Not every mother has experienced postpartum depression, but almost every postpartum mother has experienced postpartum depression and emotional out-of-control.
As a mother who has taken care of her baby alone until she is one year old, and still takes care of her children completely by herself every day except for work hours, I know all too well the feeling of collapse but nowhere to vent.
I have also experienced postpartum depression and even loss of control, I don't know if I am depressed, because I never want to give myself such a hint, so I did not go to the doctor for a diagnosis.
Fortunately, I have now walked out of the vicious circle of internal friction, and I feel that it was not easy to be in the past, and I am also grateful to myself for gritting my teeth and persevering.
In order to cope with the emotional loss of control after childbirth, I did several things:
01 Don't compare
The moment the child comes out of the body, we not only change our identity, our mentality has changed, but the most is that the body has changed, and the real pain in the body and the looseness of the stomach are always reminding us: you are not the same person you used to be. In the face of changes in our figure, we always think of our former slender selves, think of ourselves wearing beautiful clothes, and can't help but envy when we see other mothers who look better than ourselves after giving birth. 
We feel that we are not good-looking, because we are not as good-looking as before, and we are not as good-looking as others, and then the more we think about it, the more uncomfortable it becomes. In this case, what we need to do is to reduce this unnecessary comparison, whether it is with our previous self or with others, try not to make comparisons. You must know that every mother's physical condition is different, and our recovery before and after childbirth is also different, and there will always be people with better conditions than yourself. During childbirth, the emotional and physical body is very fragile, and we reduce these behaviors that add to our own troubles, so that we can keep ourselves in a good mood and recover sooner. 
So don't always compare yourself to others, just accept yourself as you are. 02 If you feel uncomfortable, speak up
It is normal for mothers to face some physical or psychological problems after giving birth, and many times we want to let our family members accompany us more, but we are afraid to appear hypocritical when we say it, so we try to attract the attention of our family through some hints or actions. But the family can't always get our thoughts, so they choose to ignore them, which makes us have a certain psychological gap, and then we will give birth to the idea that we are not valued. We must speak out loud in this situation to let the family know that we are not feeling well and know what we think. Don't everyone guess and guess, we are aggrieved, and our families feel inexplicable. 
Some mothers will become inferior because of the changes in the body after childbirth, and feel uncomfortable when they feel unspeakable, we must know that giving birth to a baby is a great thing, and the changes we have caused because of giving birth to a baby are the medals that we have fought for our little life as mothers, so there is nothing unspeakable. We must let our family know that we are uncomfortable and that it is not easy for us to better help us. 03 Swing it out at the right time
After giving birth, mothers seem to have a strong sense of innate responsibility, and it seems that falling asleep, changing diapers, breastfeeding, and crying in the middle of the night should be their own business. If we don't do these things, it seems that we are not a qualified mother. We need to know that we are only the one who is responsible for bringing the child into this world, but taking care of him as a whole family, at least for mom and dad. So don't take your own feelings too seriously, do as much as you can, and call others to do what you can't do, if others don't do it and the impact is not so big, then put it first. Don't put too much pressure on yourself, don't let yourself be too tired, and let yourself out of the trough with an indifferent attitude. 
When the time comes, you will find that once we start to mess up, others will immediately stand up, because everyone loves children, but if we do more, others will do less. There was a time when I felt like I had a lot of things to do, and I was too busy, so I was so tired and really anxious, and then I just messed up. Good guys, it's really not too cool to put it badly, it's not bad for the child to cry a few more times, someone will come to hug it soon, it doesn't matter if the hygiene is not cleaned in time, whoever can't stand it will get it. In short, the old lady has given birth to children, so don't care about anything else in advance, taking care of yourself is the king. 04 If you really feel unwell, go to the doctor
Within 24 hours after giving birth, our estrogen levels, which increase in the third trimester, plummet, and the hormone produced by the thyroid gland also drop dramatically, can cause fatigue, sluggishness, and depression. Changes in blood volume, blood pressure, immune system, and metabolism are also the reasons for new mothers to feel weak and have mood swings. 
So, having a bad mood or losing control of your emotions is not caused by us, but by our body feeding back to us, which is a very normal physiological phenomenon. If it is not well controlled and intervened, it can really turn into depression. Therefore, if you really feel very uncomfortable or helpless, then you should go to the doctor in time and don't secretly digest it yourself, because extreme forbearance cannot digest bad emotions, but will become more uncomfortable. Seeing a doctor is not a shameless thing, but a more responsible performance for yourself and your family. 05 Learn to reward yourself
It's so hard to give birth to a child, and it's so tiring to take care of a child, so it's nothing to give yourself a little reward. Buy something that you have liked for a long time but are reluctant to buy, or take the child to the family temporarily, take it out by yourself, do something you like, or lie down and meditate alone. 
In short, we have to choose a way to make ourselves happy, and if we really don't know what to do, we should just empty ourselves. Empty yourself and then have enough space to accept the days ahead. Time is short, days are long, I hope every mother can learn to love herself.