Mother-in-law: "My son is not obligated to take care of your parents. ”
Daughter-in-law: "Then I have no obligation to provide for you." ”
When this sentence came out of my mother-in-law's mouth, the whole table fell silent in an instant. I could feel the dissatisfaction and anger in my mother-in-law's eyes, and I myself felt the resentment and helplessness in my heart. But I know that this conflict is not sudden, but long-standing.
My mother-in-law, a traditional rural woman, has always exuded a strong aura towards me. Although she was not me, and even loved me a little, her attitude and behavior in life made me feel stressed. And this time the conflict was unexpected. I thought that we had reached a relatively peaceful state of getting along, but I didn't expect that because of such a trivial matter, we reached an impasse.
It started because my parents lived in the countryside and we had to visit them once a year on a regular basis. However, my mother-in-law expressed her dissatisfaction and incomprehension many times, thinking that I neglected to take care of my parents when I took care of her. She thinks our focus should be on her, not my parents. And when I tried to explain to her and persuade her to understand my situation, she became more and more unresponsive, which eventually led to today's awkward conflict.
When I got home, I was lying in bed with a lot of thoughts. For me, it is my responsibility to take care of my parents, and I don't want to get into trouble with my mother-in-law for such reasons. But at the same time, I also felt a hint of grievance and anger. I don't understand why she is so cold, why she can't understand me from my point of view. Did she really never think that my husband and I would be obligated to support her if she needed to?
Slowly, my emotions calmed down a lot. I realized that maybe there was a deeper reason for this. Maybe she's just on the spur of the moment, or maybe she has her own struggles. After all, we're not without feelings. Perhaps, it is just a lack of an in-depth conversation that we can find a solution to the problem.
The next day, I decided to have a good talk with my mother-in-law. I gathered my thoughts and walked into her room. The mother-in-law was reciting the scriptures, her expression focused and peaceful. I knocked softly on the door, and she looked up, saw that it was me, smiled slightly, and invited me to sit down.
Mother-in-law, my words yesterday may have been a little offensive. I tentatively spoke.
She nodded calmly and motioned for me to continue.
I know you've been nice to me, and I'm grateful. I also understand what you expect from me and my husband. However, my parents are very important to me and it is my responsibility to take care of them. I tried to keep my tone calm, "Just like you do with your child, I hope you can understand my difficulties." ”
The mother-in-law was silent for a while, and then slowly spoke: "I know that your parents are your responsibility. It's not that I don't understand you. It's just ......Her voice gradually lowered, "It's just that I want you to pay more attention to me." I'm getting old, and I'm not as good as I used to be. I also need someone to take care of me sometimes. ”
I was stunned for a moment, this was the first time I had heard my mother-in-law express so honestly. I thought of her loneliness and helplessness in life, and I involuntarily reached out and gently took her hand.
Mother-in-law, I'm sorry, I never thought about your feelings. I sighed deeply, "Forgive me, I will definitely care more about you and care more about you in the future." ”
A hint of emotion flashed in my mother-in-law's eyes, she held my hand and smiled slightly, "Silly boy, I also seem so difficult because I care about you." Anyway, remember to spend more time with me in the future. ”
The conversation between us resolved the previous conflict and gave me a better understanding of my mother-in-law's heart. Perhaps, in the family, everyone has their own difficulties and difficulties. It is only through sincere communication and understanding that we can find ultimate reconciliation and inclusion. After all, this home is not a one-way street, but requires everyone's hard work and dedication. Although we face the ups and downs of life, we will always move forward bravely because of the warmth of home.
My mother-in-law's hand felt a little cold, so I held her hand and gently comforted, "Mother-in-law, I will pay more attention to your feelings in the future and accompany you more." ”
She smiled slightly, and the emotions in her eyes seemed to calm down a lot: "Good boy, it's good that you are sensible." ”
I felt an inexplicable relief, as if at this moment, the gap between us was gradually dissolving. At this point my husband walked in and frowned slightly when he saw us shaking hands.
What's wrong? Can I help you? He asked with concern.
I immediately let go of my mother-in-law's hand and said with a smile, "It's okay, I just chatted with my mother-in-law for a while." ”
My husband looked at me and my mother-in-law and nodded slightly: "That's good, my mother needs company." ”
When the mother-in-law heard her husband's words, the expression on her face softened a lot. She said a little shyly, "Don't be busy outside all the time, spend more time to go home and see me and your mother." ”
The husband nodded and glanced at his mother-in-law affectionately: "Don't worry, Mom, I will accompany you more." ”
At that moment, I felt as if we had found a tacit understanding between us. Perhaps, before communicating, we all have our own knots and incomprehensions. And this conversation allowed us to better understand each other's inner thoughts. I understood my mother-in-law's wishes, and I also made her understand my difficulties. And the arrival of my husband has laid a good foundation for our relationship to become more harmonious.
