"Please divorce me and let me live! ”
Yang Nan, a female doctor in Henan, never dreamed that her husband, who had disappeared for a long time, saw her for the first time, and had no imaginary guilt and warmth, and would kneel down and beg him for divorce.
Du Haiwei knelt down and begged Yang Nan to let him go.
Yang Nan graduated from Shanghai Jiao Tong University, met her husband and knew each other on campus, the sweet campus love affair finally came to fruition, Yang Nan's love and career were both harvested, and she was very happy for a while, which can be called a "winner in life".
However, a sudden illness completely shattered Yang Nan's sweet and happy life.
In 2015, Yang Nan was diagnosed with mid-to-late stage autoimmune cirrhosis and needed 800,000 yuan for liver replacement surgery to recover.
Just when Yang Nan needed someone to take care of her the most, her husband disappeared as if the world had evaporated during her illness.
Yang Nan and her husband Du Haiwei.
However, just when Yang Nan was sad and desperate, his father revealed a shocking secret!
Why did her husband choose to disappear during Yang Nan's illness? What shocking secret did Yang Nan's father tell? Where will Yang Nan, whose health is deteriorating, go?
Yang Nan was born in an ordinary worker's family in Henan Province, although his parents are ordinary workers, but they are not sloppy about Yang Nan's education at all.
In that small county town that thinks that "a woman is virtuous if she is not talented", Yang Nan is different from other girls who drop out of school early and stay at home, she knows that only learning is her only way out.
Yang Nan. Therefore, Yang Nan has been working hard in her studies, and she has never let her parents worry about her studies.
Ten years of hard work, once the title of the gold list.
Yang Nan was admitted to Luoyang Normal University with his own efforts and officially started his college career.
When the classmates around him who had just entered college began to fall in love, Yang Nan did not put his mind on other things, but devoted himself to studying.
Yang Nan was admitted to Sichuan University for a master's degree.
She firmly believes that only by studying can she change her destiny, so after four years of hard work in college, Yang Nan was admitted to Sichuan University for a master's degree with excellent results.
Yang Nan, who requires himself to continue to improve and improve in his studies, does not stop thereYang Nan finally relied on his hard work for many years to obtain a doctoral degree in optical engineering from Shanghai Jiao Tong University.
Yang Nan was admitted to Shanghai Jiao Tong University as a doctoral student.
Yang Nan successfully obtained a doctoral degree in a prestigious university, and her future is bright, she has not only become the pride of her parents, but also a role model for many children in her hometown.
In that small county town that still does not agree that girls should study more, Yang Nan has become a well-known female doctor in the local area who has been admitted to a prestigious school by virtue of her own strength.
Yang Nan has obtained various honorary certificates.
Due to Yang Nan's outstanding achievements in his work, he also won the second prize of doctoral scholarship.
Although the parents are proud of Yang Nan's academic achievements, seeing that their daughter has been obsessed with her studies for so many years, Yang Nan, who is nearly thirty years old in the blink of an eye, has never been in love.
Parents couldn't help but start worrying about Yang Nan's lifelong events, but at this moment, destined fate also came to Yang Nan's side unconsciously.
At an academic exchange meeting organized by the school, when Yang Nan saw Du Haiwei, a senior who was making an academic report on the stage, talking eloquently, Yang Nan was immediately attracted by this confident and talkative boy.
Yang Nan and Du Haiwei.
Yang Nan agreed with Du Haiwei's unique academic opinions, admired Du Haiwei's confidence when he reported on stage, and was deeply impressed by his mature and steady temperament.
It was such an academic report meeting that made Yang Nan have the heart of a girl for the first time.
Although he has never been in love, but when he meets someone he likes and admires, Yang Nan decided to be brave for love.
Yang Nan and Du Haiwei confirmed their relationship.
Through Yang Nan's introduction, she finally had the opportunity to meet Du Haiwei.
Through several meetings and conversations, Yang Nan learned that Du Haiwei was two years older than him, not only his fellow villagers, but also from working families, with the same growth environment and hobbies.
