Being a human being requires taking the initiative to adapt to the changes and needs of the external world, and cannot stubbornly adhere to a rigid way of thinking. People who lack flexibility are doomed to be unable to form intimate relationships and receive outside help and support.
We can compare the world to a mirror, and the more decent the person in the mirror, the more decent you are. The world is a cycle, and no matter how far you sail east, you'll eventually return to where you started. One should not focus too much on one's own face and ignore the thoughts and feelings of others. Sometimes, if you put down your body appropriately to cater to others and know how to be flexible, you will get more surprises.
In the face of things, you might as well have a more generous attitude, let go of the so-called self-esteem, and you will enter a whole new realm. In fact, "thick face" not only contains the connotations of "mental health", "courage and strength", "open-mindedness" and "wisdom", it is the shield of the victor, the refuge against the wind, and the ability necessary to deal with interpersonal relationships.
Wang Cong is a recent college graduate, and after graduation, he began to submit resumes, but no company has hired him. Later, through the relationship of his parents, he got a job as a salesman in a foreign trade company. However, he has a haughty personality and is reluctant to deal with clients, feeling that they are too cheesy. He is highly educated, and he is unwilling to flatter and greet with a smile, which is clearly not suitable for him.
It is conceivable that half a year later, Wang Cong did not receive many orders, and he was also isolated by his colleagues. At this time, his colleague reminded him that he should lower his posture and learn to give gifts, but Wang Cong was reluctant to do so. He was advised to consult with his supervisor, but the office was empty, there was no one at home, and he was reprimanded by the snobbish nanny. Wang Cong was furious, but he was unwilling to continue to work hard to save face, so he decided to resign.
After learning the news, my colleague was surprised: "Is it really worth it for you to give up an enviable job for the sake of so-called face?" Wang Cong replied with a wry smile: "If I had half of your ability, maybe I wouldn't be in the current situation." It doesn't seem like I'm a good fit for the industry. The colleague smiled slightly: "You are wrong, who is not a novice when they enter the industry?" You need to be cheeky and have the spirit of staying the course. You can see that my performance has been good in the past few years, and I have also put in a lot of hard work behind it. If you just want to save face, you won't be able to achieve anything. ”
Wang Cong said with a frustrated expression: "I understand that this job is very good, but I am difficult to compromise and am not willing to please others in order to succeed." My colleague smiled and said, "It's not so easy to do things in the outside world!" When I find someone to do something, I ask for one, two, and three things, and if I can't do it, I ask for four, five, and six things.
Now, not only do I have thicker skin, but my scalp has also become harder! Wang Cong's words deeply touched him, so he began to take active action, showing up in front of the supervisor's office on time every day, and waiting at the door on time on weekends. Finally, one day, the supervisor called Wang Cong to the office, directly handed over the information of several important customers to him, and asked him to be responsible for renewing the contract with these customers. Wang Cong was overjoyed and asked the supervisor why he arranged it this way. The supervisor simply replied, "As long as you can be half as patient with me, you will succeed." In accordance with the instructions of the supervisor, Wang Cong put away the "arrogant" attitude that he considered insignificant, signed several large orders in a row, and the relationship with the customer became harmonious. The new colleague curiously asked him the secret of his success, and Wang Cong only said: "Don't pursue illusory face, only by giving up face can there be real rewards." ”