Someone said: "A woman is to be a bride for one day, to be a princess for ten months, and to work hard for the rest of her life." ”
After a woman gets married, she revolves around the small family. Especially those women who marry far away, dedicate their all to their in-laws, and are worried that they will be driven away if they do not do a good job.
Women are soft-hearted and careful-hearted by nature, and slowly develop the habit of worrying about others.
As you get older, your marriage and family should slowly stabilize. This is common sense, but things that don't make sense happen from time to time. After all, inside and outside the home, women are not the only ones who have the final say.
Fifty knows the destiny of heaven", when a woman reaches the age of fifty, she will awaken and begin to have all kinds of "fears". On the surface, it is a symptom of menopause, but in fact, they have become rational and have come to understand.
I'm afraid of the men around me, there will be accidents.
There is a smooth saying: "Forty-one flowers for men, forty tofu scum for women." ”
This sentence has a derogatory meaning for women and needs to be resisted. But it also illustrates a social aspect: the older a man is, the more valuable he is, and the older a woman is, the more decaying she becomes.
When men reach the age of forty or fifty, they are still full of vitality, and because they have a successful career and have more savings, they are favored by young girls. And women are the opposite.
Therefore, women are worried that men will leave themselves because of the expansion of desire. Leads to marriage, fragmentation.
In addition, the man got sick and lost the ability to start a business and get rich; Socializing too intensively with some fox friends and dog friends leads to bad people's hearts; Suddenly all the money was lost. Women are very worried about these things, after all, men are the pillars of the family and cannot fall.
I am afraid that my children will not be able to be independent because of their lack of interest.
As the saying goes, "There is no greater sorrow than the death of the heart." ”To live, people need to have hope. As a woman, the greatest hope is that "children will have a future". Although the traditional concept of motherhood and child is less obvious, it still affects the status of women.
The key to a woman's ability to prosper her husband and family is to "educate her children".
Fifty-year-old women, most of their children, are adults, don't always keep an eye on the prison. However, how are the children doing, are they dealing with vicious people, and are they able to buy a house in a big city? A series of questions that will plague a woman's heart.
As long as there is a loser, the family will be in trouble. Men also blame women for being too incompetent.
From the dress of the children, we can see the taste of the mother; From the upbringing of children, we can see the moral quality of the mother. The society generally thinks that it puts too much pressure on women and makes her worry more.
Fear that elderly parents will be bedridden and not cared for.
I often hear people say, "Mother-in-law is not mother." ”
Many families, mother-in-law and daughter-in-law are not friendly. If she meets a very powerful mother-in-law, a woman can only be a person with her tail between her legs and tolerate everywhere.
However, the father-in-law and mother-in-law can't walk, and as a daughter-in-law, they still can't "ignore it".
People are old, and they are very pitiful to live for a long time. Women will inevitably have compassion. I have been scolded and troubled, but it is also a knife mouth and a tofu heart.
In addition, the parents of the mother's family, the woman also has to take care of it. In recent years, many single-child families have to take care of both parents, and the pressure is unimaginable. The money is small, it takes time, and even has to give up work because of it. The woman naturally became a nanny.
People, without health, there is no everything, and it will drag down the people around you. Generally speaking, when a woman reaches the age of fifty, her parents will be seventy or eighty years old, and the pain will be difficult to cope with.
I am afraid that my brothers and sisters will not be in harmony and break everyone's hearts.
A cousin of mine married from Hunan to Shaoguan.
Last year, my cousin's younger brother wanted to buy a house in the city, and he had to borrow 100,000 yuan as soon as he opened his mouth.
My cousin scraped together and just borrowed 30,000.
Unexpectedly, the mother's family has been speaking ill of her cousin since then, thinking that this daughter is very ruthless and has no feelings for her mother's family.
In my hometown, no matter what type of wedding banquet it is, if a woman's maiden family does not have "relatives and friends" present, she will be looked down upon, and the people of her in-law's family will say that it is useless.
The cousin values love and righteousness, but the brothers and sisters of her mother's family are not united, and they abandon her, and the pain in her heart can only be borne by herself.
In addition, the brothers and sisters of the in-laws are not united, and the contradictions between the concubines are very strong, which are very terrible.
I am afraid that my grandchildren will have no one to take care of and drag down my children.
Is a mother-in-law obligated to bring grandchildren?
Gao Zan's answer was very heart-wrenching:If you say that you are not obliged to take your grandchildren, your mother-in-law will be old in the future, and your daughter-in-law will not be obliged to serve.
When the filial piety of the children and the dedication of the elderly are put together, the fate of the elderly is very humble.
No matter where you are, you can often see a mother-in-law holding a child in her hands and a child behind her.
Taking care of children is a matter for parents, but many people insist on strong words, so that elderly women have no way to refute but obey.
On the other hand, women love their children more and are more experienced in taking care of them. Therefore, whether her son is married or her daughter is married, she is very concerned about who will take care of her grandson and grandson.
Perhaps, worrying is superfluous, but who can stop the thoughts of a "grandma and grandmother"?
Conclusion.
Entrepreneur Shi Yuzhu said: "I used to be a famous loser, I was afraid of failure, I couldn't stand failure, so I could only do a good job of preparing for failure." ”What should come will come, and it is useless to be afraid, so it is better to deal with it positively.
When a woman is over fifty years old, she must first be an independent and strong person, don't put her fate on anyone, and prepare the necessary conditions for retirement; Then you have to live beautifully, don't think of yourself as a grandmother, read more books to improve your temperament, and exercise more to maintain a healthy body; After that, we should communicate and coordinate more with our relatives to let ourselves live in a harmonious environment; Finally, we must insist on kindness, whether it is to family members or outsiders, we must smile, and when we encounter bad things, we must also think of the good, so that we can be stable in our hearts.
A woman who continues to get better, so much the person who loves her will naturally always be there, and all the fears are shared and shared.
I only wish that there was a person beside the woman who said, "Don't be afraid, there is me." ”