Human fate is destined to recognize this sentence very much, this sentence is vividly reflected in me, in 1983 the blind date chose to divorce me after the dry, I did not retain, I understand that there is no happiness reluctantly.
Later, I met my current husband through a neighbor's introduction, and my husband was a contract traffic police officer at the time, but I never expected that my fate would change because of this.
I was born in 1960 in a rural family in Huanggang, Hubei Province, and my parents gave birth to four children under the call of the power of numbers.
I heard my mother say that it was an accident that she was pregnant with me, because my mother had already been ligated in Shanghuan when she gave birth to her third brother, but due to the underdevelopment of Shanghuan technology at that time, I was a fish that slipped through the net.
Originally, my father was going to use medicine to abort me, but my grandfather insisted that my mother give birth, and my grandfather said"The baby can follow you is the fate of God's arrangement, adults and children will be born for a day", so I was able to give birth.
Because I am a girl, my parents and three older brothers take care of me in every way, and even if I cry loudly when I am a child, they will be heartbroken for a while.
So even though our family was not in good condition at that time, I never went hungry, and my parents and three older brothers would always let me eat first.
If there was nothing to eat at home, my brothers would go to the field to steal some fruits and vegetables and bring them back for me to eat, so the three brothers didn't know how many times they were hung up and beaten by their father.
When I was very young, I had a baby kiss with a boy named Li Xiangyang in the next village, and my grandfather and Li Xiangyang's grandfather were brothers.
Li Xiangyang and I are of the same age, and the conditions of our two families are similar, so we decided to marry each other, planning to let Li Xiangyang and I get married when we become adults.
At that time, Li Xiangyang's parents would come to our house with gifts during the New Year's holidays, and my parents would also treat Li Xiangyang's parents as if they were future in-laws, and greet them with the highest etiquette.
At that time, I thought that Li Xiangyang's family was a relative of our family, and that Li Xiangyang was my cousin.
I was in primary school at the age of seven, and Li Xiangyang was in elementary school at the age of eight.
When I was in elementary school, once I was bullied by my classmates, Li Xiangyang rushed up and scuffled with those who bullied me, and scratched other people's faces.
As a result, the head teacher invited me and Li Xiangyang's parents over, and after my father and Li Xiangyang's father came to school, they hurriedly apologized to the parents of the classmates who were scratched by Li Xiangyang's face.
Li Xiangyang thought that his father would beat him violently, but after learning the reason, Li Xiangyang's father did not beat him, but praised Li Xiangyang for this manly behavior.
When I was in junior high school, Li Xiangyang and I were in different classes in the same middle school, and Li Xiangyang and I both had good grades and were excellent students in our grades.
So at that time, Li Xiangyang and I compared our academic performance, motivated each other to improve our grades, and every week when I came home from school, I would walk back with Li Xiangyang, and we were all discussing study problems on the way back.
When I was in high school, Li Xiangyang was already a whole head taller than me, and Li Xiangyang was pursued by many female classmates because of his delicate facial features and white **.
And I have also grown into a big girl, my appearance is not bad, and I have also attracted the pursuit of many cadres' children.
But Li Xiangyang and I both know that we have already set up a baby kiss, and Li Xiangyang and I have actually regarded each other as our first love for a long time, so we have not accepted anyone's pursuit.
After graduating from high school in the summer of 1977, Li Xiangyang and I both returned to the production team to participate in labor, and in October 1977, the national college entrance examination was announced to be resumed.
MeAt that time, Li Xiangyang and I both wanted to go back to repeat a year, with our results, we would definitely be able to be admitted to university
But the production team was unwilling to let us go back to repeat, and the reason why the production team rejected me was that the production team needed young laborers, and if we all went back to repeat our studies, there would be no labor force, and the school would not be able to accept such a large number of repeat students.
Without a certificate from the brigade, Li Xiangyang and I wanted to go back to repeat our studies, and we could only honestly go back to work as farmers.
However, I soon thought of a way to save the country, since the college entrance examination has resumed, then the military school must also resume enrollment, so I suggested that Li Xiangyang go to the army and take the military academy in the army.
After listening to my suggestion, Li Xiangyang was like grabbing a life-saving straw, his eyes instantly lit up, and he jumped up and down holding my hand, feeling like he had been admitted to a military school.
After Li Xiangyang returned home, he immediately told his parents that he wanted to go to the military academy to join the army, and Li Xiangyang's parents must have supported and agreed to Li Xiangyang to become a soldier.
In the 70s of the last century, our brigade had a preferential policy for the families of soldiers, as long as someone in the family went to serve as soldiers, they could add an additional full-time work every day.
It means that Li Xiangyang can earn work for his family every day when he goes to be a soldier, and he has allowances to be a soldier, and his family has face, and in this context, Li Xiangyang's parents will definitely agree and support Li Xiangyang to become a soldier.
But also because there were many benefits of being a soldier at that time, young people who wanted to be soldiers were crowded, but the number of places for conscription in the commune every year was limited, and many people could not even get the qualifications to sign up for the army.
In this case, it was I who stood up to help Li Xiangyang, and at that time my uncle was cooking in the commune canteen, so I knew a few small leaders, and thanks to this relationship, I got a place for Li Xiangyang.
Uncle originally wanted me to go, but I understood that the selection of female soldiers was much stricter than that of men, and there was no strong relationship in the family, so it was impossible to be selected in that era.
If I sign up, it will be equivalent to wasting a place in vain, so I will give this registration qualification to Li Xiangyang.
After Li Xiangyang learned that I helped him get the qualifications, he burst into tears with excitement and began to talk nonsense, saying that in the future, when I become a cadre, I will definitely use an eight-door sedan chair to marry me and make me the happiest wife in the world.
