Education is something that every family attaches great importance to. However, when it comes to choosing a child's school, there are often irrational decisions that occur. Parents may stop at nothing to pursue so-called "key schools" for the sake of their children's future. However, it's worth pondering that schools with high scores aren't always right for every child. This article will start from a parent's story and the importance of choosing the most suitable school for your child's development.
Every time it comes to the high school entrance examination and college entrance examination, parents are often anxious. Some children may be just one or two points away from getting into the school of their choice, so parents want to help their children achieve this goal at any cost. They may go around asking for help or even spend a lot of money in exchange for their child getting into a so-called key school. However, is this really in line with the child's actual situation?
Favors and relationships are common practices for some parents when their children are not ideal in exams. They may invest a lot of effort and money in their child's education, but ignore the importance of prioritizing the child's personality, interests, and learning style when choosing a school. One parent was anxious to transfer her child to a key secondary school because he was only two points short of his test scores. Does this pursuit of high scores really meet the actual needs of children?
In the case I have experienced, a parent has paid a huge price for their child to get into a key school, but it backfired. Instead of making a breakthrough by entering a key school, the child has become more passive and unmotivated academically. The parent eventually realized that choosing a school is not only based on rankings and scores, but also about the child's individual differences and learning status. As a result, he chose to re-examine the needs of his children and move to schools that focus on personality development and a learning atmosphere.
When choosing the right school for you, we should be clear: both the head and the tail have their own unique light, and not all children are suitable to become "phoenix tails". If the school is compared to a chicken head and a phoenix tail, then choose a school that suits you, and would rather be a chicken head than blindly pursue the glamour of the phoenix tail.
Although the chicken head is not highly ranked, it also has its own unique value. In some upper-middle schools, the teaching may be closer to the child's actual level, and the teacher will be more targeted to help each student improve. In such a school, children are not prone to the dilemma of losing self-confidence and self-motivation in learning. In contrast, if you force yourself into a school with high scores that do not meet your actual level, it is likely that students will not be able to keep up with the pace of teaching, and eventually lead to passivity and low self-esteem.
Choosing a school with top grades will certainly bring a halo and a certain degree of resource advantage to the child, but there are also risks. Some children may not adapt to the learning atmosphere of the school, resulting in a decline in learning enthusiasm or even rebellion. This maladaptation can lead to a decline in a child's ability to learn, far outweighing the small advantages that come with attending a so-called "good school".
In the process of educating children, it is not only about pursuing the level of scores, but also about cultivating children's interest in learning, self-confidence and self-motivation. Choosing a school that is right for you will not only help your child progress steadily in their studies, but also help them find their own path in growth. It is better to be a chicken head than a phoenix tail, so that every child can get the most suitable education and growth environment, and move towards the road to success.
On the road of education, each child is unique, and the most suitable school should be chosen according to his actual situation and personality characteristics. Only in this way can children thrive in an environment that suits them and realize their potential. I hope that every parent can make a wise choice on the road of their children's education, so that they can bloom the most beautiful style in the school that suits them.