I hope that my son will become a dragon, and I hope that my daughter will become a phoenix. As parents, we all want our children to be successful, but in the actual education process, we may make some mistakes that cause our children to not reach their full potential. I am an example of a time when I put too much pressure on my son, causing him to suffer from "stress sickness" and end up with nothing. Here, I would like to share some of my experiences and lessons that I hope will help other parents.
Growing up, I have always been very strict with my son's academic performance. I enrolled him in various cram schools, supervised him with his homework every day, and even gave him extra practice questions. I think that's the only way he can stand out from the competition. However, I ignored his feelings and needs. He began to become more and more anxious and depressed, and lost interest in studying. In the end, instead of improving, his results dropped a lot.
After I realized my mistakes, I began to reflect on my own approach to education. I found that I had been putting pressure on my son without giving him enough support and encouragement. I didn't take into account his interests and strengths, nor did I help him build his self-confidence and self-directed learning ability. I just blindly asked him to do what I wanted, without respecting his choice and personality.
In order to help my son out of this difficult situation, I began to change the way I was educated. I had an open and honest conversation with him and got to know his ideas and needs. I noticed that he was very interested in ** and drawing, so I encouraged him to learn these skills and provided him with resources and support. I also helped him with his study plan and gave him help and guidance when he was struggling. I no longer emphasize the importance of grades, but focus on his learning process and growth experience.
Through these efforts, my son's condition gradually improved. He began to become more confident and independent, and his interest in learning was renewed. Although his grades did not improve immediately, his learning attitude and methods have improved greatly. Eventually, he was admitted to a good university and chose a major he liked.
Through my own experience, I have come to realize that children's growth requires more than just pressure and demand, but more importantly, love, support and understanding. We can't just focus on grades and competition and ignore the inner world and personality development of children. Only by respecting children's choices and interests, and helping them build self-confidence and self-directed learning ability, can they truly grow and become talents.