Over time, I found that our relationship had changed. My mother-in-law is no longer strong and nagging at me, and I try to spend more time with her and care more about her. Every time I took care of her, she would smile contentedly and she would gradually become gentle. Gradually, we developed a close and harmonious relationship with each other, as if adding a touch of warmth to the family.
One day, I was chatting with my mother-in-law in the yard, and she suddenly talked about the conflict: "I also oversaid what I said that day. ”
I smiled and shook my head: "It's all our fault, we didn't fulfill our responsibility to communicate." ”
A hint of apology flashed in the mother-in-law's eyes: "I'm sorry, I won't say anything like that again." ”
I held her hand tightly and said seriously: "In the future, we will communicate more, understand each other, and unite the family more is the most important thing." ”
She nodded, a grateful smile on her face. This dialogue has made our relationship closer and more harmonious. Home is like a net, everyone is a node of the net, and only when each node is strong and stable can a complete family be formed. I have learned that only mutual understanding and tolerance can make the family more warm and happy. Everyone should have the right to be cared for, and they should all know how to care for their families. In this way, the family can be more harmonious, happy and warm.
That day, it was getting dark, and my mother-in-law and I sat on a wicker chair in the yard. The breeze blows, and the yard is filled with the fragrance of citrus. I looked up and suddenly remembered the path I had walked with her when I was a child, and I couldn't help but feel a trace of emotion in my heart.
Mother-in-law, do you remember the path we walked together? I asked softly.
The mother-in-law suddenly raised her head, and a trace of surprise and warmth flashed in her eyes: "Of course I remember, that path is the only way we often go to the market." ”
Yes, there are a lot of memories on that road, and I spent my childhood under your care. I said with a smile.
The smile in my mother-in-law's eyes became thicker: "When you were a child, you were a naughty little girl, and you followed my ass all day long, which was fun." ”
My mother-in-law and I laughed together, and all the troubles in my heart seemed to disappear. At this moment, I felt as if I had returned to my childhood, and I felt the care and concern of my mother-in-law. And a bright light flashed in the mother-in-law's eyes, as if she had regained her long-lost happiness.
Gradually, the mother-in-law began her topic again: "Do you want to hear the story of my youth?" ”
I nodded excitedly: "Of course I want to hear it, you must have been beautiful when you were young." ”
When my mother-in-law heard my compliment, she had a shy and satisfied smile on her face. She began to talk about her life when she was young, and at that time she also had many dreams and ideals, and was full of expectations and longings for life. Her words are full of emotion about the circumstances of her youth and the longing for her family. In her narrative, I seem to see her when she was young, the image of a woman who worked hard for the family and gave everything for the growth of her children.
Mother-in-law, it's really not easy for you, and you have experienced a lot when you were young. I said.
She looked at me deeply: "Yes, every woman is not easy, we all have our own persistence and dedication." In the family, we should understand and tolerate each other. ”
This sentence seemed to touch the soft part of my heart, and I nodded with deep understanding. In this family, everyone should be respected and cared for, and everyone should work hard for the harmony of the family.
This night, my mother-in-law and I talked for a long time, and we seemed to have found a tacit understanding of each other. She was my mother-in-law and a woman, a woman with countless stories and emotions. And I will continue to try to understand her and care for her, just as she has always cared for us.
Family is the warmest harbor for everyone, and understanding and tolerance are the cornerstones of family harmony. Perhaps in this family, each of us will have our own contradictions and problems, but only through the communication of hearts and minds can we find the ultimate solution. The conversation with my mother-in-law gave me a lot of inspiration and made me realize that love and care are the most important strengths in a family. Every conversation makes our relationship better and our family warmer and happier.
The mother-in-law was sitting on a wicker chair in the courtyard, holding a stack of quilts in her hand, and was concentrating on sewing. I leaned over, looked at her skillful technique, and involuntarily exclaimed, "Mother-in-law, your sewing skills are really amazing." ”
She raised her head and showed a satisfied smile on her face: "Small things, small things, who didn't have a woman in their mother's family when they were young before, they had to learn to do these household chores." ”
I took the mended quilt in her hand and gently stroked the fine stitches, feeling an inexplicable feeling in my heart. This scene reminds me of when I was a child, she always took care of the housework for us and paid without regrets. I suddenly felt a little distressed: "Mother-in-law, don't you feel very hard that you have been sewing like this?" ”
She restrained her smile and looked at me deeply: "Child, these are all small things, who doesn't have a little bitterness and dedication in their life." ”
I nodded silently, and a wave of emotion welled up in my heart, she has been like this all her life, silently paying for her family.
