In the ambiguous communication between men and women, the two sides often fall into a subtle psychological contest, testing each other, pushing and pulling. Master the scale of this push and pull, and whoever can take the lead in grasping the other party will win this ambiguous contest. However, in this process, it is often the girls who are more likely to be provoked and fall into self-doubt. They can't help but think: Why don't I take the initiative and the other party doesn't take the initiative? Doesn't he like me? But in fact, the other party's ininitiative instead reveals the true feelings between the two.
Psychological warfare between push and pull.
When you find that the interaction between you and the opposite sex is extremely hot, it seems like a flint and flint when you get along during the day, but once you separate, the other party never takes the initiative to contact you, and you always speak first when chatting. When you try to stay silent and see if the other person will take the initiative, you find that the other person is completely out of touch. So you start an inner tug-of-war: if you don't take the initiative, and I don't take the initiative, which of us can bear it? This kind of moment, you start to doubt yourself: does he really like me? Am I not doing well enough? These struggles leave you in the middle of it, and you can't help yourself. This is actually a kind of "psychological tactic" that the other party is good at using, a kind of skillful experience, so that they can easily grasp the influence on you.
If you're a girl and you're a guy, it's likely that this man is scheming and experienced in relationships. He is well versed in the psychological game of ambiguous periods, sometimes constricted, sometimes relaxed, so that you will be fascinated and obsessed with him. In this case, you have fallen deeply in love with him, and he is still in control. He flicks his finger and you'll be hooked. In this relationship, the boy tends to be dominant, while the girl is prone to lose herself or even lose her nature. This requires vigilance to protect yourself from being completely lost.
On the contrary, if you are a boy and the other party is a girl, then you may be a novice who is just starting out in love, and the other party may be an experienced royal sister. She sees men as "entertainment" and knows that "whoever falls in love first loses". She is good at maintaining an emotional advantage in the midst of ambiguity, sometimes constricted, sometimes relaxed, so that you can't forget her. In this case, the girl is often dominant, firmly grasping the boy's mind and making him love himself even more.
If both parties are masters of love, they will start a battle with each other, and neither will admit to falling in love with each other first. They enjoy the throbbing of the ambiguous period, trying to extend it indefinitely. It takes a lot of experience to get the scale right, and both sides are testing each other, vying for dominance, eager to make the other submit, showing a strong desire to win or lose.
The true state of mind of the other party.
During the ambiguous period, especially when both parties get along well and have impulses to each other but can refrain from taking the initiative to contact, this is actually a hint of the other party's true feelings for you. If you show affection when you meet but always lose contact when you are apart, or if you lack interest in you and never take the initiative when chatting, it could mean that the other person doesn't really like you. They may just use you as a distraction, a pastime when they are lonely, amusing you when they have time, and ignoring you when they don't. In this case, you may be just one of their many ambiguous objects.
The essence of ambiguity.
The ambiguous period between men and women is not only about seeing each other, but also about having a common topic and being attractive to each other. Interesting souls and admirable qualities are what can truly lead to deep love. Men tend to be more emotionally accountable for gains and losses, and more focused on their careers. Therefore, if you have an affair with a mature man, you may suffer a fiasco, as they will devote most of their time and energy to their careers. In the end, a successful ambiguous relationship requires the joint efforts of both parties, who will push and who will pull, in order to make the relationship warm up to the peak.
Epilogue. Using the push and pull of the ambiguous period can make the relationship between men and women quickly warm up. However, both sides need to take the initiative and can't always wait for the other. A good relationship requires a joint effort by both parties, rather than a one-sided pursuit. Therefore, don't be too cold and don't be too narcissistic, otherwise you may lose a good relationship. The throbbing during the ambiguous period is precious, but only if both parties give sincerely, can love bloom for a long time.