On Zhihu, someone asked: What is true maturity?
In the reliable answer, there is such a sentence:You don't have to prove anything to anyone, including yourself.
Along the way in life, I have played a lot of roles, and I have borne a lot of pain and joy, and in the end, I have to be myself.
When you're fifty years old, the left is young and the right is old. If you still have to toss yourself, it means that you have not yet lived to understand, or you are still in a difficult situation, and the necessities of retirement are not ready.
In any case, it must be admitted that the second half of life has begun, take the initiative to retreat, and be a resilient person in order to live a peaceful life.
The rest of your life is not long, and it is a blessing not to fight. All the things that are forced are to embarrass themselves.
Without fighting for money, people's hearts become peaceful.
In the second volume of "Yu Shi Mingyan", there is such a small story.
There was a county magistrate who went to patrol the street and saw two men arguing. He walked over and asked, "What's the situation?" ”
It turned out that a young man named Jin Xiao picked up a package with thirty taels of silver in it. Kim Hyo took the initiative to return the package to the owner.
The owner insisted that there were fifty taels of silver in the package, and Jin Xiao secretly took it. The owner wants to blackmail the good guys.
County Yin said:"It's easy to do. Since the amount of silver does not match, it means that this package is an 'ownerless package' and should be given to a well-wisher who has collected gold. ”
The ancients said, "If you want to seek others, you will lose yourself; Shame yourself, others rejoice. ”According to common sense, if you lose something and someone finds it, you should be grateful and give something in return. If you blackmail people and want to fight for some benefits, you will get bad retribution.
And so on, money that doesn't belong to you, never fight, otherwise it will be full of copper smell, which will pollute people's hearts.
When you relax your heart, your desires decrease, and your heart becomes simple and abundant. After all, to be a human being, you can't make money with a bad conscience, let alone covet the world's money.
Being able to retire as you wish is the most celebrating blessing.
If you don't argue about right and wrong, the family can be harmonious.
There is an old song that sings well: "This is love that can't be said clearly, this is love is confused and confused, this is love that he forgets the troubles of the world, and this is how love can maintain the temperature of confusion." ”As a family, why can we go through the years together? It's not that everyone doesn't have individuality, and it's not that the family has much wealth, but because they love each other.
If you are unwilling to bow your head and always have to be a "big parent", it means that you are too domineering and have no love for your family.
My father used to say something like this"It's me who was confused and mistaken. ”
In many things, my mother made a mistake, and my father would say the same. Afterwards, my mother was embarrassed when she recalled her mistake.
Perhaps, because of "being confused", my father tolerated my mother's stinky temper and straight nature.
Love is an indescribable thing. Two people who are thousands of miles apart will come together; A noisy family can also survive for decades.
Always bow your head and don't fight with your family, and in the second half of your life, you will meet a reliable wife, filial children, and friendly brothers and sisters. You must understand that when people are old, home is the most reliable backing.
Indisputable status, the workplace can advance and retreat.
On Zhihu, an anonymous netizen said that when she just graduated from college, she successfully entered a large company. Because the company still needs to recruit people, she took the initiative to invite her roommate to apply.
After the roommate entered the company, netizens found out that the departments of the two people were different, and the salaries were not the same. Roommates are paid less.
After a while, the company's personnel changed, and the roommate snatched away the position that originally belonged to netizens.
Netizens said: "Tired, tired." ”
For the post, you fight for me, fight openly and secretly, and you can often encounter it in the workplace. And you've done it yourself to win over your boss and get promoted.
By the age of fifty, the profession is at the ceiling. The best way to work is to leave a good reputation in time.
If a colleague is promoted, you applaud him, cheer him on, and the relationship becomes more harmonious. Retirement is about leaving the workplace, and it's a positive state of mind. To accept the abdication psychologically is to enjoy the blessing of "ignorance and powerlessness".
Don't compete for the amount of alcohol, and be in good health.
For a while, my colleague Lao Li was often "drunk" at dinner. Picking up the wine glass, before he had passed three laps, he said, "I can't drink it anymore, I'm willing to bow down."
When I left the dinner and saw Lao Li's lively appearance, I suddenly understood that he was pretending to be drunk.
One, two, two, two, two gargle, three, two, four, two are not considered wine, five, two, six, two and two support the wall and walk, and seven, two, eight, two are still roaring. "Come to think of it, the smoothness of drinking is worrying.
If you're fifty years old, no matter how much you drink, throw in the towel and don't fight anyone. Competing for the first place in the wine game is not a hero, but a harm to others and oneself.
You are also the eldest and drunk, and the family is very worried; It's too late to come home, life is not safe; Often in a hurry, life is irregular. Drinking alcohol is not a good thing from any point of view.
To be drunk is to pay for sin. To outsiders, you're just making a joke.
During the Spring and Autumn Period, Zigong asked Confucius: "Teacher, you always look at water, why?" ”
Confucius said: "Its flow is also down, and the detention must follow its reason, which is like righteousness." ”
Water flows to a lower place, which is the law of water, which is "righteousness".
What is the geometry of life? It is precisely the spring water of a river flowing eastward", learning not to fight, is the real affection and righteousness, is the real homeopathy.
Everyone wants to win, but anything in society is destined to win or lose. If you don't lose and I don't lose, who can win? It should be a lose-lose situation, and there are endless disputes.
After 50 years of hurrying, "advance" is the backbone, and "retreat" is courage.
The rest of your life is not long, let others win, and you can go to say goodbye; Make your family happy and yourself in the midst of laughter; Let others be triumphant, and snicker on the sidelines; Put your worries behind and be able to be alone. It's all a blessing.
The rest of your life is not long, and if you don't fight, it's the pattern - if you are good for others, you will be blessed for yourself.