In the workplace, no one can guarantee that every leader will like it, after all, the situation of "once a son of heaven and a courtier" happens from time to time.
It's best to be appreciated by your leader, but what if your leader doesn't like you? After all, the choice is in the hands of the leader, and he is passively beaten? That's impossible.
It's not uncommon to hear people say, "I just like to see you, I can't get used to seeing me, and I can't get rid of me." ”
You can also do it, although the leader doesn't like you, but he just can't kill you. Although it is likely that you will be eliminated under the leadership of the leader, there is always a reason to put it on the table, as long as there is no deep hatred, such an effect can basically be achieved.
If you are experiencing such a dilemma, the following two aspects will help you a lot.
Stand firm, then climb higher"It's not wrong to go to this truth, especially when the leader doesn't like you, you must first make yourself stand firm, and then gradually change. From three aspects, the leader "can't" start easily.
1.Stay calm and don't fall into the trap easily
The leader can't get used to you, and will always force you to leave in various ways, so if you can't stand it and leave impulsively, it happens to be as he wants.
In this case, we must stay calm, what the leader says, I may not listen, but what the leader says wrong, I will definitely go back.
The leader just wants to squeeze you, not to damage your face, and even if the leader wins, it is a loss. For people in the workplace, there is no shame in losing, and it is more glorious to win.
You're right, I'm silent, it's my business to change it, of course, it's best to correct it, so as not to leave a handle against you in the future. But if you're wrong, then it's up to who can't get off the stage.
Although the outcome of 10,000 eggs colliding with the stone will not change, at least there are traces of eggs on the stone, which does not necessarily hurt the root, at least it is not beautiful.
Leaders will naturally weigh the pros and cons, and will use other routines, so it is important to stay calm at this time, and never make a decision that you regret on impulse.
2.Learn to reject unreasonable work arrangements
If the leader does not give up and continues to suppress you, he will definitely arrange some "unreasonable" work, for example, increase your work intensity, and let you do a lot of trivial work and some work outside of duty.
After all, there is such a vague content in everyone's job responsibilities: complete other tasks assigned by the leader. This kind of unquantifiable, vague thing makes you do it reasonably, and it makes sense if you don't do it.
A typical situation is to give you more work than you can do, make you make mistakes, and then use this as an opportunity to take you under the knife.
Give yourself an objective evaluation, refer to the job responsibilities, and the completion of the work within the responsibilities is not negotiable, after all, it is the value of your own existence, and it is also the premise of standing firm.
If you exceed your responsibilities and abilities, you should also seek truth from facts, don't think that you can give the leader a good look, because the information between the superior and the subordinate is not equal, and you may not be able to see what the superior can see, which seems to be a challenge, but in fact there is a huge pit ahead.
Especially when you know that the leader doesn't like you and can't get used to you, refusing unreasonable work is a more effective way to protect yourself.
3.Be strong inside and keep a safe distance
It's definitely not a wonderful thing for a leader to dislike themselves, and some people will try to make their presence in front of the leader in a flattering way, or a way to show their abilities, as if this way can turn the situation around.
In fact, once the leader doesn't like you, if it is not due to misunderstanding, there is a high probability that it will not be alleviated, after all, the leader has more choices, while the subordinates have no choice.
In this case, it is most appropriate to keep a safe distance, do what you have to do well, and try not to let the leader grab the handle. Don't deliberately please, and you don't need to show it specifically, just be normal.
You know, work is not to make anyone like yourself, but to make money or realize your own value, as for the leader who doesn't like this, treat it with a normal heart.
If you do it, in fact, the anxiety of the leader is more than yours, this kind of person who is neither humble nor arrogant, and has a strong heart is often the most headache, but that is not something that an excluded person should consider.
When you stand firm, it is possible to "fight back" and gradually reverse the situation at a disadvantage. This is a change from the inside out, and only a change in oneself can change the situation.
1.Do not have any illusions about the leadership
Since the leader doesn't like it, he naturally has his reasons, no matter what the reason, once this situation occurs, there is no need to have illusions.
Like the leaders mentioned earlier have more options, while subordinates don't. Don't think that anyone can help you, because in addition to your closest relatives, what can really help you is always based on your value. This has nothing to do with the quality of interpersonal relationships, but is caused by the nature of human nature to seek advantages and avoid disadvantages.
Once a leader hates someone, it is almost impossible to reverse unless the relationship is hard, the background is deep, and the leader does not know in advance.
Therefore, don't be inferior to please and cater to you, not only will you not change the status quo, but you will also embarrass others and practice yourself, why bother?
2.Enhance the value so that who can't ignore it
The workplace is Vanity Fair, after all, it is a place of profit, as long as the value is great enough, no one can ignore your existence, and neither can leaders.
Just like a well-known expert in the industry, the leader may not be used to it, but he will still "pretend" to look very respectful on his face, even if people don't do things, the leader has to provide for it, which is the value determined.
Of course, for most ordinary people, although they can't achieve such an effect, they can at least enhance their own value, so that others dare not despise it, and when the value attracts the attention of others, it is also a turning point to turn the situation around.
To put it bluntly, even the relationship between friends has a value exchange, not to mention the environment of the workplace, where value can determine most things.
3.Always be prepared, be a little patient, and seize the moment
As a professional person, you have competitors, and the leader also has his competitors, but the leader's suppression and exclusion of you is the object of his competitors, of course, the premise is that you are valuable enough.
Constantly improving one's own value is to be ready at all times, when the leader is targeting you, his competitors are also observing in the dark, and when they find that you have the ability to affect the balance, they may extend an olive branch.
A little patience, being suppressed by the leader, it is the time to see your ability to resist pressure, be a little patient, and when the opportunity arises, don't hesitate.
Opportunities are always fleeting, because people with higher ranks than you have more choices than you. Therefore, you must always be prepared, when the opportunity comes, the situation will naturally be reversed, especially when the competitor of the leader hands you an olive branch, and the situation will naturally be reversed.
In the mixed workplace, it is a good thing to be liked by the leader, and there is no need to be inferior and deliberately pleased if you are not liked by the leader. Although the leader is in a high position, no one dares to say that he covers the sky with one hand. Therefore, only by letting yourself stand firm can we turn the situation around, and we need to change from the outside in, and what we need more is to change from the inside out.
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