What s more terrible than parting is that you can t get out of parting

I happened to read this sentence: "Every living thing has an end." ”

Yes, parting is something that each of us constantly experiences in our lives, and it is an inevitable reality that will also have a negative emotional impact on us.

So when facing the parting of different situations, how should we face it, so as to reduce the emotional damage and move forward more calmly?

In the once popular "Predecessor 3", the most poignant plot for me was not Lin Jia crying and eating mangoes, nor Meng Yun shouting love Lin Jia on the street, but the moment when Lin Jia took the initiative to kiss Wang Xin, which indicated that Lin Jia decided not to look back.

A lot of love is always like this, maybe it's inexplicable, maybe it's a pile of reasons, and it will always come to an end at a point in time, as if no matter how hard you try, you can't move forward.

In March last year, I ended my 3-year relationship, and when we first broke up, I couldn't sleep all night, and I spent the whole night thinking about why I got to this point.

At that time, the general state was:I couldn't eat, I couldn't sleep, I felt like I was missing a piece of everything, like someone had taken a piece of bloody flesh from my heart, and since then my heart has suffered a huge emptiness, I don't know what to do, and I am in great pain.

I also wonder why I put so much effort and the end result is so unsatisfactory.

Then, in the company of my friends, I suddenly realized that I shouldn't be so decadent.

I started to work actively, even if I felt uncomfortable, I would finish my work on time, communicate with my colleagues in a good state, and I began to arrange my off-duty time, shopping or watching movies or reading books or working overtimeI try not to let myself be idle, try not to keep myself immersed in the negativity of separation.

And in the end, what made me completely come out was because I figured out one point: don't be unwilling.

Not only me, many people will feel unwilling when facing a breakup, why there is no result in paying so much, and why the well-managed relationship ends in failure.

But that's normal, isn't it?

The kind of love that is only one person is indeed rare, and the length of the fate between people seems to have been doomed, when the feelings can no longer be pulled, when the contradiction is greater than love, the so-called love will be disassembled, reluctant or unwilling, there is no way.

So break up with your lover, don't be unwilling, don't let unwilling emotions tear you apart, make you stop where you are and don't dare to go forward.

Schopenhauer once said: "Parting in reality is only temporary, but friendship is eternal." It may sound abstract at first, but it is true when you taste it.

I remember that as soon as I went out and came home that afternoon, I saw her busily packing all kinds of boxes and bags in the house, sorting and packing the things she needed, and spreading the things she didn't need on the floor.

The air conditioner was whirring and cool, but large beads of sweat were hanging on her slightly tired face.

I had already thought of the scene of separation, and I was so sad that I didn't know how to express my reluctance, and for a long time, I squeezed out a sentence with a crying voice: "Do you need my help?" ”

She shook her head and said, "It's okay, I'm almost ready to clean up." ”

After that, I stood beside her and watched her workOccasionally make a hand and talk to her.

To be honest, this is not the first time I have separated from my friends, and when I graduate from junior high school, high school, and college, I will always separate some friends who have a good relationship, and I will never see each other again in this life.

After she cleaned up, we had a meal together and chatted happily.

We talked about the future, about each other's future development, about the next time we met, and suddenly we felt that the separation was not so terrible, and she was also moving towards a better life.

So in the face of the separation of friends, hold back and give up 12 points of sincere wishes for her bright future.

I've heard the saying, "Death is a debt that we must pay with all we have." ”

Some time ago, my friend's grandmother died. He didn't tell us in advance, and went home alone to participate in the final care before the hospital bed, as well as the funeral, etc., until the matter was over, and then he said to us at a dinner: "I won't have a grandmother in the future." ”

In between speaking, his tears trickled down his eyes with the wine.

At that moment, I understood him, because I had also experienced the death of my grandmother, and suddenly I thought that my grandmother, who was used by me to tie my hair when I was a child, was lying in a coffin foreverAt that moment, my heart was blocked, congested, like a pebble sinking into the sea sinking slowly and directionlessly.

While thinking about it, my hand unconsciously patted him on the back, gave him a big hug, and said to him, "It's okay, we can see you in a dream when I miss grandma." ”

Throughout our lives, the biggest parting we can face is the separation of yin and yang.

No matter how much reluctance, no matter how much recollection, no matter how helpless, we can't seem to stop the arrangement of death.

So accept the parting of life and death, as long as we have enough sweet moments to remember while we are alive, there will be no regrets.

Guo Jingming once wrote emotionally: "Crossing the same boat with you, reaching the shore and returning to each other." ”

I have heard many regretful love stories, more than a pair of intimate lovers have joined hands for many years or even half a life but parted ways, we must learn to accept and regenerate ourselves; I have also experienced many separations from friends, some never see each other again, and some reunite, and we must learn to replace sadness with blessings; In the face of the life and death parting with relatives, even if you miss it in your heart, you can only follow the laws of nature, and you must learn to cherish the present, and you must also live your own life to comfort the departed.

In fact, in the face of the gradual distancing or loss of any relationship, we should learn to accept separation, so that we can gain the strength to move forward in separation.

When you come, you should be happy, and when you go, you should give up.

As one famous person said, "Parting is not about losing, but about moving forward." ”