When getting married, everyone wants their marriage to be happy, but after living, some marriages are not as expected. A good marriage must be the result of the joint efforts of both husband and wife. But if you want to destroy a marriage, it only needs the power of one person in the marriage.
At the beginning of love, one party often pursues the other, and most of this suitor is held by men. It seems that the pursuit of women by men has become the mode of the beginning of love for most people. After entering marriage, husband and wife are equal, but who will play a leading role in whether the marriage is happy or not?
The following three married men say that men often play a leading role in whether the marriage is happy or not. Let's hear their stories and see why they say that.
a. Mr. Xia, married for ten years, is very happy in marriage.
I was the one who pursued my wife at the beginning, and she didn't take a fancy to me at that time, and I stalked to catch up. In the first two years of marriage, we were quite good, but then in order to make more money, I spent very little time outside every day. Not to mention accompanying my wife, even when I go home for dinner, there are very few meals, so the relationship between our husband and wife has changed.
In those years, we couldn't talk well between husband and wife, and we would choke when we spoke. Later, my wife even ignored me, and the two of us couldn't speak a few words for a week. Later, my wife filed for divorce from me, and I realized the seriousness of the problem.
In order to save the family, I chased my wife again. Later, the two of us reconciled, and until now, we have never had a marriage crisis. So I think the leading role in marital happiness lies with me, and my wife has always been in a passive position.
b. Mr. Liang, who has been married for six years, divorced his wife and remarried.
My wife and I met on a blind date, so there is no question of who pursues whom, anyway, when the two of us met each other on a blind date, we got married. When we first got married, my wife and I used to quarrel over trivial matters. She loves cleanliness very much, and I am more sloppy, so she thinks I'm dirty, I think she's clean, and the two of them quarrel.
After a quarrel, we went for a divorce as soon as we got angry. After the divorce, I realized that I couldn't do without her, and I was uncomfortable without her, as if I had lost my soul. Half a year after the divorce, I went to her again, and it turned out that she, like me, was also regretting the divorce, so we remarried.
After remarrying, I no longer worked against my wife, but often coaxed and spoiled her, so we lived happily. I think that whether the marriage is happy or not, the man plays a leading role, as long as a man loves his wife enough, the wife will generally love her husband, and the family will be happy.
c. Mr. Jiang, who has been married for three years, is known as a spoiled wife.
Between me and my wife, my wife is in charge of many things, and I listen to her. There is a saying that "a man who listens to his wife has something to eat", and I am such a man. Actually, it's not that I'm not assertive, it's that I love her, and I don't want her to be upset. As long as my wife is happy in our family, I am happy, and then the child grows up in a happy environment.
Many people say that I am a wife maniac, and I think my wife is loved when she marries her. There are many women in the world, but only this woman is mine, I don't love her, who loves her? My wife is a very good woman, she is never pampered, I treat her well, she always reciprocates me very well, I feel very happy.
I think whether the marriage is happy or not, or the man plays the leading role, assuming that I am not good to my wife, will she be good to me? Her kindness to me depends on my attitude, just as I did when I pursued her, I pursued her, and she accepted me.
In fact, husband and wife are mutual, but if a man takes the initiative to love a woman more, then the woman will generally love the man more. When two people love each other, a family is full of warmth and happiness. Men should not forget their original intentions in marriage, think about how they pursued this woman in the first place, because of your pursuit, this woman came into your life, and you are responsible for her happiness. [Original article, **from the Internet, **unrelated].