If you have a grudge against your parents, study Bai Juyi's three poems, what are parents?
This question resonates differently in people's minds. Some people are grateful to their parents and see them as a blessing, while others are resentful of why fate has not given them glory and wealth, but has given them to their brothers and sisters.
There are also those who have formed a fence with their parents, who have already built a wall of opposition in their hearts, and regard their parents as passerby A, or even passerby B.
Bai Juyi, a literati in the Tang Dynasty, also had remorse with his parents. Especially his mother, who once prevented him from being emotionally entangled with Xiangling, the girl next door, leaving endless regrets in his heart.
As the years passed, Bai Juyi was still immersed in the memory of his first love: "The days are long and the days are endless, and this hatred is endless." ”
But no matter what, Bai Juyi can always distinguish right from wrong, put aside the prejudice against his parents in his heart, and repay his parents with filial piety.
His poems flow with the essence of filial piety, and the behavior of "birds" is used to illustrate people's words and deeds.
If one day, you are disgusted with your parents, you might as well read Bai Juyi's "Bird", or you can get the inspiration of the soul, resentment will go away with the wind, and love will nourish the heart more and more.
"Bird": Parents are humble in society, but they are the heaven of the family.
I advise you not to harm wild birds. Come to think of it, they also have families of their own, and there are young children who are looking forward to their return.
I don't know when we began to pursue fame and fortune and compete for family background. Even with the best efforts of our parents, we are still not satisfied.
In fact, we often don't understand the hardships of our parents and their struggles in society.
I am a post-70s generation and lived in the countryside as a child. I work and play with my parents every day.
When he was seven or eight years old, he also ploughed and harvested with them.
I often wonder why others don't have to do these jobs and live a rich life. Are your parents too incompetent?
One winter, my parents went to work in a neighboring village. My brother and sister and I stayed at home.
The mountain breeze howled and sleet hit the rooftops.
Our siblings were so scared that we huddled together and didn't dare to sleep all night.
The next morning, the door creaked, and when it opened, it was the mother who had returned. We rushed up and hugged her tightly. I couldn't stop crying.
While my mother was busy cooking, I noticed that her hand was scratched and I cried again. The mother said, "It's nothing, the road slipped and fell, and it didn't hurt ......."”
Do you feel heartache when you see your parents hurt? That's the power of blood ties.
When your parents are old, you worry about them getting lost, falling, and in danger ......Because we feel this feeling, we should "treat others as ourselves" and do not hurt others.
If your parents do get lost, you may blame them for not listening to advice, but you will be relieved when they return safely. This is the most primitive emotion in our hearts, innate.
His father worked outside the home and started a small business, and he was also the pillar of the family; My mother was a cleaner, a factory worker, and the mainstay of the family. When you know how to respect your parents, you will no longer feel resentment.
"Ciwu Night Cry": The love of parents is simple, and only when they are lost can they feel precious.
The young crow, who has lost his mother's love, cries all day long.
Hearing his cry, people also shed tears.
However, crows can repay kindness, but how can people not be able to? For example, Wu Qi's generation has no way to mourn when they hear about the death of their relatives.
However, in the world, there are many filial sons, such as great-sons.
Vulgar clouds: "The son wants to raise but the relatives are not there, the tree wants to be quiet but the wind does not stop." ”
The parents are still alive, but they are aging, faltering, or upset. Perhaps it may be free from annoyance, and treat it as a burden.
One day, my parents will return and never return. When I saw crutches, wheelchairs, beds, and clothes, I was even more heartbroken.
Writer Lao She, supported by his mother, went to study.
When I go out, I write letters frequently to express my thoughts.
For a year, there was no handwriting in the letter, and there was no talk about the mother, and I felt uneasy.
When I returned home, I learned that my mother had died. However, the mother instructed not to be burdened by the funeral, and not to inform immediately.
Knowing that, Lao She blamed himself: "Mother gave birth, what can I say?" Sad, sad! ”
Remembering my parents, if I say goodbye forever, what is the regret? Today's resentment is insignificant.
"Yan Shi Shows Liu Sue": How good your parents are, you won't know until you become a parent.
In Bai Juyi's sight, an old man surnamed Liu appeared, living a lonely and lonely life. His children had left the country, and reunion had become a luxury.
What is amazing is that Old Man Liu did not blame his children, but recalled the scene when he was young and decided to leave and pursue his dreams. He comforted his wife and said that today's children are also us when we were young. This cycle is like a swallow.
It is true that parents work hard to raise their children, but their children will eventually fly out of the nest, which is an inevitable law of family development.
Only the concern of parents can make children feel belonging.
Even if you travel thousands of miles, you are still under the care of your parents.
Children become parents, and parents become grandparents......Passed down from generation to generation, never ending.
As the saying goes, "Raising a child is the only way to know the kindness of his parents." ”
Many incomprehensible things suddenly became clear after becoming parents.
On Zhihu, someone asked, "When did you start understanding your parents?" ”
Some netizens called themselves "queens" and said that after becoming a mother, they found that he didn't cry or make trouble when he was holding the child, and he began to shout as soon as he let go.
Someone persuaded her that it didn't hurt to let the child cry, and she couldn't always hold on.
But she couldn't bear to let go, so she raised her carefully day and night - becoming a mother is such a masochistic thing.
Parents and children, get together less and leave more, hug too little, and separate for too long. When hugging, don't hold a grudge.
If you use your own experience to verify your parents' behavior, you will not feel resentment, and you will always be with you on the road of running for life.
Bai Juyi wrote in the "Nine Books with Yuan": "The servant's ambition is to help and the act is to be good." If you serve it all the time, it is the way, and if you say it, you will invent it as a poem. ”
The poems depict creatures and plants in nature, suggesting the emotions of people's hearts.
Only by studying, writing, working and living with kindness can life be as gorgeous as poetry and have real meaning.
Each generation has experienced hardships and it is impossible to completely satisfy future generations, but they all do their best.
There is love in every generation, but it is often overlooked, and only the keen-eyed will feel it and be moved to tears.