My name is Xiaowen, I am 30 years old this year, and I am the eldest daughter in the family. I have a younger brother and a younger sister.
My parents are both teachers, and they are very traditional, especially my mother, who attaches great importance to the respect of the elders and the inferior. My dad was more easy-going, but he didn't dare say anything in front of my mom. My grandfather has two younger brothers, and my youngest uncle is called Xiaohai, who is one year younger than me, and is considered an uncle of the same age.
We don't have a good relationship with my uncle's family, and every year during the Chinese New Year, my uncle's family doesn't come to see us. My mother said that this was because my uncle's wife was more picky and didn't let my uncle come to our house to pay New Year's greetings. Actually, I know that this is mainly because my mother has a bad relationship with my aunt.
My mother always felt that as the eldest sister, my uncle should come to visit us every year and exchange courtesies. But my uncle thinks that society is very open now, there are not so many rules, and there is no need to come to see us. My dad often persuaded my mom that my uncle was also busy with work, and he had to go back to his hometown when he came back for the Chinese New Year, so it was inconvenient to come to us.
But my mom just wasn't happy, she felt it was a shame to her. Before the Chinese New Year this year, my father proposed that I or my younger siblings go to my uncle's house to pay New Year's greetings to show filial piety and keep in touch with each other. My mother disagreed, saying that the eldest sister was me, and my uncle should come to see me, so I went to see them.
In this way, before the Chinese New Year this year, we did not receive New Year's greetings from my uncle's family. My mother was very unhappy, always saying that my sister-in-law was not sensible, and complained about how my father had such a younger brother back then. My dad was also very embarrassed, he actually had a good relationship with my uncle, but he couldn't help it.
On the day of the Chinese New Year, I was called up early in the morning by my mother and said that I was going to buy vegetables and come back to stew soup. I quickly got up and washed up, then sat down at the table and waited for my mother to come back.
After a while, the doorbell rang, and my dad went to open the door, and an old man with gray hair came in. I looked at it, who was it if it wasn't my uncle, how could he come to our house?
My dad smiled and helped my uncle to sit down on the sofa, and then enthusiastically poured tea and served it. I also hurried over to say hello, and my uncle smiled **: "Xiaowen has grown so big, does uncle still recognize you?" ”
I said happily, "Uncle, of course you know me, I used to play at your house when I was a child." ”
Uncle nodded and said, "Yes, I remember that you and Xiaohai often play together, and you two have the best relationship." ”
While talking, my mother came back with food. When she saw her uncle sitting in the living room, her face immediately changed. She coldly put the dish on the table and went into the kitchen without saying hello.
I can't say it in my heart, my mother will definitely be angry again. Dad was busy chatting with my uncle, and I went over to help Mom prepare the meal.
Sure enough, as soon as I entered the kitchen, my mother complained to my uncle: "Really, why didn't you say it in advance, you didn't come here, and I didn't prepare anything at home." He didn't want to think that today was the first day of the Lunar New Year, and he should come to visit his juniors, so how could he come empty-handed? ”
I hurriedly persuaded my mother, saying that it was very rare for my uncle to come to see us, and we should not care so much. Mom snorted and stopped talking.
Preparing the meal, our family sat around the table for Chinese New Year's Eve dinner. Mom's face is not good-looking, and she doesn't care about her uncle. My uncle was a little embarrassed and didn't dare to say much.
After the Chinese New Year's Eve dinner, my uncle said that he was going back. My dad sent him to the door, and I heard my uncle whisper to my dad, "When I first arrived downstairs in your community, I suddenly fainted and fell to the ground, but fortunately, there were security guards to help me up, otherwise I wouldn't have been able to enter your house." I may have a health problem and need to go for a check-up recently. ”
I chuckled in my heart, it turned out that my uncle came to our house because he was sick. My father also gently persuaded my uncle to go to the hospital for a check-up, and told my uncle to be careful on the road.
Closing the door, my dad said to my mom: "It's not easy for your brother to come to visit the New Year this year, he said that he fainted just after coming downstairs to us, it seems that there is something wrong with his body, and we should care more about him in the future." ”
My mother sneered: "What's the point of fainting, didn't I use my menstrual period every month to hurt so much that I couldn't straighten my waist?" It's hard for me to complain every day. It's just that he himself is not in good health, so he came to our house to join in the fun! ”
My dad and I were very sad to hear it, but we didn't expect my mom to be so ruthless. I advised my mother: "Mom, people do decline when they get old, this is the law." We should be considerate of our uncle, not complain about him. ”
My mother gave me a blank look: "What do you know about a little girl, when you and I are my age, you will know that what I said makes sense!" The next morning, my uncle's son Xiaopeng called ** and said that my uncle suddenly fainted at home last night and has now been sent to the hospital for rescue. The family is taking care of my uncle in the hospital, so let's go and pay a visit.
My dad said we'd go over right away, and I hurriedly went to pack my things. My mom didn't say a word.
When we arrived at the hospital, we saw that my uncle was already in the ICU. Xiaopeng told us that the doctor found out that my uncle had serious heart problems and needed immediate surgery, otherwise his life could be in danger at any time.
