"Do You Know" has always been my favorite TV, and in that episode, the little grandfather actually sent Xiao Tao away and confessed his heart to Minglan . I can't help but recall the question that is often asked by the audience: Did Sheng Minglan really love the little grandfather?
I've thought about this question many times: Did they really love each other? Why aren't they together, and are regrets forever?
Once looked at it with a girl's mind, I thought that Minglan really loved the little grandfather, and marriage was another matter.
However, now I begin to suspect that maybe the word "love" between Sheng Minglan and the little grandfather cannot be carried at all, at most it is just a heartbeat, the release of hormones in the youth and the youthful longing of the girl.
The appearance of the male character is not clearly depicted in the play, but judging from the scene where the little grandfather played polo and caused a crowd of women to exclaim, he must have looked quite outstanding.
Although his reputation is not as much lace news as Second Uncle Gu, he shows a gentle and elegant appearance when talking to anyone, and his family background is quite good.
Objectively speaking, the little grandfather is the perfect object for girls to build love fantasies.
This is also why the first love of all the girls in the play is dedicated to the little grandfather. Will it still be given to Second Uncle Gu? His temperament and reputation can always instantly dispel the illusions of young girls and drag them directly into the trivialities of marriage.
It was the path that the girls knew they were heading for, but it wasn't what they expected.
The little grandfather is a little naïve, and this naivety will make the girls forget for a moment how difficult it is to marry him.
I think most of the women in the play have a mentality of "it's okay to look at it, and it's okay to be happy when you think about it".
In other words, the little grandfather is the object of the girls' love fantasies.
Therefore, no matter which girl it is, the relationship between them and the little grandfather is more like a mirage, and once they wake up and enter the real world, everything will quickly dissipate.
Minglan is no exception.
Unlike other teenage girls, other people's illusions can be easily shattered. Because the little grandfather himself has already destroyed their illusions.
But Minglan is different.
Imagine a man who is flocked to by thousands of girls, only to cast strange eyes on you, can you be completely unmoved?
Sheng Minglan is just a young girl, no matter how sober and wise she is, and then she will be the fate after marrying the little grandfather, it will be difficult for her to resist the impulse of her heart.
However, her heart was only short-lived.
Sheng Minglan sent the little grandfather knee pads, kept vigil, and watched the lamp lit for him, which was a manifestation of her silent promise of her heartbeat.
If it weren't for the little grandfather's constant pursuit, Sheng Minglan would not have the idea of "it's good to look at it".
It was the promise of the little grandfather that made Minglan can't stop, so that she almost let go of the insistence she has been holding on to herself, and secretly feels "lucky": Maybe I am indeed lucky.
However, fate soon sobered Sheng Minglan again.
After sobering up, like Mo Lan, like all the girls who have ever been moved, her girlhood with illusions about her little grandfather was completely shattered.
This is all the feelings between Sheng Minglan and the little grandfather.
That's why I said that they really can't carry the word "love" between them.
True love must contain more.
I've discussed with a few friends whether love is a short-lived heartbeat or a long-term companionship.
They think that love is instantaneous, and marriage is another matter, and it has nothing to do with love.
However, I have always believed that love is lasting.
In fact, I think all feelings need to stand the test of time.
The reason why Sheng Minglan and the little grandfather can't carry the word love is because they don't have any memories and no experience that can stand the test of time except for their hearts.
Therefore, this heartbeat cannot be condensed into love, as if the wind has blown away.
Sheng Minglan and Second Uncle Gu's relationship is different in the end, there is love between them because they have experienced incalculable ups and downs together, and they jointly support the road against all kinds of dangers.
They enrich each other's lives and become an inseparable part of each other.
Love your neighbor as yourself, that's what I've always believed in.
When we love someone, we actually love ourselves with whom we spend time. Therefore, we will devote more time to that person and have a deeper affection for him.
To put it more bluntly, what everyone loves most is their own life.
What everyone doesn't want to live up to is also their own life.
Letting go of the little grandfather, Sheng Minglan's life has hardly changed.
However, letting go of the old lady of the Sheng family and Second Uncle Gu, Sheng Minglan's life almost started again.
So what else is there to argue?
Sheng Minglan's love always belongs to Second Uncle Gu.
Wei Xiaoniang exchanged her life for Minglan for sobriety and patience, allowing her to learn to be a silent woman, and also taught Minglan a truth: as a woman, you can never waste your life at will.
Therefore, Minglan never lives up to herself and never gives her feelings easily.
Her love will always be given only to the one who allows her to live up to herself. Instead of sacrificing everything to pursue love, Minglan is more willing to accompany her life.
For the little grandfather, her feelings begin with her heart and end at her heartbeat, which has been clear in Minglan as early as in her heart.
I think it's good, really good, there's no one in this world who is worth the risk we take at all costs.
Good love doesn't need to take risks, it doesn't need you to live or die, but it just needs us to live well together, and if we really encounter difficulties, then face them together.
I want every woman to understand: the men who make you take risks are not worth having, and they often can't withstand the baptism of the years. The real men who want you to have your own life are likely to be the real partners.
I expect women to be as resourceful as Sheng Minglan: to live only for themselves in this life, not for others.