The Law of Attraction says:The people we meet and the things we experience in our lives are all attracted to us.
Just like the law of gravitation in physics, there is also some mysterious attraction between people, or some kind of magnetic field, and people at the same frequency will attract each other.
American psychologist Hawkins once put forward a concept of energy level: the lower the energy level, the more likely people are to burst out of negative emotions and be affected by the negative emotions of others, and the higher the energy level, the more positive and optimistic people are and can transmit this optimistic attitude to the people around them.
We will come into contact with all kinds of people every day, some people make us feel like a spring breeze, some people will make us overwhelmed, get along with people full of positive energy, will dissolve our negative emotions, and work with people full of negative energy, will continue to consume our positive emotions, and finally be swallowed by the other party's emotional black hole.
People and people's emotions will be contagious to each other, the contagion of positive emotions takes a long time to be exposed to it, and negative emotions will spread rapidly even among strangers, and even attack the initiators.
Traveling by train is most afraid of encountering passengers with babies, babies have no sense of self, once they start crying at night, a carriage of passengers will inevitably complain, a carriage of people will be irritable, some people bring headphones to block out the noise, some people scold, but in the end it still can't solve the problem, all people will be infected by this irritable mood, want to sleep and can't sleep.
People with low energy levels are very sensitive to the boundaries of their own self, and once they feel the "invasion" of others, they will immediately fight back, while people with high energy levels will maintain an open attitude and be compatible with others.
Everyone has their own energy magnetic field, following the principle of attracting in the same direction and repelling each other, that is, people with positive energy attract each other, people with negative energy also attract each other, people at the same level get closer to each other, and people at different levels go farther and farther. When you get along with someone very awkwardly, there are generally two situations: either your energy magnetic field is in the opposite direction, or the energy level of your two is quite different.
I've heard a sentence about chicken soup:"The size of a person's life's achievements is determined by the 5 people you have the best relationship with。Regardless of the number of people for the time being, there is some truth in this sentence. No one will live as an island, everyone will meet their own noble people in their lives, some people will give you guidance when you are most confused, some people will send charcoal in the snow when you are most difficult, some people are the guide you enter a certain industry, and some people are spiritual guides you have never masked, but they all have a common characteristic, that is, their energy level is above you.
Whether one's energy field is positive or negative, and whether one's energy level increases or decreases, depends on the individual's practice on the one hand, and on the other hand, on what kind of circle is around you. If you are chatting with someone and feel that the other party can catch anything, and after chatting with the other party about any difficult things, you are in a particularly comfortable mood, there is no doubt that the other party's energy level is above you, so you are willing to take the initiative to approach him.
What kind of people are around you, what kind of people you will become, so we advocate upward socialization and be friends with people who are better than yourself. Many people may think that it is too difficult to meet these excellent people, you want to connect with others, others may not be too lazy to take care of you, but in fact, it is not.
The theory of six degrees of separation tells us that you can meet anyone you want in this world through constant referrals from 6 people, and of course these 6 people must be the key people. If you especially want to know someone, or want to join his team, you can buy TA's class first, enter TA's community, and link myself in the community.
Of course, if you want to link people who are better than you, you also have to constantly improve your energy level, and the relationship between people is ultimately a value exchange, and the premise of your value exchange is that others think you are also valuable. Zeng Guofan once said: The success or failure of a life is related to the merit of friends.
Only by walking with the superior can you become a master, speak the same language with the wise, you can become a wise man, and with the sage, you can become a sage.
We often say that "things gather by like, people by groups", what kind of temperament you are, you will meet people with similar temperaments and temperaments, what interests and hobbies do you have, you will also meet people with the same hobbies, it seems that we are calculated by the "algorithm", it seems to be a passive recommendation, but in fact, it is the result of your own active search.
There are clouds in the Book of Changes: corresponding with the same voice, seeking with the same breath. The same sound resonates, and the same smell blends with each other. It's the same with people, all unexpected encounters are actually the result of their own careful selection, and all the songs are scattered, and they are also choices that they have repeatedly weighed. People change, so the people around them will change, and they are all attracted by themselves.
Tang Xuanzong Li Longji appointed Yao Chong, Song Jing and other virtuous ministers in the early years, set things right, made great efforts, and created the prosperous era of the Tang Dynasty, but in the later period of his reign, because of his favor Li Linfu, Yang Guozhong and other traitorous ministers, he reused the festival to make An Lushan cause an eight-year Anshi Rebellion, and his favorite Yang Guifei was also forced to hang herself in Ma Weipo, laying the groundwork for the Tang Dynasty's transformation from prosperity to decline.
You are sunny, and the hearts of those around you will not be darkened; If you are optimistic, the hearts of those around you will not be negative; If you are motivated, the people around you will not be left behind; If you are generous, the people around you will not be stingy, and if you are bold, the people around you will not be indecisive, because who you are, you will meet whom, you will become a better version of yourself, and you will meet better others.
Buddha Shakyamuni once said: No matter who you meet, he is the person who should appear in life. In fact, each of us only lives in our own subjective world, and it is your consciousness that constructs your real world and the people in your real world.
We should look inward in everything, because you are the master of your own world, and if you change, the world will change with you. May each of us become better on the long road of life and walk with better people!