The sunset is infinitely better, just near dusk.
When people are old, they have nothing to do, go out for a walk, and travel with their wives.
On special days, it is not lively to reunite with children.
However, as I get older, the taste of life is not so pleasant.
When the last rays of the setting sun disappeared from the mountain, the sky was dark, and even if there were stars in the sky, it still could not stop the cool wind and drive away the arrival of the night.
Life is a cycle, and learning to go with the flow is the only way to get better.
People are old and can't walk anymore, so they need to keep their sanity.
Before his death, Zen Master Tang Baofu told **: Recently, my strength is not good, and it must be that the limit has come. ”
* They said, "How can it?" ** The body is still in good health.
There is a ** question, the real limit has arrived, is it to go or stay? How is it good?
Zen Master Baofu asked rhetorically, what should I do?
* AnswerLife or death, everything is as it is, let it go.
Zen Master Baofu left very satisfied.
A wise man once said, "The birth and death of a man is like a drop of water, which is born and extinguished, and returns to water." ”Life and death are all natural rules, don't worry, everything will return to the original state. That's true, but there are really very few people who can do it.
After all, you and I are mortals, and we can't have the realm of Zen masters.
Aging peacefully and gracefully is a wish, but it cannot be divorced from reality.
When people are old and can't walk, the rest of their lives are the way home.
My aunt, in her fifties, felt pain in her abdomen. The doctor said she had a tumor in her body and needed immediate surgery.
After a few days, the doctor changed his mind and said that it was too late, and it would be good to get some medicine and not make people so painful.
The uncle listened to the doctor's words and was at a loss. He couldn't believe that his wife, who had been with him for more than 20 years, was really leaving him.
The family tried their best to hide the specific situation of the illness.
More and more relatives and friends came to visit my aunt, and a group of them left and another group came. The frequent visits made the aunt guess the "illness".
One day, my aunt said"I don't want to eat anything, I just want to go home." ”
When people are old, they need to return to their roots, listen to the call of their hometown, just like a leaf, no matter how many times it rolls in the air, it will eventually fall at the foot of a big tree.Auntie's idea came true. She returned to her hometown and lived quietly, although she couldn't walk, but with her children and wife by her side, her face was better.
We often say, "Life and death are fate, and wealth is in heaven." ”To live for a day is to earn a day. If you are miserable, then there is no quality in life. Although your crying will arouse everyone's sympathy and be comforted by your wife, the uncomfortable person is yourself, and it is really unnecessary.
For old couples, the one who leaves first is a blessing. After all, he was taken care of the best, he couldn't walk, and some people pushed wheelchairs, and he could also look at the scenery at the door.
People are old and can't walk anymore, and they need to adjust their mentality.
** "Alive" reads: "As a word, 'alive' is full of power in our Chinese language, and its power does not come from shouting or attacking, but from enduring, to endure the responsibilities that life gives us, to endure the happiness and suffering, boredom and mediocrity that reality gives us." ”From **, we can see the epitome of life, and we can also draw nutrients, for the arrangement of the twilight of life, the most important thing is the word "boiling, forbearance".
First, to survive the pain, you must have strong willpower.
Many people, when they were young, were skilled workers in their families, planting vegetables, planting rice, digging soil, raising pigs, cutting wood, and doing everything. During the Chinese New Year, he was the busiest person in the family.
When you are fifty or sixty years old, you can still carry burdens and walk long distances, but when you are sick in bed, you will become depressed, and it seems that the world will change overnight. Therefore, refusing to eat, tears flowed constantly.
In fact, the more we get to the end, the more optimistic we must be, and the human spirit cannot collapse.
You don't have the strength to work, but you can smile and infect the people around you and yourself.
Second, let go of your cranky thoughts and don't be reluctant to do anything.
There is a saying that in this life, there is only the love of parents licking the calf, and there is no way to repay.
As a parent, you love your children and want not to drag them down, but you have to drag them down. It's an opportunity to give them back.
Think about it, if you trouble your children for many days, their hearts will be less regretful about "unfilial piety".
From your own point of view, it is your blessing that you can no longer help your children, which means that you have done enough in your life, and do not continue to work.
Children and grandchildren have their own children and grandchildren, don't be cattle and horses for your children and grandchildren", the words of the ancients are to inspire you, to be willing to "let go".
The expectations of the elderly for their children are not "lifelong", and there are no hard requirements. Even if a child is not promising, you should not think about it.
Third, don't be overly stubborn and accept your children's arrangements.
There is no filial son in front of the bed for a long time", the old man fell ill, which is a test for his children.
It doesn't matter if you have to go far away with your children. It will be easier for your children to take care of you, and you will be better.
Fourth, cherish the fate of husband and wife and don't complain about each other.
Husband and wife for a lifetime, how can they not be sad at the moment of parting? No one can say what love is, but it must be able to feel it, as uncomfortable as "separation of flesh and blood".
Some people, in their last days, quarrel with their lovers and argue over certain things. It's really meaningless, cherishing every minute is the right choice.
The poet said: "Life is like the splendor of summer flowers, and death is like the quiet beauty of autumn leaves." ”
People, to live for a day is to earn a day, don't blindly pursue anything, according to the law of life, spend the rest of your life, is the best arrangement.
In addition, as children, filial piety should be reflected when the parents are healthy, and do not wait until the parents can no longer walk before remembering to do something.
Whether you want it or not, parents get older. Moreover, the speed at which we make money can never keep up with the speed at which our parents get older.
Therefore, we have to stop from time to time, take a break from time to time, talk to our parents, and accompany our parents to walk around. If you have the conditions, bring your parents with you as soon as possible, it doesn't matter if the food is good or not, as long as the family sits around and eats together, it is happiness.A good family style and a warm atmosphere can make parents in a better mental state and stay away from illness.
Finally, may the elderly of the whole world be healthy and blessed as the East China Sea.