Miss Dan, a social ** celebrity, has finally opened up about her romance, and her new boyfriend is a fitness enthusiast with enviable eight-pack abs.
As Miss Dan, she has a perfectionist pursuit of love. I heard that her first love ended after seven or eight years because of some small things, such as the 99 paper cranes birthday gift seven years ago is now gone, or why she no longer accompanies her to watch the Legend of Sword and Fairy, or why she doesn't refuse to play with her when she works overtime. These seemingly trivial things became the fuse for their breakup.
Miss Dan believes that a man who truly loves her should do everything in his power to make her happy and satisfy all her needs, whether justified or unreasonable. And if the man has reservations about her love, then he will respond selectively to her requests.
Since breaking up with her first love, Miss Dan's relationship has been as diligent as a marquee, changing boyfriends on average every year, three months at a time, and then taking nine months to heal the emotional wounds. However, she never acknowledged that these brief romances were true love. Among these so-called "boyfriends", the most pitiful ones have never even held hands, and the most intimate ones are limited to kissing. It's not so much that Miss Dan has an emotional cleanliness fetish, but that she is too pretentious and critical of her feelings.
She often said, "I haven't decided to marry you, so why should I be intimate with you?" Why do I want to kiss, hug, hold hands with you? This seemingly independent remark actually exposes her ambivalence and confusion about love.
Who says you have to get married if you fall in love? If you don't like the other person, why accept his kindness? Let him pick you up and drop you off at work, invite you to dinner and watch movies, accompany you to be bored and go crazy, these seemingly sweet actions are actually torture for both parties. You let him get rid of his single status, but let him live as humble and helpless as a spare tire. Such love is like boiling water in a pot, which seems to be boiling hotly, but in fact it lacks real emotion and commitment.
Surprisingly, however, Miss Dan's romance with her eight-pack boyfriend didn't last long. In less than a month, they announced their breakup.
I asked Miss Dan why they broke up so soon. She spent about a cup of coffee complaining to me:
He always shows up! I said I would have dinner together, but I always let my pigeons go because of various impromptu dinners. Isn't that normal? ”
We have only been dating for a few days, and he changed my remarks to 'wife', and the text message** was full of babies, wives, and dear. Although it sounds very comfortable, I didn't think about marrying him, why did he call me that? ”
Just send me home, and send me upstairs! Who stipulates that when you send your girlfriend home, you must hug and kiss goodbye? I just don't like that! ”
I was a little speechless in the face of Miss Dan's complaints. I asked her, "Would you be happy if he broke your promise?" He notes, what happened to your dear? Now that they've sent you home, why not give you a hug? Are you too pretentious and picky about feelings? ”
It reminds me of my ex. We were together for a year, and she never had a boyfriend after the breakup. To put it nicely, she couldn't have found anyone better than me; To put it mildly, she jumped out of my pit and didn't want to be hurt anymore.
We lived together for a while that year; I offered to take her home to her parents; We've also shared good food and happy times together. However, in the end, we broke up because we had different needs and expectations for each other's relationships.
There are too many couples in this society who have broken up for similar reasons. There will always be one party in love who loves more deeply and pays more, but he does not get the corresponding return and feedback, so even if he is still in love, even if he has never been in love for a few years after the breakup, he will never look back, even if he is in love, he must say that he does not love.
Therefore, couples who love each other deeply, don't be fooled by the chicken soup text of "if a man really loves you", only those who have really experienced love or single life can understand the true meaning. If you love, you don't love if you don't love, you need to be sincere and communicative, not hypocritical and pretending. Don't wait for your lover to say to you, "I'm afraid my efforts won't match your hypocrisy." "Because that will only make each other more miserable and frustrated.