Mother's Influence".
A mother's influence on her child is like a never-ending force that will last her child's life.
Some people say: mothers are the best guides for children.
Bingling said that Mother is like the sun and the moon, day and night, always hanging in the emptiness of our hearts.
The poet Dante once said:
There is a book in the world that can never be finished, and that is the mother;
There is one of the most beautiful voices in the world, and that is the call of the mother. ”
The influence of mothers pervades the child's life.
However, some mothers influence the same as the devil and the child's life.
Mother with a low sense of worth.
Whatever it is, she thinks she's right.
When I returned to my hometown during the Spring Festival, my aunt's little granddaughter pestered me to learn how to roll dough, so I briefly demonstrated it and let her do it herself.
Although the little ones are rusty, each roll is better than the previous one.
At this time, my aunt came over and said with a smile: "Hey! You're not doing it right! Roll it out like this.
Take the rolling pin your child is using and demonstrate it.
Ask the child to do it all over again, as she did.
The child rolls it down or at the original level.
She taught over and over again, and each time she could accurately find out what needed to be improved, and the child learned over and over again.
After rolling four or five, the child finally lost interest and went to play with other things.
In the middle of this, the child put forward his own ideas many times, but they were all rejected by his aunt.
People with a low sense of value always have their own standards, and they can't see the efforts and beauty of others, so they naturally can't feel the beauty of life.
The child silenced his thoughts and voices in the mother's invisibility again and again.
A strong woman.
Strong women and strong women here are two concepts, strong is character, not career.
Many women who have done well in their careers are still cats when they return home, with filial piety to their mothers and children, and happy families.
Adler, an Austrian psychologist, said, "If the mother is more authoritative and nagging the rest of the family all day long, the girls may imitate her and become mean and critical; Boys, on the other hand, are always on the defensive, fearing criticism and looking for opportunities to show their deference. ”
When the mother is always accusing and dissatisfied with her husband, the son feels that he is accusing and criticizing all men.
As a man, he will inevitably feel the same powerlessness as his father.
When a wife with an overly strong personality laughs at her husband's cowardice, she dumps the same ridicule and ridicule on her son.
Psychological counseling found that Dafan is the kind of strong mother who cultivates not a strong son, but a cowardly son.
Mother who is emotionally unstable at heart
With the country's emphasis on education and the emergence of multi-platform platforms, many mothers know how to be an emotionally stable mother.
So, when you get angry, tell yourself that you can't be angry.
Tell yourself if you are wronged, think too much.
If you are not satisfied with your life but do not want to change, comfort yourself and say that everyone lives like this.
After a long time, just like the water has been blocked, there will always be a time when it can't be blocked.
A mother who has misconceptions about emotional stability, controls her emotions, and has intermittent outbursts.
True emotional stability is not the same as not losing your temper.
True emotional stability is not to reject emotions and to be aware of the needs behind one's emotions through one's own emotions.
Be aware of the needs of others through their attacks.
Grow in awareness.
What kind of mother can raise excellent children.
First of all, know how to love yourself deeply and only do what is beneficial to you in the long run.
For example, learning to grow oneself, such as cherishing one's body.
A person who doesn't know how to love himself can't be truly emotionally stable.
The second is to treat everything with a sense of mission and not ask for anything in return.
Finally, you can not do what you don't want to do, but don't complain as long as you do it.
Always be your own gas station.
Parents fly high, and children will follow.