The seemingly deep phrase "I love you and has nothing to do with you" can actually be a double-edged sword. Many women tend to express their emotions in this way, and even see it as some kind of "emotional control" over men. However, this practice often only leads to misunderstanding and hurt, because feelings are never a one-sided effort or declaration, but a process that needs to be nurtured and maintained by both parties.
True affection is based on mutual respect and understanding. Two people are together to share happiness, bear pain, and grow together. Neither party should feel free to say anything hurtful to the other, even out of love. Because this kind of love will only make the other person feel oppressed and constrained.
So, in everyday life, how can you really get a man to love you?
First of all, learn to control your emotions and avoid arguing over small things. Quarrels will only strain the relationship and hurt each other's feelings. When you feel upset or angry, try to express your thoughts in a gentle tone instead of attacking the other person with sharp words. In this way, men will feel your gentleness and sanity and thus cherish you more.
Second, don't blame men with words like "you always have". Such statements can make men feel misunderstood and disrespected. Instead, try to understand his actions and thoughts, and treat him with tolerance and acceptance. When he feels your understanding and support, he will be more willing to give for you.
Also, don't always put men first and ignore your own feelings and needs. Everyone is an individual and needs to have their own space and freedom. In a relationship, learn to balance your own needs with each other's, so that both can feel respected and cared for.
Finally, don't complain casually. Complaining will only make the mood more negative and affect each other's mood. Try to face the challenges and difficulties in life with a positive attitude and infect the other person with an optimistic attitude. In this way, your relationship will be more healthy and stable.
In conclusion, the way to make a man love you is not by saying something that seems affectionate but actually hurtful, but by building and maintaining a relationship with each other through understanding and support, respect and love. Only in this way can you go through every stage of life together and enjoy the beauty and happiness that love brings.