A person with a happy original family will spend his childhood ** for a lifetime; A person who is unhappy in his original family spends his life with ** childhood.
Happy families are mostly similar, and unhappy families have their own misfortunes.
In fact, unfortunate families also have many similarities, such as being constantly hit by their parents, making you feel inferior, self-blame, guilty, feel that you are not good, no, and unimportant.
Most parents in China educate their children in this way.
But whenever you raise the slightest objection, you will be ridiculed and ridiculed by your parents, who will think that you are "rebellious", "heinous", unfilial, and thunderous.
It seems that you are a monkey who makes a lot of trouble in the sky, and will beat you back to your original shape every minute and press you to the bottom of Wuzhi Mountain.
They never care about their children's feelings, let them talk nonsense, you just can't have a little emotion, they don't realize that others are actually putting up with it.
Quantitative change will cause qualitative change. However, even on the day of qualitative change, parents still feel that they are all right and that others are wrong.
Their vision should not only frame themselves, but also firmly frame you into their vision, and do not cross the thunder pool for half a step.
Isn't this a form of extreme selfishness.
These words from your parents, you have been bearing, and one day, you will not be able to bear it and will be on the verge of collapse.
Everyone has his bottom line and principles, and there are limits to forbearance.
Please stay away from your parents' poisonous chicken soup.
What kind of people are parents?
There is a personality type called BPD personality, the scientific name of borderline personality disorder, which is extremely emotionally unstable, and it is "stable unstable".
Many people's parents are this kind of personality.
The negative impact of this personality on children starts from a young age, you are not full now, you are in poor health now, you have to wear a down jacket now, and you eat a bowl of rice again.
These words may not sound like much, but there is an important problem hidden in them, and the parents have destroyed the feelings of their children.
When we can't live with our own feelings, when we live with the demands of others, we enter a state of falsehood.
Over time, various emotional and mental problems arise.
How can this change?
The knowledge of my parents' generation is really too limited, and they live in an era of material poverty, spiritual blankness, and even absurd so-and-so movement. How can there be any advanced insight and strategy for such a generation. To get rid of your parents' poisonous chicken soup, start by raising your own awareness.
I have three pieces of advice for young people who have been poisoned by their parents' thoughts and go straight to the soul:
1.First of all, we must face up to this problem. Don't think that your parents have nagged you for decades, and those who are bitter must be good for yourself.
Adults do things, and standards are never subjective. From a result-oriented point of view, how many years have these shallow understandings hurt you?
Some parents even like to abuse their children at every turn.
It's not because you're not good enough, it's because they've projected shame and anger at their own incompetence onto you.
The reason why you have become the unhappy self you are today is because you have always accommodated your parents' thoughts, and even completed the process from understanding your parents to becoming parents?
One day, you will also carry the same tone as them, and go to blame and provoke others.
You have to realize that it's not right, that you need to correct it, that you need to change.
2.Understand the problem. I have also mentioned the origin and causes of these problems.
The shallowness of the parents' generation is essentially based on the era in which they lived, which was in ruins, barren and barren.
Now, the world has been turned upside down. Acting in old ways will only hurt you.
Once you understand the problem, you need to let go of the expectations you have in your parents.
In their generation, the probability of change is almost zero.
You have to learn to establish and stick to your own boundaries, to be yourself, for your own emotional stability.
3.Work something out. Being able to think independently is the first prerequisite for solving this problem.
Only by thinking independently can we generate the internal drive for change.
Most parents can't truly love their children selflessly.
They instill poisonous chicken soup in you, the essence of which is to ask for something from you, and exchange their output for emotional or monetary needs to be satisfied.
For example, muttering about letting you get married, and muttering about you sending money to your family, is nothing more than that your income is not high, and you want to have more face in front of relatives and friends.
It's no wonder that young people are now playing "breaking off relatives".
Finally,Economic independence is the fundamental way to solve this problem
After all the things you've tried have had little effect, physically isolate.
Avoid being in the same house and city with your parents and aunts, and go to a big city to start your own business.
Living in your own house, whether you rent or buy it, all of this requires financial support and you need to have enough financial strength.
During the whole process, you should always remind yourself that your thoughts and values are the most important, accept the thinking of the strong, and see your own strength and your own strength.
By doing all of the above, you will slowly come out of the toxic environment and rejuvenate.