Yang Nan and Du Haiwei held a wedding.
At first, the two of them have been communicating with each other in the name of learning and exchange, and as they got to know each other, Du Haiwei gradually discovered that Yang Nan was a hard-working girl.
The same interests and hobbies, the same goal, made Du Haiwei and Yang Nan secretly affectionate in their usual study and life, Du Haiwei didn't want to miss such an excellent girl, so he showed his heart to Yang Nan.
Yang Nan was naturally overjoyed and agreed to Du Haiwei's confession, and this like-minded couple became the envy of everyone on campus.
Yang Nan and Du Haiwei walked into the palace of marriage hand in hand.
In 2012, after two years of dating, the two finally entered the palace of marriage hand in hand and became family members who will be with each other for a lifetime.
After marriage, the sweetness of Yang Nan and her husband is still undiminished, and her husband takes good care of herself, which not only makes Yang Nan's friends envious, but also makes Yang Nan can't help but be glad that she is married to love.
However, such a sweet love and marriage became fragmented because of a sudden change.
In 2015, when Yang Nan was about to graduate as a doctoral student, she was often busy.
At this time, her husband Du Haiwei also went to Japan to continue his studies because of a rare opportunity.
Although the young couple had to go apart soon after they got married, they were busy working hard with each other for a common goal.
Yang Nan after illness.
Yang Nan and her husband have been living separately since they got married, but Yang Nan understands the hard work and difficulty of her husband's work, and her husband is also caring and considerate to her.
Although the husband and wife can't accompany each other at work and in life, they often chat to relieve the pain of lovesickness.
One day in May, when Yang Nan finished her busy work, just as she got up and was about to leave the research room, the world suddenly turned, and Yang Nan's eyes were dark, and she fell headlong in the research room.
This really frightened the students in the laboratory, and everyone worked together to send Yang Nan to the school doctor's office, and everyone thought that Yang Nan was overtired due to working too hard for several days.
Yang Nan went to the hospital for treatment.
Yang Nan didn't pay much attention to it at first, thinking that he would return to normal after a few days of rest, but the dizziness and nausea for several days made Yang Nan realize that things were not as simple as he imagined.
In the end, Yang Nan, accompanied by his colleagues, came to the hospital for a systematic examination, but the results of the examination were like a thunderbolt from the sky, which Yang Nan could not accept for a long time.
I saw that Yang Nan's diagnosis book read: She was diagnosed with autoimmune cirrhosis!
Yang Nan was hospitalized**.
Yang Nan repeatedly asked herself in her heart: she is still very young, she and her husband have only been newly married, she has no children of her own, and she has never enjoyed the happiness of being a mother, why is fate so unfair to herself?
Yang Nan's condition is very dangerous, and if he can't be treated in time, he will be at risk of endangering his life at any time.
Because he was very weak, he also needed someone to take care of him if he was hospitalized, and after thinking about it again, Yang Nan decided to suspend his studies and return to his parents in Henan.
Yang Nan needed 800,000 yuan for liver replacement surgery.
At the same time, her husband, who was far away in Japan, also learned of Yang Nan's illness, immediately booked a ticket back to China, and returned to his hometown in Henan non-stop to accompany his sick wife.
In order to enable Yang Nan to get better treatment, Du Haiwei took his wife to Beijing, Shanghai and other places to seek medical treatment.
The diagnosis results of major hospitals recommended that Yang Nan undergo liver replacement surgery, but the cost of liver replacement surgery was as high as more than 800,000 yuanThis amount is an astronomical amount for a couple who have not yet graduated with a PhD.
Yang Nan, who was helpless after falling ill.
In order to raise more money, Du Haiwei had to continue to return to Japan for further study, hoping to work as soon as possible and earn money to let his wife undergo liver replacement surgery as soon as possible.
After her husband returned to Japan to work, Yang Nan also had to return home to recuperate, and maintained her condition by taking some basic medicines every day.
