Text|Zhu Shenyong.
First of all, to judge whether the marriage is worth saving, it is not just to look at what actions the man has done after the extramarital affair, because these actions may be coerced by the third son and connived by the wife, and it is necessary to refer to the quality of the marriage itself before the extramarital affair occurred. Refer to the following six criteria:
1) Emotional foundation.
2) Emotional development.
3) Post-marital community development.
4) Post-marital satisfaction of both parties.
5) The degree to which the problem can be solved.
6) The willingness of both parties to continue the marriage.
Rational evaluation, dynamic evaluation. to determine if the marriage is worth saving.
Second, see if there is a need for divorce in the marriage.
1) Whether your personal safety is threatened.
2) The security of property is threatened.
3) There are irreconcilable conflicts and vices that cause harm to the wife.
Here we especially need to look at the third point, how long has the wife managed the extramarital affair? What approaches have been taken? If the wife keeps being an ostrich, keeps improving herself, or keeps kneeling and licking, it is not a real way to solve the extramarital affair and destroy the extramarital affair, but to promote the man's luck and greed. How long has the wife been at war against extramarital affairs? One month? Half? A year?
It depends on whether the wife herself has spent at least half a year to promote the solution of the problem. Moving out as soon as you find out, and you haven't had much time to deal with it, this situation does not meet the criteria for divorce.
Third, what is the expression behind the man's action? What are the problems? What are the opportunities?
The purpose of the man moving away and blacklisting is to hope that you will not interfere in the extramarital affair, appease the third son, or do you really want to divorce? Has he sued for divorce? Do you take the initiative to negotiate the terms of divorce with you rationally and peacefully? Are the divorce conditions offered in your favour and more than the court has awarded? Or don't talk about divorce, just avoid?
If the man's purpose is not to divorce, it means that the man is controlled by San'er, and he still has concerns about getting married with San'er, more often he wants to have a threesome, and he doesn't want San'er to make more trouble, so he uses the way of moving away but not divorce to stabilize the threesome.
The wife can assign tasks to her husband:
1. If you don't get divorced, what are your reluctances to marriage?
2. If you don't firmly marry San'er and go home, do you think San'er doesn't meet your requirements for your wife?
3. It's good to live with her, you can check the goods well to see if San'er meets your requirements for your wife? What are the characteristics of San'er?
At the same time, she assigned homework to San'er and provoked her to make trouble with her husband.
1. Ask my husband, what is your current identity?
2. Ask my husband, what does it mean to live with you without divorce or marriage?
3. Ask my husband, how does he plan to be your husband in the future? What are you willing to give? What can you do to heal the grievances and grievances you have suffered as a third child?
4. Ask my husband, when will I take you to meet your parents? When will you see the light?
5. You should also inspect the goods to see if this man, as a husband, meets your requirements, how to solve problems and difficulties, and how to support you for a day.
The above are the assessments that the wife can do and the ways to intervene.
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