I believe that many families even want to set the gender of the child in advance as long as the baby has been fully prepared beforehand. When the moment I learned that the baby was coming, I believe that most mothers will soon enter the role, and every thing, every behavior, and every day of life is connected to the baby in the womb. But for the father, who has not been involved with the baby at this time, what kind of way and time should he enter the role of the father......
When I brushed **, I found that many fathers would interact with the baby in the womb by telling stories and singing before the baby was born, and the scene was very loving; But after the child was born, all kinds of funny things began to happen, sleeping to the child, forgetting the child when going out, treating the child as a toy, and even falling to the ground without hugging it. Some netizens ridiculed: "Dad takes the baby, just live!" When there is no danger, Dad is the greatest danger! ”
I don't know when, the topic of "dad with a baby is unreliable" has become a consensus in the hearts of many people.
Under similar entries such as "how unreliable can a father with a baby" and "dad with a baby is mainly sloppy" and other similar entries, it is full of women's "accusations" that men are not attentive to taking a baby. Because of the "Pudong 4-year-old girl missing incident" before, many people invariably blamed the father who lost his beloved daughter, thinking that he was "too careless" and "not attentive enough" to cause this tragic accident.
It is true that we cannot use those accidents in life to deny that fathers do not take good care of their children, and in reality, it is not uncommon for mothers to have accidents with their babies.
And, both fathers and mothers play an indispensable role in the child's upbringing. At the same time, there are many families where fathers are more careful than mothers in parenting. Mothers with strong parenting skills should not relax, and fathers with weaker abilities should not be anxious, be patient, and give fathers a little time to study. In the process of children's growth and development, and even gradually moving towards society, they have their own irreplaceable and unique roles. Learning from each other and growing together is also to create a good living environment for children.
Dad with a baby: not a "pig teammate" but a "god assist"! The more the father accompanies him, the smarter and more energetic the child becomes.
A 12-year Yale study of families from all walks of life evaluated the importance of fathers' roles in children's development. Research shows that children whose fathers are more involved have higher IQs, better performance in school, and stronger social skills as children grow up.
The title of the study "Mothers are better at parenting" has become a traditional belief. In general, women are considered to be more sensual, attentive, and gentle, which is undoubtedly the best trait of parenting.
However, studies have shown that the presence of a father is a crucial, life-giving force in the development of children and in the life of the family. While we have made some progress in exploring the impact of father's absence on children, we should now come to understand, define, and appreciate what it means for fathers to be involved in children's development. ”
Fathers have an important contribution to the development of their children. Babies and toddlers grow up in a chaotic and complex social system, and fathers have a unique role to play in it. They are treated very differently from mothers in terms of social systems, environmental impacts, child dependence, and other issues. Fortunately, fathers have been spending more and more time with their children in recent decades.
In the article "The Presence of Fathers", it is mentioned that "I have found that children who are raised by men are usually active in their formative years, and they will always be energetic. These children are particularly interested in the external environment and are able to easily handle the enhanced stimuli that come with this interaction. In addition, most babies performed higher than expected on standardized developmental (IQ) tests.
Other studies have also found that children who grow up with more fathers have significantly higher IQs, are more socially adept, and can have a lasting, long-term impact on their lives. In the development of girls, especially before the age of 7, the absence of fatherhood is closely related to early sexual activity and early pregnancy in adolescence.
The World Health Organization study also shows that children who spend more than two hours a day with their fathers tend to have higher IQs, boys look more resolute, and girls know how to deal with people more later. The findings all tell us that fatherhood has a significant and non-negligible impact on children's development and long-term benefits. So, how did this effect come about?
1. Fathers are more rational and encourage children to explore and break through boundaries, which is more conducive to the development of children's intelligence and physical fitness.
2. In the process of fathers playing with their children, they will create conditions for children to use their strength, so as to realize the limits of their strength. This way children can be taught to follow the rules and allow them to continue exploring the world around them. Moreover, dads see it as their 'privilege' to extend their children's safety limits, and they always encourage their children to try more.
3. The father's play attitude contributes to the development of the child, and through this learning, the child is taught how to challenge the limit and take risks. ”
4. The influence of fathers is even more profound, and their unique state of play can stimulate children's language development. When communicating with babies and toddlers, mothers will constantly adjust their vocabulary until their babies can understand it. Fathers, on the other hand, use more complex, unfamiliar language for infants and toddlers, not only using longer words, but also encouraging their children to understand and use more complex language. This may seem like a "wrong" approach, but it can help children speed up their language learning and development. In real life, it has also been found that many dads play this "function".
5. Studies have shown that fathers have a greater influence on children's language development than their mothers during the language development period of 2 to 3 years of age. And, the greater the vocabulary used by the father, the higher the score of his child on the language test after one year. The BBC documentary "The Biological Significance of Fathers" mentions that dads seem to play a more important role than mothers, both in the development of the language system and in encouraging children to step out of their "comfort zone" and continue to explore the world.
After various reactions, it is easier for dads to raise "smarter" children.
Of course, we can't deny the influence of mothers on their children. The sensual and gentle mother figure can make children feel more love and warmth, so that they can be more empathetic and responsible in rationality. At the same time, careful mothers can also ensure that their children grow up safer and healthier.
With the development of society and the progress of thought, the barriers of gender have gradually been broken, and "dad with baby" has gradually integrated into the trend. Regardless of the distribution of family responsibilities, both husband and wife need to do their part and give their children adequate care. At the same time, it is also necessary to avoid careless behavior similar to the beginning of the article, which almost costs the child's health and life to "trial and error". It can be said that the healthy growth of every baby is an important achievement of parents, families and society!