I felt very sad and blamed myself, if I had paid more attention to my uncle's physical condition yesterday, maybe I could have found the problem in advance, maybe he wouldn't have had to work so hard. My dad has also been comforting Xiaopeng and asked the doctor to operate quickly.
But my mother kept a straight face and didn't speak. After a while, she actually said to Xiaopeng: "What does your uncle's illness have to do with us, we are also very busy, you can handle it yourself!" ”
My father and I were surprised when we heard this, and quickly persuaded my mother: "Mom, human life is at stake, and we can't ignore it." ”
My mom was very angry and said to my dad, "He's so old, getting sick is a natural law, what's the matter with us!" Besides, yesterday he didn't come to our house to pay New Year's greetings, and today he came to our house when he was sick, is it intentional? ”
My dad and I were speechless, it turned out that my mother was holding a grudge against my uncle for coming to the house suddenly yesterday.
While we were arguing, Xiaopeng hurriedly ran over and said that his uncle was in critical condition and needed additional blood transfusion, but the hospital did not have enough blood reserves at the moment, and hoped that we could donate blood to save my uncle.
Without saying a word, I followed ** to draw blood. My dad also said that he could donate blood immediately. But my mother clasped her hands and said, "I'm not in good health, so I can't donate blood." ”
I was very anxious and said to my mother: "Mom, your health is so good, you have donated blood before, and your uncle is in danger at this time, you should take the initiative to donate blood!" ”
My mother sneered: "My blood is prepared for myself, why should I donate it to others for nothing?" ”
My dad and I had no choice but to donate blood first. Fortunately, my uncle's blood type and I matched, and my dad's blood was also stored first, waiting for my uncle's blood transfusion after the operation.
Finally, a few hours later, my uncle's surgery was completed. Xiaopeng came out and told us that the operation was successful, and my uncle was out of danger, but he still needed to observe and recuperate.
My dad and I both breathed a sigh of relief. My mom didn't seem to care about my uncle's situation at all. When we walked outside the ward, we found my uncle's wife and aunt sitting on a bench crying bitterly, and a crying little girl kneeling next to her.
It turned out that the little girl was her uncle's little granddaughter, who was only 5 years old this year. Uncle usually loves her the most, but now when she sees her uncle suddenly fall ill, the little girl is very frightened. I hurried over to hug her and whispered reassurance to her that her uncle would be fine.
My aunt wiped her tears and said to my mother: "Sister, it's all my fault, I didn't take good care of your brother, but fortunately I have the help of your whole family, otherwise I really don't know what to do." ”
My mother turned her head and said in a bad tone: "Since I know it's wrong, forget it, I still have something to do, go back first!" ”
My dad and I were embarrassed again. My aunt cried and grabbed my mom and begged her for forgiveness.
My mother shook off my aunt's hand and said coldly, "If something happens to my brother, I will never let you go!" ”
After that, my mom left angrily. My dad hurried after him and apologized to my aunt again and again.
When I got home, my mom went straight back to my room, and my dad and I looked at each other, not knowing what to say.
After some time, my uncle's body finally recovered. I called Xiaopeng ** to ask my uncle about the situation, and Xiaopeng said excitedly that after the doctor's examination, he found that his uncle's heart was not only repaired, but also became healthier and stronger than before!
I was also very happy to hear that, and it seems that we made the right choice to donate blood at that time. I told my dad the good news, and he was relieved. I also suggested that Dad tell Mom the news, that she should be relieved by now and that she could repair her relationship with her uncle.
But to my surprise, my mother not only didn't react, but also said angrily: "It's so useless to expect us to save him if he can survive such a small illness!" My father and I felt sad again, and it seemed that my mother still couldn't forgive my uncle.
After the Chinese New Year, another few months passed. One day, the doorbell rang suddenly. I went to open the door, and when I saw the people standing outside the door, I was so excited that I almost cried out.
It turned out to be an uncle and aunt! The family stood at the door with a smile on their faces, still holding large boxes of gifts and delicacies in their arms.
I hurriedly asked my uncle and his family to come into the house and sit down, and then ran to call my parents over.
When I saw my uncle, my mother's face was ugly, and she went back to her room without saying hello. My dad was a little embarrassed and was busy asking everyone to eat some fruit first.
My uncle chatted happily with me and said that he finally had time to visit us after he retired. He also praised me for growing up and being beautiful, and asked me to marry a good family in the future.
My aunt also enthusiastically took out the gifts one by one, all of which were snacks and clothes that my younger siblings and I liked to eat. I was so happy that I called my uncle and aunt sweetly.
While we were chatting happily, my mom walked out with a cold face. She didn't even look at her uncle, and said directly to my father, "You tell him not to come to our house in the future!" I never want to see him again! ”
My uncle and I were stunned. The uncle's face was visibly sad and embarrassed.
That's when I suddenly came to my senses. I understand that my mom has always been angry with my uncle, mainly because she doesn't mind being treated with the respect she deserves. But this kind of mindfulness is very illogical.
As juniors, we should not ask our elders to visit us, but should take the initiative to honor our elders. My uncle was able to come to see us, and he had already expressed his concern and care for our family, and as a junior, I should not only be grateful for my uncle's obligations and kindness, but also treat them with understanding and tolerance!