Over seventy years old, Lin Zhenguo's experience of life has exceeded the imagination of ordinary people. At this age, the emotional challenges he faces are incomprehensible to ordinary people. It is not so much that he is enjoying the joy of his old age, but that he is experiencing another complex emotion in life. He thinks that it is an unwise choice for people to get too close to their spouses when they are old, and behind this view is his many years of marriage experience and deep thinking about emotions.
Lin Zhenguo and his wife Cui'e have been married for more than 50 years, and the course of this marriage has been full of ups and downs. From the passion of youth, to the love of each other in middle age, and now in their old age, they have endured the trials of life together and cherished their feelings for each other.
However, in recent years, Lin Zhenguo has begun to realize that getting too close to Cui'e is not a good thing. This is not because there is a contradiction or estrangement between them, but because he feels that the entanglement of each other's lives has become too close, so that they have lost their individual independence and freedom, and this closeness brings not only warmth, but also a heavy burden.
A chance encounter gave him a deeper understanding of this concept. In the sunny park, he chatted with his old friend Lao Chen about their later years. Lao Chen told him that keeping a certain distance from his wife was not because of a bad relationship, but because they both understood that as they grew older, they needed more independent space to think and live.
These words triggered Lin Zhenguo's reflection on his marriage. He realizes that he and Cui'e live in each other's shadows almost every day, lacking individual space and time for food, entertainment, and daily activities. Although this intimacy brings warmth, it also deprives the two of the opportunity for individual growth.
So, he began to try to keep a certain distance from Cui'e. It's not about alienating each other, it's about giving each other more freedom and space. He began to go for walks in the park alone, drinking tea and chatting with friends, while Cui'e devoted herself to studying at the University of the Elderly, living a full and colorful life.
At first, Cui'e didn't quite understand Lin Zhenguo's approach, and even suspected that he was deliberately alienating himself. But as time passed, she gradually understood her husband's intentions. They found that keeping a certain distance did not dilute each other's feelings, but made them cherish their time together more, and understand and respect each other's choices and decisions.
Today, they have found a balance. They not only kept a certain distance, but were able to care for and care for each other. Their lives are more harmonious and happy, and their relationship is deeper and more stable.
Through his own experience, Lin Zhenguo wants to tell people that keeping a certain distance from his wife is not to be estranged, but to give each other more independent space and time. Only in this way can the relationship be more lasting and beautiful.
Of course, every couple's situation is different. Some people may like to be intimate and enjoy each other's company. But in any case, keeping a certain distance is crucial in the emotion. Only in this way can we maintain the healthy and stable development of our feelings.
Lin Zhenguo hopes that his story can give people some inspiration and food for thought. No matter how old you are, you should cherish each other's feelings and give each other enough freedom and space. Only in this way can we truly enjoy the beauty and happiness brought by feelings.