In the first two years of Du Haiwei's departure, he would often talk to Yang Nan on the phone, ask about his wife's condition, and ask for warmth from time to time, caring about Yang Nan's physical condition.
However, with the development of Yang Nan's illness, her health deteriorated, from dizziness at the beginning to complete inability to work, Yang Nan had to leave her beloved school and recuperate at home with peace of mind.
Yang Nan relied on his parents to take care of him during his illness.
Yang Nan, who has completely lost her economic **, can only rely on her husband who is far away in Japan to call some living expenses regularly to make ends meet, and she usually has to rely on her parents to take care of her daily life.
But as time went by, Yang Nan's condition not only did not improve, but became more and more serious.
Repeated examinations and daily medications are like a bottomless pit, putting the family in jeopardy.
As a family member of the patient, Du Haiwei also gradually lost the care and patience of his wife under the huge pressure for many years.
Yang Nan with her parents.
His attitude towards Yang Nan became more and more tired, and he became more and more cold, until in the end, he was no longer willing to give Yang Nan even living expenses.
The couple who were in love in the past finally couldn't resist the blow of reality, and the sweetness of the past has long gone, leaving only boundless indifference and despair.
Yang Nan was unable to do any work normally after his illness, and the first expense has been spent hundreds of thousands of yuan one after another during the five-year period.
In the first two years, Du Haiwei would give Yang Nan some living expenses one after another, but in the past two years, her husband ignored her, and even disappeared like evaporating from the world.
After working in Japan for three years, Du Haiwei returned to China in 2016 to work in Chongqing, and soon after moved to teach at a university in Nanchang, Jiangxi Province.
Since 2017, Du Haiwei will give Yang Nan 2,000 yuan for living expenses every other month, and under Yang Nan's painstaking questioning, Du Haiwei has transferred a total of 4 to her60,000 yuan.
However, since March 2018, Du Haiwei has begun to ignore his wife, or even avoid it.
originally transferred 2,000 yuan to Yang Nan every other month for living expenses, but Du Haiwei was no longer willing to pay.
Due to the lack of timely ** all year round, Yang Nan's body and face are covered with bruises caused by liver cirrhosis.
Yang Nan's condition continued to deteriorate.
Although her condition continued to deteriorate, Yang Nan, who had no news from her husband and had no financial **, had to stop some of her ** medications, which led to the rapid deterioration of her condition.
According to the doctor's request, Yang Nan needs to go to a hospital in Beijing every two months for a follow-up.
However, at this time, Yang Nan didn't want to go to Beijing for a recheck, and he couldn't even afford the most basic medicine.
Some of the drugs Yang Nan is currently taking need to be taken at an interval of one hour, and some even need to be taken every half an hour.
Yang Nan needs to take a lot of medicine to stabilize his condition.
The violent drug reaction made Yang Nan dizzy and nauseous, so she had to lie in bed often to relieve it, spending most of the day in bed.
But her husband Du Haiwei has always refused to meet Yang Nan on the grounds that he has a job in Nanchang, Jiangxi.
and constantly urged Yang Nan to return to live with his parents, so that his elderly parents could take care of Yang Nan, who was seriously ill.
"I felt like a kitten and a puppy had been abandoned, and it was particularly devastating. ”
Faced with her husband's indifference and ruthlessness, Yang Nan felt desperate and sad.
Yang Nan with his father.
In order to treat their daughter, Yang Nan's parents have spent all their family savings.
The high medical expenses are like a bottomless pit, and Yang Nan's parents, who are over 70 years old, have to set up a roadside stall to sell vegetables in exchange for a meager income to treat Yang Nan's illness.
Yang Nan's elderly parents ride a tricycle every day at 5:30 a.m. and usually don't return home until more than 2 p.m.
But even with such hard work, I only earn fifty or sixty yuan a day.
However, compared with Yang Nan's medical expenses, these incomes from selling vegetables are tantamount to a drop in the bucket.