After that, Li Xiangyang's physical examination, political examination, home visit and other links were successfully passed, and he went to serve in the army on February 27, 1978.
After going to the army, Li Xiangyang and I maintained close contact, and basically wrote back to me every three days, and he would share with me what happened in the army, and I would also tell him about the affairs at home.
In 1980, the third year of Li Xiangyang's military service, Li Xiangyang was admitted to a communication college to realize his dream, and after graduating from the military academy in 1983, he returned to his original army as a platoon commander.
Half a year after serving as the platoon leader, Li Xiangyang applied for the opportunity to go home to visit relatives, and at that time, Li Xiangyang's parents and my father hoped that Li Xiangyang and I could get married during this family visit holiday.
However, Li Xiangyang did not marry me on the grounds that the army wanted to be a political cadre and did not report it, and my father inquired about it and learned that such a thing did exist.
So I agreed with Li Xiangyang's parents that it would be okay to get married when Li Xiangyang came back from visiting relatives next year, but I never thought that my fate with Li Xiangyang would come to an end.
Soon after Li Xiangyang returned to the army from visiting his relatives, he wrote me a letter of resignation, in which Li Xiangyang wrote that I was not suitable for him.
Li Xiangyang also bluntly said that I am a farmer, and marrying me will affect his future future, and he will encounter many, many problems.
In the letter, Li Xiangyang expressed his firm determination to quit his relatives with me, and the last sentence of the letter was: I am indeed not suitable for you, and I wish you to find a suitable partner as soon as possible.
Holding the letter that Li Xiangyang sent me back, my mind was blank, I couldn't believe the content of the letter, and I kept recalling the beautiful things with Li Xiangyang from childhood to adulthood.
Back then, Li Xiangyang said to me: "When I become a cadre, I will marry me in an eight-door sedan chair, and let you be the world's newest and happiest wife", which kept coming to my mind.
At that time, my heart was so painful that I couldn't breathe, and tears kept flowing from my eyes like flowing water.
After my three elder brothers found out, they immediately went to Li Xiangyang's house to ask for an explanation, and Li Xiangyang's parents learned that Li Xiangyang was going to divorce me.
Li Xiangyang's father fainted on the spot, and Li Xiangyang's parents sent Li Xiangyang an urgent telegram that afternoon, asking what was going on.
A few days later, Li Xiangyang's parents received a reply from Li Xiangyang, in which Li Xiangyang also expressed his decision to divorce me.
Li Xiangyang's parents felt sorry for me, and knelt down to kowtow to me in a hurry, and I quickly pulled them up.
After that, the third brother said that he would go to the army to find Li Xiangyang in person to ask for an explanation, and if it didn't work, he would make trouble with Li Xiangyang's leader**, and let Li Xiangyang's leader come out to make the decision for me.
I think the twisted melon is not sweet, even if Li Xiangyang is finally redeemed, we will not have happiness in the future, and our estrangement can no longer be repaired.
So I agreed to quit my marriage with Li Xiangyang.
Later, I learned that after Li Xiangyang returned to the army from visiting relatives, he got along with a daughter of the head of the army, and only then did he come up with the idea of remarrying me.
In 1986, I was already a 26-year-old girl, and girls of the same age as me had already married and had children, but I didn't even have a partner, so my parents and three brothers persuaded me to forget Li Xiangyang and start a family early.
So, under the introduction of a neighbor, I met my current husband Chen Donglai, Chen Donglai is one year older than me, their family is in the next team, because the family is poor, there has been no match, but he is down-to-earth and motivated.
So I decided to try dating Chen Donglai, and when I was dating, Chen Donglai didn't have a formal job and was a contract traffic policeman.
At that time, the wages of these units were not high, the treatment was not good, and the work intensity was also very high, especially the traffic police.
Exposed to the sun and rain every day, so no one wants to be a traffic policeman, Chen Donglai is strong and becomes a contract traffic policeman through recruitment.
Chen Donglai and I got married after dating for about a year, and we gave birth to a boy after marriage.
In 1988, Chen Dong came to their unit to recruit a transcriptionist, and I had a high school degree and beautiful handwriting, so I became a contract police officer under Chen Donglai's recommendation, specializing in transcription.
At that time, my salary was 27 yuan, Chen Donglai's salary was 31 yuan (at that time, the salary of a worker was basically more than 50 yuan), and the two of us combined were close to 60 yuan per month, and our life was quite good and stable.
My husband Chen Donglai and I are very satisfied and cherish this contract job, we work diligently every day, rarely ask for leave and are absent, and take everything arranged by our superiors seriously.
In 1993, the fate of my husband and I, Chen Donglai, changed under the impetus of national policy.
At that time, the traffic police brigade was established, and Chen Donglai and I were both converted from contract police officers to regular police officers.
Even the people who cook for us and watch the gate have been regularized and have official establishments and enjoy the benefits and benefits of the establishment.
After becoming a regular officer, Chen Donglai and I became more energetic, Chen Donglai's highest position was to serve as the captain of the traffic police, and I have been working in the logistics unit.
Chen Donglai often told me that he was a rural child with no education, and if he could be the captain of the traffic police, he could already be regarded as a glorious ancestor.
Since I promised Li Xiangyang to retire from my family that year, I have never contacted Li Xiangyang again, and I heard from my high school classmates that he was forced to transfer jobs and return to the local area when he was a company commander, and I don't know why.
I also heard that the daughter of the head of the army who was good with him back then blew with him, and finally married a girl who was a city worker, and his wife was also laid off because of the closure of the enterprise.
There are really a lot of words about people's destiny, and it is vividly shown in my life, when the soldier Li Xiangyang proposed to me to withdraw from the marriage, I was able to marry Chen Donglai, but I didn't expect to change my fate.