Criticism, as a means for parents to correct a boy's wrong behavior, runs through the boy's development. However, the key to ensuring the long-term effectiveness of criticism lies in the right approach. Respect is a prerequisite in this process, and criticism in front of others should be done with caution.
The story begins with a family scene for a weekend. Rong Rong's mother's colleague Aunt Wang visits, and Rong Rong immerses himself in his beloved computer game, and this behavior causes his mother's dissatisfaction. However, instead of blaming Rongrong on the spot, the mother waited until the guest had left before criticizing, demonstrating her sensitivity and wisdom in maintaining her son's self-esteem.
When criticizing, Mom adopted a harsh tone that did not hurt her self-esteem. She clearly points out Rongrong's mistake and makes him aware of the problem. This kind of kind criticism helps Rong Rong to truly accept and correct his mistakes. In the face of Rongrong's apology, the mother behaved gently and rationally, emphasizing the need to correct her behavior, laying the foundation for future behavioral norms.
When her son made a mistake, her mother chose to criticize without others, protecting Rongrong's face. This practice is not only conducive to problem solving, but also helps to communicate more smoothly between mother and child. By avoiding public criticism, the mother maintains her son's self-esteem so that he can grow better under the right guidance.
Boys, like adults, have the same self-esteem. When parents criticize their son in front of everyone, it is easy to damage his face and cause resistance. In addition, public criticism may also cause the son to feel reputationally damaged, which in turn can affect his perception of his own behavior. On the contrary, by avoiding public criticism and focusing on protecting his son's self-esteem, he can stimulate the correct perception of his own behavior and develop proper behavior habits.
Finally, parents should be aware of the importance of protecting their boys' self-esteem and use well-meaning criticism as an effective means to guide their growth. In the absence of outsiders, patient and wise criticism and education, helping boys recognize mistakes and actively correct them, is the key path to promote their healthy development. Kind criticism not only enables boys to accept and correct their mistakes, but also lays the foundation for them to develop positive self-perceptions and values.
Here are three ways I recommend parents to try to promote healthy growth in boys:
1.Realize the importance of a boy's self-esteem.
Boys also have self-esteem, which grows with age. Parents should recognize that a boy's self-esteem has a profound impact on his development. Self-esteem is the driving force for a boy's inner development, and it is also the key guarantee for him to be positive and strive to move forward.
When parents focus on nurturing their self-esteem, boys will be more motivated and develop as they grow up. Avoid criticizing a boy in front of outsiders, as this can easily damage his self-esteem and may even lead to hostility towards his parents. Therefore, parents need to recognize the importance of the boy's self-esteem, maintain the development of his inner motivation, and promote his overall healthy development.
2.Give boys time for self-reflection.
When a boy exhibits inappropriate behavior, parents should first give him time for self-reflection. Create a tense atmosphere by remaining silent or by making corrections with a look, etc., and allow the boy to identify the problem and correct the mistake on his own. For example, when a boy is addicted to television and neglects to study, his parents cannot criticize him too harshly in front of outsiders, but they can express their dissatisfaction with his behavior through their eyes, so that he can feel the silent criticism of his parents, so that he can self-reflect and correct his mistakes. This method is more conducive to strengthening the boy's awareness of "correction" and achieving twice the result with half the effort.
3.Choose the right moment to criticize the boy
Even if a boy is able to recognize and correct his mistakes in self-reflection, this does not mean that his parents can do nothing. If the boy is able to further recognize and correct the mistake on the basis of introspection, the parents should communicate with him in-depth afterwards so that he can fully understand the root cause of the problem and truly solve the problem from the heart.
Boys, as individuals, crave respect and understanding as they grow up. As parents, you should focus on maintaining your boy's growing self-esteem. Parents should neither adopt "stick education" nor criticize unscrupulously in front of outsiders when they make mistakes, but should criticize them in private and in good faith to protect the boy's self-esteem. This can help build a healthier, stronger parent-child relationship.
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