Today I want to share with you how I started from a severe adhder to get better. In addition to taking medication, and doing some cognitive and behavioral training. And how my teachers helped me with my studies.
First of all, I also shared with you in my previous notes that severe adhder will most likely have dyslexia, dysgraphia, perceptual disorder, and mood disorder.
Well, I'm a kid like this who has stepped on all the thunder points since I was a child.
Before, I also mentioned to you in the **, message that I grew up in a family where relatives were all intellectuals. Those who grew up in intellectual families understand that the post-90s and post-00s generations have been assessed for grades since childhood. Relatives are still comparing grades.
I am not good at reading, and I have been the object of criticism from my family since I was a child.
In addition, the school I attended is also the best key primary school in the city, and ** pursues the principle of grades, so I will naturally not have a good life. Finding parents twice in three days is already a common thing.
This kind of thing, if I am a dull child, a dull and strong child, then I must not have much impact, anyway, what you talk about, I can't hear it.
Can be ......I'm just the king of sensitive personalities, and I'm a highly sensitive personality.
My high sensitivity made me start to have thoughts of self-criticism, accusation, guilt, and inferiority when I heard other people's accusations, discussions, and standards. These ideas began to brew and ferment under the built-in function of ADHD. In my 7When I was 8 years old, I started to think, why am I different from others? Why do people like me live in this world?
The most terrible thing is that since I also agree, the family said that I will abolish the baby's point of view.
So, I began to suffer from internal friction night after night, and I was constantly tormented by these thoughts, opinions, and thoughts. In 11When I was 12 years old, these negative thoughts had evolved to make me start to be misanthropic with the world, I hated school, I hated adults, and I hated myself even more. I started to become a god who didn't want to do anything, I wasn't interested in anything, and I became a powder keg that could be ** at any time. My heart feels like it's going to explode at any time, and it's very uncomfortable and painful.
I think that's why it's said that the adhder population is one of the people with a high incidence of depression, mania, anxiety, and bipolar disorder.
It was also when I was a child that I already experienced how painful it was to be depressed in children, and I also saw my parents, grandfather, and grandmother, because I was going to die, how painful and tormented I was.
Fortunately, God still took pity on me! My dad sent me abroad when I was 13 years old. Luckily, I was diagnosed in the first month.
At the same time, I also met the teacher who changed my life, bunny
Before receiving systematic ** and cognitive and behavioral training, children like me can almost definitely miss out on reading.
I can't understand the book, I can't read it, I can't even read it, so what kind of study do you talk about, let alone study well and go to a good school!
However, fortunately, it was with the encouragement of my grandfather and the help of teachers and doctors that I finally went to a very good university in Melbourne. Break that curse
This is also the main reason why I shared my notes on Xiaohongshu. Helping people like me wants to help me even more.
My brother said that every time I write notes and reply to other people's comments, I am actually healing myself and others for the second time.
All right! After the sensationalism, I'm going to start talking about the 6 keys that I helped me up to the most in addition to taking medication and some regular training accidents
The 6keys taught to me by my teacher really changed my life, especially in my studies. Today, I will take it out and share it with you.
First of all, as adhders, we don't lack emotion. Especially as a highly sensitive type.
However, my teacher said that only the combination of information and emotion can be a long-term memory.
Like, people will reminisce about their childhood because they hear a song. Because of a taste, a smell, I will pull my memory back to ten, twenty, thirty years ago.
In the same way, we don't always do things logically. Even people who don't have ADHD.
So, with ADHD, we have to learn to use our talents and turn them into advantages.
Therefore, learn to be emotional.
Feel the state of studying.
Remember your mood and feelings while studying.
Actually, it's all about what we want to learn.
Now, I'll teach you 6 keys
You have to remember that it's best to roll the melon well.
Because it can help you learn any subject and skill faster.
The first one is b:believe.
Whether we believe it or not, we're all right.
A lot of people say: Oh! I have a bad memory!
I don't have good concentration, I'm not creative!
In the same way, some people will say, I have a good memory, good concentration, and better creativity!
Right? Then I'm going to ask you to get rid of that idea altogether.
Because, creativity is not an ability that you have.
It's what you do.
Concentration is not an ability that you have.
It's what you do.
Memory is not an ability that you have.
It's what you do.
There is no such thing as a good or bad memory.
There is only a difference between trained and untrained.
Your brain is like a supercomputer.
And the conversation you have with yourself is the program it is going to run.
So, if you tell yourself, you yourself are not good at remembering other people's names.
You won't remember the name of the next person you meet.
Because you programmed your supercomputer so that he didn't remember!
Your mind is always eavesdropping, your conversation with yourself.
This is what I have told you many times to learn to talk to yourself and cultivate the habit of talking to yourself. Stop self-criticism, stop self-blame. This is also a lot of healing, the law of manifestation that magic talks about, and the law of attraction talks about. I also read a book that is very popular in Japan before, what is it about, I am obviously poor, and I still owe 20 million to the bank, and I am over, and I will become a winner in life. Although it has coined a term of its own, the core of it is actually about believing in yourself and believing in the universe.
Sweat! Although the names are different and varied, in fact, they are all about the same thing, just like clothes.
That's ......Now you get it, right?
So, b is to believe, to believe that you can, to believe that you can't, it's all up to you.
Okay, I'm going to move on to E
exercise
Your brain!!
In fact, the main function of your brain is to control your movements.
In the same way, when your body moves, your brain moves with it!
If you want to learn any subject or skill better, then I want to talk about the most important keyf
the f is to forget
If you look closely, many people don't learn quickly and not well. In fact, it is because they think they have learned, but in fact, they have not learned and have not learned well.
That's ......Why is that?
They didn't actually empty their brains. There is no empty cup mentality.
Does that make sense? Hahahaha
When you hear all these clichés, but every cliché makes sense, is your mind being shackled?
In fact, our minds should be like a parachute.
And when does the parachute work?
When it lets go
It's not, bound by a bunch of knowledge theories that I know, but I never know how to open it.
So that's also our beginner mentality, right?
So what you're going to do now is you're going to forget for a moment what you're seeing with me beyond what you see. You can accept it, I'm telling you now.
I don't know if you've ever read a book on Zen Buddhism or other books on Buddhism. One of the words that is often said in Buddhism is 'discriminating mind', and what we need to do is to break the discriminating mind and equanimize the mind. In Zen Buddhism, the classic story is, 'Is your heart moving, or is the sail moving?' In short, when looking at something, don't hold any opinions, including mental awareness. Only by looking at this thing without thoughts and perspectives can you see the truth of things and their true colors.
to be continue~