Suddenly, she spoke again: "Did you tell my son what I said that day?" ”
I was a little surprised, my mouth opened, and after a while I replied, "Mother-in-law, I didn't say it, I think the events of that day have passed, and you also said sorry." ”
She nodded thoughtfully, "Kid, there's something I haven't told you all this time about. ”
I looked at her in amazement: "What's the matter?" ”
She paused, and her tone was a little complicated: "I also had an encounter when I was young, and I always felt that when you and my son got along in the future, I would become a burden. ”
I can't imagine that a strong mother-in-law like hers would have such worries. I grabbed her hand: "Mother-in-law, you have never been a burden to us, you are the mainstay of our family. ”
Her eyes rippled: "If you say that, I'm relieved." ”
This conversation seemed to open the knot, and instead of being full of dissatisfaction and complaints about life as I originally thought, she silently carried her own thoughts. It dawned on me that in this family, everyone has their own concerns, and only through communication and understanding can we break these knots and find solutions.
My mother-in-law's words made me think about it for a long time, and I decided to care more about her from now on and let her feel our love and respect for her. In this family, everyone should be understood and tolerated, and only in this way can our family be more harmonious and happy.
My resolve remains the same. Every day, no matter how busy I am at work, I spend some time with my mother-in-law, chatting with her, and walking the paths in the yard. In the process, our relationship changed, and my mother-in-law slowly opened up to me. I found out that she also had her own dreams and stories, and every conversation built an emotional bridge between us.
Once, we were picking oranges together in the yard. I looked at the white hair on my mother-in-law's forehead, and suddenly said to her, "Mother-in-law, I will take care of things more in the future, and you can live with us at ease." ”
She stopped what she was doing and looked at me seriously: "Child, do you know that when I was young, I was also a girl like a flower, with my own dreams and ambitions. Later, when I married into your family, I have been doing my best, but I have never had the opportunity to say it. ”
I felt the bitterness in her words, and my heart ached. She is a strong woman, but she also has her own weaknesses.
Mother-in-law, in the future, we will also care for you more well, so that you can have a happy old age here. "I decided to give her more companionship and comfort when she needed it.
My mother-in-law listened to my words and a satisfied smile appeared on her face: "Thank you, child. As long as you are by my side, it is enough. ”
Since then, my mother-in-law and I have communicated more frequently, and we have been complaining about our inner pain and hope. I realized that she actually had her own scars, but she never said them. During our communication, she slowly released the burden in her heart, and I was full of respect and gratitude to her.
Every conversation I had gave me a deeper understanding of family. Home is not a stage for one person, but a beautiful movement for everyone to perform together. The communication and understanding between us makes this home more warm and harmonious. We all have our own stories and emotions, and these joys and sorrows are inseparable memories in our family after all.
My mother-in-law has gradually found a sense of settling down in our family, and she has a lot more smiles on her face. She sat in the courtyard, sometimes mending clothes, sometimes chatting with me, as if she had found a sense of spiritual belonging. All this also makes me feel relieved and happy. After all, home requires everyone's efforts and tolerance, and understanding is the strongest bond in the family.
Time flies, and every communication between my mother-in-law and I enriches the emotions between us. After I quietly made a little dress for my mother-in-law, she sat in the yard and looked at it. I asked a little nervously, "Mother-in-law, does this skirt fit?" ”
She took the little skirt and couldn't help but show surprise: "This skirt is the style I wore when I was a child, I really didn't expect you to sew." ”
I smiled and said, "Thanks to your teaching, I finally have some children now." ”
My mother-in-law looked at me with a twinkle in her eyes: "Thank you so much, child. ”
We sat in the courtyard and chatted together, which made me feel an inexplicable warmth. My mother-in-law suddenly asked me, "How are you and my son's child?" Have they had any trouble going to school lately? ”
I immediately put down my work and said seriously, "They have been doing well lately, and they have made good progress in their studies. If there is any problem, they will also tell me as soon as possible. ”
My mother-in-law's eyes looked at me brightly: "So well-behaved and sensible, it's really competitive." ”
In this wonderful and warm family, everyone is doing their part. The communication and understanding between us also made the family more warm and harmonious. Every conversation has become the best link for our hearts and minds, making our home more harmonious and happy. Just like the spring flowers blooming in that small courtyard, our family is gradually full of vitality and vitality.
The mother-in-law sighed softly: "The warmth of home certainly comes from everyone's efforts, but more from the understanding and tolerance between each other. ”
I nodded: "Yes, a better home can only be made if everyone respects, understands and accommodates each other." ”
The mother-in-law smiled: "I will also care more about you and my son in the future, so that the family will become happier." ”
I was touched to be able to share the responsibilities of the family with my mother-in-law and make this home more warm, which made me feel deeply happy. This home, like the little dress I made for my mother-in-law, is warm and beautiful. The warmth of this home, each of us strives to protect and care.