Someone said, "The people around you have betrayed your fate." ”
When we were children, our parents led us to move forward step by step; When we get to school, teachers and classmates, let us become wise people.
However, most of the time, we spend our time mingling in society, dealing with friends, colleagues, etc. The interaction between people should not be careless.
In the Analects of Confucius, it is written: "There must be a teacher for the threesome, choose the good ones and follow them, and change the bad ones." ”It's a blessing for us to have a mentor and a friend, and if we meet a garbage man, we're probably unlucky.
If you are an adult, you still can't achieve anything, and you are worried about your livelihood, it has a lot to do with the circles you join and the people you have close friends with. "People are poor, they must have backbone", and they must take the initiative to stay away from garbage people.
First, learn to keep the truth from the false, and leave the "hypocrites" who desperately praise you.
There was a talented man in the Ming Dynasty, Xie Jin, who won Zhu Yuanzhang's love.
One morning, Zhu Yuanzhang was worried because a girl in the palace died and was thrown into the water.
Xie Jin had an idea and said"Transform into Chang'e and go down to the ninefold; Roll over and jump into the Crystal Palace. ”
went around in a big circle, bad things and good things, sighs turned into flattery.
When you meet your boss, you can praise yourself to win favor, which is a common thing in the workplace. However, if a person keeps listening to hypocritical words, his ears will be very soft and he will be blown out of his direction.
When the people around you find out that you have made a mistake or gone to the wrong place, they will praise you vigorously. It shows that his heart is very dark.
Let's say you're not good at the cloth business, but your friends pull you in. When you lose a lot of money, your friends also say that it's a good thing to accumulate experience. You've been smug, and then you've lost all your money.
was sold, and you still helped the people to count the money", such a thing, how stupid. The joy of counting money makes you mistakenly think that you have a bright future.
Those who are desperately trying to please you are actually the ones who come to harm you and fool you with rhetoric.
Second, cheer yourself up and leave the "bad people" who have been blaming you.
A friend of mine, Xiao Hao, works in a large factory.
For a while, he earned tens of thousands of dollars by writing **, so he decided to quit his job and write ** at home.
My friend's parents, who came from another city, persuaded him not to be so stupid and to work hard. In their opinion, only the people in the big factory have face and the happiness that everyone yearns for.
When persuasion failed, the parents began to blame: "People in their thirties are still so ignorant."
His wife quarreled with him and kept blaming him for being "too impulsive and too unpromising".
My friend wanted to change the direction of his struggle, make himself more money, and make his family happier. Unexpectedly, I was overwhelmed by the continuous blame, and before things even began, there were already signs of failure.
Whatever you do, it's wrong; No matter which direction you go, you will fall into the abyss. When the people around you keep blaming you, that's what they think in their hearts.
Bad moods, like the plague, can make you feel tired and hopeless for a long time.
Third, live diligently and thriftily, and leave the "guide" who teaches you to share and enjoy.
A colleague of mine, Lao Li, is very honest. But recently, he has bought a lot of branded clothes and made "installment payments".
Lao Li said that he recently met a businessman who took him to dance halls and luxury supper shops, and felt the taste of the life of the rich. The happiest thing is to find a young and beautiful girl and talk about love.
An ordinary worker, living a luxurious life, is a sign of a loser at first glance. However, the joy of "squandering money" is impossible to refuse.
Zeng Guofan said: "Family defeat is inseparable from luxury, human defeat is inseparable from ease, and dislike is inseparable from arrogance." ”Many people, when they are young, are used to "eating all out", and blindly invest in future money and consume in advance. As a result, they are getting poorer and poorer.
What's even more terrifying is that they have contracted bad habits such as stealing and gambling money, and the pleasure of a while brings endless pain.
Fourth, reject ill-gotten gains and leave the "rich people" who take the initiative to lend to you.
I often hear about things that I can't afford to repay for a lifetime because of loan sharks. I wanted to rely on other people's money to have a surprise of "borrowing chickens and laying eggs", but unexpectedly, I fell into someone else's trap.
All good things that fall off the pie are disasters", if you can't keep this sentence in mind, then you will be confused by the "money" in front of you and enter into the routine designed by others.
Let's say you open a restaurant and the business is average. Someone encourages you to expand the scale and decorate luxuriously, and it will be running immediately. As for investing, he'll help you out.
The two methods of "coercion and inducement" can be effective in front of most people. Everyone wants to make a fortune and they all want to make a fortune, it's instinct.
To be a man, you have to be clear-headed, and the money you can easily get will make you pay several times the price. It's better to make money steadily, even if you are poor, you can live a solid life, and you still have a chance to turn over.
People are afraid of making the wrong friends, and they are afraid of giving to the wrong person.
Someone comes to help you, and someone comes to harm you, and you have to treat it differently.
In a group, a grain of rat droppings ruins a pot of porridge. The role of the bad guys, more vividly than the role of the good guys, is played very quickly.
Many people have no success in their lives, not because he is not smart enough and has no opportunities, but because he was "controlled and pulled into the water" by the people around him.
When a person joins a group, it is also a process of "mutual penetration in thought and mutual restraint in action". If you want to be a tiger, don't be with rats and flies.
The older you get, the more sober you become, and the chances of changing your fate are slowly decreasing.
When the interruption continues, it is chaotic. Even if you really need help, stay away from garbage people and prefer to go it alone.
Different people, different lives, who you are with, you will become "who".