The TV series "Flowers" is a big hit, and Li Li, the proprietress of Zhizhenyuan played by Xin Zhilei in the play, has become the most "toneful" character in the play with bright red lips, big wave perms, and a dangerous and charming temperament.
Xin Zhilei herself also refreshed her character with this drama, and even Chanel sent Gao Ding to put her in the C position. TV series aside, what did all the women in life do right? It is worth pondering for each of our female friends.
I appreciate such a passage: "When IQ and EQ are high, appearance is a giveaway, and when the soul has depth, beauty is just an addition."
People will grow old as promised, only interesting souls, spiritual equivalence, and sparks in thought, will make people pursue for a lifetime. ”
The real charm of a woman is not in the face or the figure, but in having these 3 qualities.
Love yourself deeply and make self-achievement your top priority.
In life, many women always pursue marrying a good man as a career, pleasing each other everywhere and achieving each other, and after a long time, they will become the shadow behind the man, and even be rejected by men.
A truly wise woman has long understood that love is just the icing on the cake, and loving herself and achieving herself is the beginning of a woman's truly romantic life.
is like Meggie's daughter Zhu Siting in the book "Thorn Bird", with a collapsed nose and small eyes, a freckle-riddled face, skinny, and not good-looking at all, but she established her dream of becoming an actress very early on and has been working hard for it.
After entering the theater, in order to control the complex characters, she carefully figured out the mood of the characters, experienced different things first-hand, and tried to be a good actress.
However, fame was not easy, and she moved from Sydney to London, always in small roles. When her mother asked her if she was considering marriage, she contemptuously said, "Do you bow your brow to a man who is not even half as good as me, but who thinks he is right?" I'm not going to do it! ”
Zhu Siting refused to let go of her body for love, nor did she indulge in obsession, she always put love herself first, and finally, she took over her favorite role and became famous on tour.
At the same time, her self-confidence, independence, and assertiveness also attracted Reyna, a wealthy businessman who respects women from the bottom of his heart, and after 7 years of waiting, he tied the knot.
After getting married, Zhu Siting did not become a housewife revolving around the stove, but continued to shine on the stage. From beginning to end, she never compromised with anyone, but in the end, she reaped a beautiful love and a brilliant life.
Travel blogger @FangQi once said: "I don't want to run after the light, I want the light to come for me." "Yes, life is too short, instead of wasting time relying on someone who is uncertain, it is better to work hard to improve yourself and become that light.
And such a woman is undoubtedly extremely attractive.
Financially independent, not dependent on anyone in life.
Someone once said that if you don't want to suffer from working to make money, you will definitely suffer from life. There are some women in life who always want to change their fate by "marrying well".
They don't want to struggle, they just want to be climbing Lingxiaohua attached to others. Such a "shortcut" is enviable, but the problem is that once you put your destiny in the hands of others, you may lose control of your destiny, which is both dangerous and stupid.
A wise woman has long understood that only by desperately rooting downward, growing upward, and achieving economic independence can she achieve long-term and stable happiness.
My friend Xiaomin is like this, after she was pregnant with her second child, her mother-in-law and her husband who worked in other places persuaded her to quit her current accounting job and concentrate on raising a baby at home, saying that anyway, the family conditions were well-off, and it was not bad for her thousands of dollars per month.
But Xiao Min resolutely refused, the reason is: "Who has it is better to have it yourself, spend the money you earn, and your heart will be steady!" ”
She wakes up very early every day, drives her eldest daughter to kindergarten after breakfast, and then goes to work with her stomach up, even though she is several months pregnant, she is still busy every day.
When her mother-in-law saw that she was so strong, she admired her very much, and often came over to help take care of her, and praised everyone else, "My daughter-in-law is very capable!" Her husband also respects her more, and whenever he is free, he goes home to reunite with her, and the family is happy.
The essence of marriage is a process of dynamic equilibrium. If you just want to get a marriage that you don't want to give, you will definitely not go far; On the contrary, the husband and wife are independent of each other and contribute to each other, so that they will be more stable and happier.
A financially independent woman can have a straight soul, and she will have more say and more choices at critical moments, and such a woman is undoubtedly very attractive.
Never blindly followed, with his own independent thinking and style of doing things.
There is a sentence in the book "Winter Pasture": "Everyone is willing to blindly obey, as if the safest thing in the world is to disappear into the 'majority'." ”
It's true that when faced with a tricky matter, choosing to blindly follow your heart will seem safer and more in line with most people's expectations for the time being, but in the long run, you may lose even more.
Smart women must not blindly follow, be good at thinking, always calm in the face of problems, and have their own thinking and style of doing things, because they understand that only in this way can they harvest the different scenery they want.
The well-known host Yang Lan once said when talking about the reason why she was selected for CCTV: "If I don't follow blindly, I will be seen." She had just graduated from college that year and had participated in her first public audition for national television.
At that time, the number of auditions was as high as thousands, and the producer told them that they were looking for some sweet-looking, innocent, and beautiful new faces. When it was her turn, she asked her own question: "Why is it that the personality of women on TV is just sweet, simple, and beautiful and more flattering, why can't they have their own thoughts and voices?" ”
She felt as if she was offending the producer at the time, but the truth was that her words made a strong impression on the producer, and she made it to the second round of selection.
After seven rounds of selection, she was the only one left. Only when a person dares to break with tradition and express his ideas can he be seen and recognized in a similar majority.
People live in the world, and everyone is unique. The unique growth environment and unique life experience determine that we are different from others. So don't be afraid of being different, and don't follow the trend in everything.
When you encounter difficulties, dare to think independently, and dare to express yourself, it means that you have grown up, and it is also the charm of a woman.
What exactly is femininity? Some netizens replied: "She should be a special temperament, a gift from time, a wisdom accumulated through experience, and a display of personality." ”
Indeed it is! Charm is an indescribable thing, it is a thousand faces, and it is the customs of all people. But there is one thing in common, when a person is no longer humble, self-fulfillment is the top priority;
No longer clinging, the ability to make money is firmly in your own hands; is no longer in the same crowd, with her own independent thinking and style of doing things, then her charm will naturally bloom.
Such a woman, even if she is facing a temporary predicament, can be fearless and move forward firmly, and at the same time, she will be more favored by fate.
In the new year, may you let go of all the power that makes you sink, focus on yourself, fly in the wind, and be a glamorous and sparkling woman.
What you want, the years will slowly give you.