Even so, the old couple never dared to stop, as long as they could earn a dollar and buy some basic life-sustaining drugs for their daughter, the old couple would persevere no matter how hard and tired they were.
Although Yang Nan has stopped many medications, Yang Nan still needs to take about 2,000 yuan of medicine every month to barely maintain his life.
"I haven't repaid my parents, but I still have to let them work for me, and if it weren't for me, they would have lived in peace. ”
Seeing his parents dragging their elderly bodies for their own illness, selling vegetables every day to make money, Yang Nan felt guilty in his eyes.
In order to no longer let his elderly parents work so hard because of himself, Yang Nan even thought about giving up ** to reduce the pressure on his parents.
However, at this time, his father told Yang Nan a secret that had been hidden for more than 30 years.
His father told Yang Nan that he was not his own.
It turned out,Yang Nan is not the biological daughter of her parents, but a child raised by the old couple from a neighboring village!
Yang Nan's biological parents were deeply influenced by traditional ideas and always wanted to have a boy.
Therefore, after giving birth to three daughters in succession, they had to give up their youngest daughter to others.
And Yang Nan's adoptive mother was also unable to have children after giving birth to a son due to physical reasons.
Therefore, they always wanted a daughter, and took Yang Nan home to raise them.
Yang Nan's adoptive parents.
This adoption is more than 30 years, and the adoptive parents have always regarded Yang Nan as their own.
Not only in Yang Nan's life and study, but also in his adoptive parents, he did his best.
Even though Yang Nan is seriously ill now, the adoptive parents have never given up on Yang Nan, but have tried every means to earn money for their daughter's treatment.
Although his father chose to tell the truth, this truth still hit Yang Nan quite hard.
Suffering from a serious illness and the mystery of her life experience were revealed, the double blow made Yang Nan collapse, and she even refused to take care of her adoptive parents for a time, unwilling to accept any financial support from her adoptive parents.
Yang Nan asked for help.
"Girl, don't worry, Mom and Dad will definitely be by your side, we will definitely be able to cure this disease! ”
Seeing that Yang Nan, who was deeply devastated, was discouraged, his adoptive father repeatedly and patiently persuaded Yang Nan.
Her father's simple words were a great comfort and encouragement to Yang Nan, and also made her more confident that she could face the rest of her life.
Yang Nan's husband Du Haiwei.
Yang Nan, who regained her confidence, decided to find Du Haiwei by all means and let him take on the responsibilities of being a husband.
So Yang Nan turned to the local news**, hoping to help her find her husband with the help of the power of **.
No matter why her husband left and avoided her, she wanted to seek an answer from him in person.
On August 1, 2020, under the active coordination of the local **, Yang Nan finally met her husband Du Haiwei in Zhengzhou.
"Please let me go! ”
Yang Nan asked for help to find a husband.
However, what Yang Nan never expected was that after a long time, her husband saw her for the first time, and she had neither care nor guilt.
Instead, he asked Yang Nan to let himself go and agree to his divorce request.
Yang Nan looked at the man in front of him who he had loved deeply, both familiar and unfamiliar.
Du Haiwei begged Yang Nan bitterly.
Recalling the scenes of love between husband and wife in the past, and comparing the determination of her husband in front of her, Yang Nan's emotions collapsed for a while.
Since 2018, Du Haiwei has begun to ignore his wife.
Even knowing that Yang Nan did not have any financial **, but needed high medical expenses, he was no longer willing to give his wife a penny.
Every time the desperate Yang Nan asks her husband for money, what she gets is always her husband's ruthless abuse and cold violence.
"Hurry up and die! ”
"I hate you! ”
The husband even replied in a text message asking Yang Nan to die quickly, and used vicious words to stimulate Yang Nan again and again to agree to the divorce.
During the days when Du Haiwei was avoided, Yang Nan not only had to endure the torture of illness, but also had to endure the double torture of her husband's spirit.
However, when Yang Nan finally saw her husband after a lot of hardships and thought that everything could be improved, her husband's indifferent and ruthless attitude made Yang Nan unacceptable for a while.
