Blood kinship is the most precious treasure in life. The ancient Roman poet Horace once said, "Blood is thicker than water, and family affection is better than friendship." "Especially for Chinese, siblings are the closest people, they share the blood of their parents with us, experience the joys and difficulties of childhood with us, and share the joys and troubles of growing up with us. The relationship between brothers and sisters is a deep and innocent feeling, a relationship that can understand each other without words, and a relationship that can care for each other no matter how far apart they are.
The relationship between siblings is not static. Over time, we all have our own families, careers, and lives, and our values, lifestyles, and attitudes will differ. If we don't pay attention to business and communication, there will also be rifts and conflicts in the relationship between siblings, and even lead to the breakdown and injury of family relationships. Therefore, when the parents are gone, no matter how good the relationship between siblings is, there are two things to hide, remember!
The first thing is the individual's household income. Monetary interests are the biggest killer of family affection. Whether it is between siblings or other relatives, if money is involved, it often causes problems such as jealousy, resentment or borrowing, thus destroying the harmony and trust of family affection. Nobel once said, "Money is a double-edged sword, it can bring you happiness or disaster." "If you earn more than your siblings, you may be perceived as flaunting your wealth, pride, or ignorance, and your siblings may become hostile or jealous towards you and may even borrow or ask for money from you, putting you in an embarrassing and difficult situation. If your income is lower than your siblings, you may be perceived as a failure, laziness, or incompetence, and your siblings may develop contempt or sympathy for you, or even give you handouts or pointers, making you feel inferior and lost.
Therefore, when it comes to the topic of money, siblings should maintain a sense of proportion, do not easily disclose or show off their income, and do not care too much about or interfere with each other's income, so as to better maintain the balance and respect of family affection. Of course, if your siblings are really experiencing financial difficulties, you also want to do your best to help, but pay attention to ways and means so that you don't embarrass or lose dignity to the other person, and don't put yourself in an unbearable burden.
The second thing is the partiality of the parents. Parental preference is the greatest harm to family affection. Many parents consciously or unconsciously show a preference for a certain child when educating their children, which can cause inequality and unfairness between siblings, causing psychological trauma and resentment. Some siblings will attack and blame each other because of their parents' partiality, some siblings will give up on themselves or feel inferior because of their parents' partiality, and some siblings will be alienated and indifferent because of their parents' partiality, all of which will cause irreparable damage to the relationship between siblings.
Take Su Mingcheng and Su Mingyu in the TV series "It's All Good" as an example, their father Su Daqiang has always favored Su Mingcheng and ignored Su Mingyu, which made Su Mingyu feel neglected and unloved since she was a child, and she was also full of jealousy and hatred towards Su Mingcheng, and she even made trouble at Su Mingcheng's wedding, causing Su Mingcheng and his wife to break up. Although Su Mingcheng is his father's favorite, he is not happy, he has been under the pressure and expectations of his father, and he has always wanted to be understood and recognized by Su Mingyu, but he has not been able to communicate and reconcile with Su Mingyu, and their relationship has been in a cold and antagonistic state.
Confucius once said: "Brothers are on the wall, and they are insulted from the outside." Huang Zongxi also said: "Brotherhood is the foundation of the country and the cornerstone of the family." "Between brothers and sisters, we must have the concept of having a country and a family, do not attack and complain to each other because of the partiality of our parents, let go of the past, and have more vigor and nature. The partiality of parents may be unintentional or intentional, but their purpose is to hope that we can be happy and successful. We must understand and forgive the partiality of our parents, as well as the feelings of our brothers and sisters, not to let the partiality of our parents become an obstacle and a thorn in the way between us, and to use love and wisdom to resolve and eliminate these bad influences.
The affection between brothers and sisters is an irreplaceable affection, and it is a kind of affection that cannot be lost no matter what. When our parents are gone, they are the ones who know us best and are the ones who can warm us. We must cherish this family affection, warm each other with love, respect each other with integrity, understand each other with tolerance, coordinate each other with communication, and closely connect with each other with common memories and futures, so that our brotherhood and sisterhood will never deteriorate or fade.
Finally, I would like to say to all my brothers and sisters: you are the most important people in my life, you are my closest partners, you are my strongest backing, you are the source of my greatest happiness, and you are my best memories. I hope that for the rest of our lives, we can all have a good brotherhood and sisterhood, no matter the wind and rain, no matter the joys and sorrows, we can support each other, accompany each other, encourage each other, and achieve each other.
I have an older brother and a younger sister, we grew up together, and our childhood was full of laughter and tears. We often play together, learn together, share together, argue together, fight together, apologize together, and reconcile together. Although our parents are not wealthy, they are both fair and gentle to us, they give us the best education and the most freedom, and they make us feel the warmth and happiness of the family.
When we grew up, we all had our own choices and pursuits, and we all embarked on different paths and directions. My brother is a doctor, he works in a big hospital, he has to face life and death and illness every day, he is very hard, but he has a sense of accomplishment, he has saved many lives, and he has also won the respect and gratitude of many people. My sister is a teacher, she teaches in an elementary school, she has to face children and parents every day, she is very busy, but she is very responsible, she has educated the hearts of many people, and she has gained the trust and love of many people. I'm a journalist, I work in a newspaper, I have to face news and events every day, I'm nervous, but I'm passionate, I've recorded a lot of people's stories, and I've spread a lot of people's voices.
Although we are busy, we never forget each other, we often contact each other through ** or the Internet, we often greet and care for each other, we often share our joys, sorrows and gains, we often give each other advice and encouragement. We will also find time to get together, we will go back to our hometown, we will visit our parents, we will relive our childhood, we will talk about our present, we will look forward to our future. Our parents are relieved to see our harmony and progress, they are happy, they are relieved.
After our parents left, we cherished each other more, we supported each other more, we understood each other more, and we coordinated each other more. We don't quarrel because of money, we don't resent because of partiality, we don't distance ourselves because of distance, we don't become indifferent because of misunderstandings. We will unite because of family affection, we will be warm because of love, we will be happy because of friendship, and we will strive for ideals. We are a family, we are a heart, we are a force, we are a spirit.
I love my brother, I love my sister, I love my brothers and sisters. They are the most important people in my life, they are my closest companions, they are my strongest backing, they are my most happy source, they are my best memories. I hope that for the rest of our lives, we can all have a good brotherhood and sisterhood, no matter the wind and rain, no matter the joys and sorrows, we can support each other, accompany each other, encourage each other, and achieve each other. I bless my brothers and sisters, I bless all my brothers and sisters, may you always be happy, always happy, always healthy, and always beautiful!