A real case that has been pushed to the hot search has made millions of women still anxious about real estate. A master's mother cried about her experience of coming out to find a job, shared her feelings for 4 years, and warned women to think twice before becoming a mother! Qian Duoduo has a master's degree from a key university, and was originally a professional female elite working in a law firm, with an excellent work history and mature social experience, and her husband's finances are relatively separate and independent.
But after quitting his job in 2020 and returning home to have a second child, everything changed. I also quit my job when I gave birth to my first child at the age of 30, but after I gave birth, I was helped by the elderly, and I soon came out to find a job and re-employed. The same is true for the second child this time, after Qian Duoduo gave birth, he had to take care of 2 children, and he invested 4 years at once. Now that she has a second child and can go to kindergarten, she decided to continue her professional career, but found that she could no longer find a job.
The mother submitted thousands of resumes and got nearly 100 communication intentions on the Internet, but the other party never conducted an offline interview after learning about her age and family situation. Before, she wanted to pursue a career as a lawyer, but found that no law firm wanted her, and then she lowered her requirements and wanted to work as a general clerk in a company, and even wanted to work as a salesperson in a supermarket but was rejected.
Qian Duoduo is really a bit collapsed, is it wrong to have a second child and increase the fertility rate? The state is so encouraged, and I have given birth, why can't I get a job again? Now she has to ask her husband for money every month, and her embarrassing life also makes her extremely regretful. Such a real workplace case makes every woman think carefully before having a child, what kind of impact will it have on her career?
It is true that the country constantly wants to increase the fertility rate, but there are not many support measures for workplace discrimination and how to support the smooth employment of women who have children. In the end, it was found that the risks fell on the heads of women in the workplace, and Qian Duoduo is now facing the dilemma of not being able to find a job, and he really regrets it.
In fact, from the time she decided to go home and quit her job to have a second child, she didn't think about the whole thing. If a woman decides to be a mother and decide to take care of the family in the short or long term, then we think about 3 things:
1. Before returning home to have a second child, it is necessary to correctly assess the financial situation of the family, as well as the total assets of the family. Don't have the illusion that after having a child, both husband and wife are working outside the home, which is enough to support the child's growth and balance the family's expenses. To prepare for the worst, the family's assets should be relatively large, and the husband's income should be relatively high. If the family does not accumulate a relatively large amount of wealth, and the husband does not have a high income, having two children may soon reduce the standard of living of the family, and soon increase the strong sense of anxiety.
Second, it is necessary to correctly assess the space of women's job market. It is true that the average woman, whether unmarried or married, is still relatively easy to find employment before the age of 35, but after that, the workplace risk will be very great! Many units face second-child mothers over the age of 35, and there is really employment discrimination. They will think that their mothers may have to take care of their children, and they will gradually get older and unable to devote themselves to their work, so they will naturally refuse to give them job opportunities. This kind of employment discrimination has nothing to do with academic qualifications, work experience, etc.
3. If you can't get your husband's salary card and control the family's finances, you can't choose to go home to be a mother anyway. Qian Duoduo and her husband were relatively financially independent before, but as a result, they spent all their savings in the past 4 years, and now they can only ask their husbands for money every month. The most important prerequisite for sacrificing one's career and returning home is to master the family's finances. This mother did something wrong!
We imagine that if this mother had accumulated a relatively large amount of wealth in the family before giving birth to her second child, she controlled the family's financial power. Even if the job search is not smooth, he can still maintain the original consumption level and have the same money to spend, will he still be so anxious about finding a job? Does she still choose to live quietly and take care of her family?
Under the premise of not perfecting the employment of women in the workplace, every woman must think carefully before giving birth to a second child before becoming a mother: when she chooses to quit the workplace and returns home, it may be difficult to come out again! To be a mother, you have to think carefully! The female master took the baby for 4 years and then ran into a job and cried