Yang Nan is unwilling to divorce her husband from the bottom of her heart, on the one hand, she is now seriously ill and needs someone to take care of her, and on the other hand, she can't let go of her relationship with her husband for 8 years.
"I don't think we have an emotional foundation anymore. ”
In the face of Yang Nan's bitter pleading, Du Haiwei said that he had no feelings for his wife and insisted on divorce.
Yang Nan said that he wanted to live.
"I just want to survive. ”
Yang Nan, who was helpless, felt that the divorce at this time was tantamount to taking her life.
Just when Yang Nan and her husband were arguing over the divorce, her husband suddenly knelt in front of Yang Nan with a "plop".
"I'm 40 years old this year, I don't have any children yet, please let me go! ”
Seeing the seven-foot man in front of him kneeling in front of him, Yang Nan vaguely remembered that the last time her husband knelt in front of her was to propose to her, and this time her husband knelt in front of her to beg her for divorce.
The same man, the same action, but for diametrically opposite purposes, now it seems embarrassing.
Yang Nan finally agreed to the divorce.
Although Yang Nan knew that she still had feelings and dependence on her husband, in the face of her husband's resolute attitude, Yang Nan also knew that they could no longer go back to the past.
Yang Nan finally chose to fulfill her husband and agreed to Du Haiwei's divorce request.
However, considering that her health is deteriorating, the most realistic problem is in front of her, and the premise of Yang Nan's divorce from her husband is that she must help her repay the debts she owes over the years.
In recent years, in order to treat his illness, Yang Nan, who does not have any economic **, has owed 520,000 yuan in foreign debts and 120,000 yuan in arrears on credit cards.
Yang Nan showed the bill for many years of illness.
Hearing that he needed to repay the debt of 640,000 yuan at one time, Du Haiwei said that he was just an ordinary university teacher and did not have so much money, so he could only help Yang Nan repay 300,000 yuan at most.
Du Haiwei also claimed that since his wife's illness, he had given Yang Nan a total of more than 200,000 yuan, and now he has spent all his savings.
However, this statement was refuted by Yang Nan in person, according to the transfer records issued by Yang NanDu Haiwei successively transferred a total of 4 to her60,000 yuan.
Because the two parties could not reach an agreement on the repayment amount, in the end, under the negotiation of the family, Du Haiwei promised to transfer the arrears to Yang Nan in installments.
At the same time,During the period when Du Haiwei and his wife were not divorced, Yang Nan still had to give 2,000 yuan every month as living expenses.
In order to prove to everyone that he could fulfill his promise as promised, Du Haiwei immediately transferred 500 yuan to Yang Nan to show his sincerity.
However, Du Haiwei has vividly interpreted "one set in front of people, one set in front of people".
The day after the two parties negotiated the divorce and repayment, Du Haiwei suddenly changed his mind and his attitude changed 180 degrees.
Yang Nan turned to the local women's federation for help.
Not only did he owe the 640,000 yuan promised the day before, Du Haiwei said that he would not repay a penny.
Even for the living expenses of 2,000 yuan per month, Du Haiwei said that he could only give 1,000 yuan, and the rest of the money would be used to repay the debt.
In desperation, Yang Nan had to turn to the local women's federation for help and ask for relevant legal aid to help him get justice.
Husband and wife were originally birds of the same forest, and they flew separately when disaster came.
The loving couple who originally knew each other in a small time could not resist the test of reality in the end, and they needed to go to court through legal channels.
While making people feel the fragility of feelings, they can't help but reflect on the meaning of marriage.
Marriage is a contract concluded by emotion, and from the moment the husband and wife choose each other, it not only means that the happiness and happiness of the rest of their lives should be shared together, but also that they will not leave the pain and frustration.
Because marriage is not only a companionship to get along day and night, but also a responsibility to share weal and bene.
I hope that Du Haiwei can take the initiative to take on the responsibility of her husband, and I also hope that Yang Nan's condition can be as soon as possible.