. His parents didn't accept him either, and he was homeless. In fact, at this moment, he needs the love of his parents the most, and after ideological transformation, he has the idea of being a new person, as long as he is guided a little and gives him a "way to live", life has the possibility of rising.
Don't "stick a stick*** Children are the hearts and blood of their parents, and this fact cannot be changed. Instead of resentment, it is better to accept, and with benevolent love, let the children feel that the parents have never given up on themselves.
At the beginning of man, nature is good", as long as children find their original selves, their elderly parents, they will be at ease.
Use a good life to induce children and help them start a business and become rich.
It costs money for children to be filial to their parents.
Very poor sons and daughters, with filial piety, have no choice. Especially for those daughters who marry far away, or children who work in other places, it costs thousands of yuan to return to their hometown once, which is embarrassing.
In addition, some children are well mixed and have a lot of money, and some children are always poor. After comparison, their psychology is very unbalanced, and the feelings between siblings are slowly estranged.
As a parent, you should help all your children to live a good life. Although I am old, I always have life experience, work experience, and family savings, and I can make full use of them and turn them into "capital".
My cousin, Lao Zhang, gave birth to three sons. The eldest son works in Dongguan and has not improved. The year before last, he quit his job to start a business and lost all his savings. The other two brothers are unwilling to help, which is chilling.
Lao Zhang made some money and let his eldest son go home to plant ginger.
The father and son contracted more than 30 acres of land. Last year, there was a bumper harvest of ginger and a lot of money was made.
The children are rich, the parents' faces are bright, and the pension has the strength to rely on. Guide your children to set off in the direction of happiness, and this big family will always flourish.
Use family rules to bind your children and reflect on yourself at all times.
In "Zengguang Xianwen", it is written: "Filial piety gives birth to filial piety, and disobedience gives birth to disobedient children." ”If your parents' character is not good, don't expect your children to be filial to you; Parents often count their children, so they should not expect family harmony. A good family style is inherited from generation to generation.
When children have become bad and have no sense of responsibility for the family, parents should reflect on themselves instead of shirking their responsibilities. No matter how old the parents are, they must not "rely on the old and sell the old" and talk about their past achievements, let alone use this to belittle their children.
On the "China Youth Network", there is a story: Lao Li, who lives in Daxing, suddenly found that a fixed deposit certificate was missing, which was his hard-earned pension money.
Lao Li called the police, and through investigation, it was found that the money was "taken away" by his son. In order to let his son change his ways, Lao Li demanded that his son be held accountable and let him get the lesson he deserved.
As the saying goes, "A loving mother raises a bad child; Filial piety comes out from under the stick. "Parents who are overly kind will only be bullied by their children again and again, and raise their children into giant babies; Being strict with children may seem cruel, but it is actually true love.
Help your children make friends and be kind to those around them.
The ancients said: "Teaching ** is like raising a daughter, and the most important thing is to be strict in and out of the relationship." If one approaches the bandits, it is an impure seed in the quiet field, making it difficult to plant Jiahe for the rest of his life. ”When planting, weeds should be removed; When raising children, remove the little people around them.
Those who are close to Zhu are red, and those who are close to ink are black. When a child becomes bad, not only should he educate his children, but also observe who is around him and whether he has joined an unreliable circle.
For example, if the son joins the circle of gambling and stealing, after the parents know about it, they should take measures immediately, preferably - one pot and uproot.
Dismantle the vicious circle and advocate the circle of positive energy, and the living environment of children will be better.
At the same time, treat your daughters-in-law and sons-in-law well and don't treat them as outsiders. From the day your children get married, your family grows and the landscape changes. The division between "inside and outside" is too obvious, and the small family of children is not peaceful.
If you want your children to be good to you, you have to see whether the faces of your daughter-in-law and son-in-law are good, which cannot be ignored.
Conclusion. Feng Menglong, a writer in the Ming Dynasty, said: "The ancients had medicine in their hearts, and their hearts were true in their hearts." ”
It is easy to destroy a person, as long as you keep degrading him; Saving a person is even more difficult, it requires endless love, and on the basis of emotional investment, money is invested.
As a parent, helping your children is equivalent to helping yourself. Only by educating the children well and making the children's families rich, can they truly "rely on the elderly".
From the depths of the heart, pull out the poor roots, and the spring of life will come.
No one is perfect, and helping children to follow the right path is the greatest merit of parents.