What is a giver personality?
It looks very affectionate and clingy on the surface, and then he pours out his heart and lungs for his partner, and the breakup is particularly painful; But once someone appears, he can immediately forget the past. They seem to love as if they are trying hard in every relationship, but in reality, it's as if they've never been in love with anyone. All they want is someone who can be by his side!
It is a spiritual sustenance, what is their view of love?
Where the wind blows, which page to read, who will love me, who I love.
The reason for the formation of this personality is because they have been in a state of lack of love since childhood.
Because of the lack of love, he met someone who was a little better to him.
will be attracted and think that this is love, that is to say, they actually do not know how to love, and naturally they have no ability to love others.
So they will encounter a lot of problems in their relationships.
And they themselves understand that many problems are due to the lack of inner strength caused by lack of love, which is not enough for them to maintain a healthy relationship, but they don't know how to change it.
So, he repeats the same questions over and over again in every relationship.
So, how can those who lack love save themselves?
First of all, step 1:
Recognize that the essence of lack of love is that the child does not grow up within.
There are 90% of those who lack love.
Basically all from an overlooked.
Suppressed. Such an unfortunate family of origin.
Because I didn't get enough love from my parents since I was a child.
His inner child.
There is no way to get healthy nourishment.
Grow into an independent person.
That's why those who lack love will be in the relationship.
Shows extreme eagerness.
Get noticed. Gaining preference is intrinsic in nature.
The child wants to find an ideal parent.
And then it doesn't matter who this ideal parent is.
Just love yourself!
Recognize that!
The breakthrough of how to save yourself is very sober, that is, to reproduce the inner child who raised herself!
The second step is to admit that your parents don't love you that much
The lack of love originates from the family of origin.
But a lot of people.
and always can't get rid of the original family.
It's because they don't dare admit it.
Your parents didn't love themselves that much.
Parents for children.
It is the presence of the first sense of security and love.
If you admit that your parents don't love you.
It's like admitting it.
No one in this world really loves you.
For example: You study hard.
Work hard. Achieve even at the expense of your health.
In exchange for a sentence of recognition from your parents.
Because love can be abstract
But their recognition is concrete
Only get theirs.
You can prove it.
The self that they have neglected since childhood.
is valuable.
You can prove that you can be loved.
There is a saying on the Internet.
Chinese children spend their entire lives waiting for an apology from their parents.
The essence of this apology.
I still have something to look forward to from my parents.
But bad parents in the family of origin.
Basically from an equally bad family.
They also lack the strength within themselves.
They don't know how to love their children properly.
So there's a good chance you won't be able to wait for them to apologize.
Can't wait for them to show you love.
You're the only one left. Constantly in the negativity of the original family.
Internal friction of oneself. 
Step 3: Allow yourself to be angry
Just when you admit that your parents don't love you that much.
You can be disappointed afterward.
It's okay to be angry. It is even possible to resent them.
A lot of people will feel.
Being angry with one's parents is an act of unfilial piety.
But if you suppress your negative behavior for a long time.
These emotions will gradually swell in your body.
Finally, go back to your heart.
Parents are supposed to be the closest people in the world to you.
He didn't love you properly.
You can, of course, be dissatisfied.
It's okay to get angry. Allow yourself to flow these negative emotions.
You won't overdo it.
Step 4: Accept yourself
That is, to accept reality.
Allow everything to happen.
The reason why you're stuck in.
A self-doubting pain and internal friction inside.
It's because. You have been in the process of seeking parental approval for a long time.
Unconscious. You project this longing onto outsiders.
So you never have a way to accept that your parents don't like you.
What did it gradually become?
You can't accept that everyone doesn't like you.
Once you have that thought.
You will strive to be perfect in everything.
Demand yourself with strict standards!
But what is the reality.
No one is perfect.
We can't make it like everybody.
Allow yourself to have shortcomings.
Allow others not to like you.
You don't want to get liked by others.
and suppress your own real needs.
Put on a mask to please the like life.
Love others like flowers.
For those who lack love
The best florist is yourself
These are the ones mentioned above to re-nurture themselves.
The best nourishment to reshape your own powerful core.
Don't put that expectation of making up for the lack.
Placing its trust on parents, partners, and friends.
Hear the real needs of your heart.
To perceive true love.
When you become a self-consistent and comfortable person.
Only then can you learn the ability to love others.
Start that beauty of your own! Let's go!
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