The year 2024 has passed, and many people around 50 years old have begun to become popular with 6 new thinking patterns! Are you also bothered by one of them? Adjust your mentality in time, otherwise your old age will become very difficult.
It's already the twelfth day of the first lunar month, and people who went out to work are returning to work one after another. In the past few years, many elderly people have been busy as early as the 20th day of the lunar month, busy killing pigs, preparing New Year's goods, cleaning, giving gifts, and cooking for their children in the first few days. It wasn't until the eighth day of the first lunar month that the children left, and the old people breathed a sigh of relief, but their bodies were sore and exhausted.
Although the New Year has passed, I can't feel the atmosphere of the New Year at all. For the elderly, they only become more exhausted, but they get little in return. What's even more worrying is that after the year, six new thinking patterns have become popular among people around 50 years old.
Yesterday afternoon, my husband and I went to my grandmother's house, they live in the county seat, and it happened that their old friends got together to play cards, chat, and eat barbecue. Suddenly, I found that these old people lived very transparently and looked at things very openly. They say that when they are old and there is only one person left, they will spend their old age according to the following 6 thinking patterns. It's just over the New Year, and the old people have these new ideas, especially the third one, which is incomprehensible. What is their purpose in having children? So what are the 6 mindsets? Let's take a look.
The first type: the elderly are eager for family reunions, but now their children are just consumers when they go home for the New Year, immersed in self-satisfaction, ignoring the meaning of getting together with their parents. Their arrival did not ease the burden on the parents, but instead left the elderly busy and exhausted. As a result, many elderly people have decided not to expect their children to come home for the Chinese New Year.
The second type: for the elderly, a serious illness often means both physical and mental torture and financial burden. Therefore, they would rather give up excessive ** and choose to return to their families, feel the afterglow of life, enjoy the joy of family, and let their relatives accompany them until the end of their lives.
Third, as the elderly get older, their lifestyles are significantly different from those of young people, and living together tends to deepen the generation gap. As a result, many families have conflicts, especially when it comes to the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law. Therefore, some elderly people choose to live separately from their children and keep a certain distance, so that the relationship is more harmonious.
Fourth, the elderly are becoming more cautious about nursing homes, where they feel that there is a lack of real humanity, a lack of a sense of belonging, and a lot of money. They are more inclined to enjoy old age at home and spend the rest of their lives with their families.
Fifth: filial piety does not lie in the gorgeous funeral and complicated aftermath processing, but in the care and companionship before death. Some people do not fulfill their filial piety during their parents' lifetimes, but they are extravagant and wasteful in their later affairs, which violates the true meaning of filial piety. Therefore, true filial piety lies in spending more time with parents while they are alive, rather than overexpressing them at funerals.
The sixth suggestion is: have your own home in your old age.
At present, the development of the countryside is booming, and more and more elderly people choose to return to the countryside to build their own small yards and cultivate some vegetables to ensure that there is no pesticide pollution. Or fish for fish in the lake, meet up with old friends to climb the mountains and rivers, and enjoy the fresh air. Participate in daily card games, play chess, take a morning stroll, dance in the square, or practice taekwondo. After all, the years are not forgiving, and the body is no longer young.
Although the length of life cannot be controlled, we can expand its meaning; The duration of life is unpredictable, but it can enrich its connotation; The amount of life is uncontrollable, but it can improve its quality. Birth, old age, sickness and death are natural laws that are inevitably chewed upon by all people, but we should make the rest of our lives more meaningful.
That's all for today's topic. Do you agree with the above six propositions? Feel free to leave your insights and we look forward to seeing you again in the next installment. Thank you for your interest.