In the midst of many controversies about whether Ying loves Rui Xiaodan, Rui Xiaodan dialed his ** at the last moment of his life. However, **Ying didn't say a word of retention, nor did she ask about Rui Xiaodan's condition, just silence.
Rui Xiaodan's colleague Zhao Guoqiang and his colleagues came to **Ying's residence, and they asked about the content of **. Ying repeated Rui Xiaodan's words in full, and when asked what he said about it, he paused for a few seconds and hung up. Such an answer is unbelievable, Zhao Guoqiang thinks that **Ying must be hiding something. He felt that either ** Ying's feelings for Rui Xiaodan were not deep enough, or he didn't even have a word of persuasion.
The love between Rui Xiaodan and **Ying is like a pearl that is misunderstood and questioned by most people. Their love is seen as absurd and ridiculous, as if it were a collision between two worlds. Rui Xiaodan described **Ying as a wandering gangster, he yearns for freedom, but he can't get rid of the chaos of the world, and has been looking for that ideal "paradise". Vanity Fair, which everyone else flocks to, he manages to keep a low profile and not be obtrusive.
*Ying is not a successful person in the eyes of ordinary people, he has won some fame with his talent, and even won the trust of Han Chufeng, which made Lin Yufeng also impressed. However, none of this was what he really wanted. He longed to reach the state of "birth" through self-cultivation, and finally found a quiet place to spend the rest of his life. However, the deeper he pursues, the deeper he sinks.
Rui Xiaodan once came to **Ying's residence and saw the simple furnishings in his house. She thought of a point in psychology: the simpler a person, the more they need to be embellished and filled. Maybe in her eyes, ** Ying is such a simple person.
Rui Xiaodan has always thought that **Ying is an ordinary gangster, but in fact, he has different pursuits and ideals in his heart. He longs to break free from the shackles of the world and live the life he wants. However, his deviant path has repeatedly frustrated him in his pursuit of freedom. The appearance of Rui Xiaodan changed his life, but their love was never understood by the world.
In this story, we see a contradictory individual - *Ying. He was both a gangster who longed for freedom and a practitioner who sought spiritual liberation. His life was full of contradictions and struggles, but he never gave up on the pursuit of ideals. And the appearance of Rui Xiaodan made his life more colorful. Although their love is not understood by the world, their story is full of truth and touching.
In the bustling world, those with complex minds have a special psychological need for brevity. Ying, a brilliant man who could have lived a luxurious life with his connections and intelligence, chose to live in a rental house without even air conditioning, and the rudimentary facilities did not affect his satisfaction. Rui Xiaodan understood him and saw his unique side.
The daughter of the kingdom of heaven, Han Chufeng commented on ** Ying with a sentence from Nietzsche: "The higher philosopher is alone, not because he wants to be alone, but because he can't find his kind around him." "Rui Xiaodan is such a person who is the same as **Ying, their souls are uninhibited, they don't want to be trapped by the world, and they strive to find a way of life that fits their souls, and they are not disturbed by the outside world.
Rui Xiaodan has an amazing beauty, but she is not bound by this skin. Her beauty is not only the beauty of her appearance, but also the temperament that does not eat the fireworks of the world. Ying has seen many women, but he chooses not to be burdened by them. However, when he met Rui Xiaodan, his words were full of praise: "Gold and silver jewelry are not enough to embellish a woman like you." There are not many women as smart as you, and not many women as luxurious as you. It is enough to have your confidant in this life. ”
Rui Xiaodan's wisdom and independence deeply touched ** Ying, he thinks that women have greed and hatred, and this is what he can't stand the most. However, Rui Xiaodan lives a low-desire life and enjoys high-quality soul pursuits, which is a situation he has worked hard to pursue but has never reached.
Rui Xiaodan, like **Ying, is a person with a strong heart. They don't need the bustle and luxury of the outside world to satisfy themselves, but rather seek inner peace and contentment. They know their roots, their roots, their wisdom, and their direction. The appearance of Rui Xiaodan made **Ying see another possibility in life, and he was willing to give up his original life plan for her.
Rui Xiaodan, like **Ying, is a person with a free soul. They are not burdened by the world, they are not fascinated by material desires, and they enjoy a high-quality spiritual life. Their lives do not come from material abundance, but from inner satisfaction and spiritual sublimation. Their presence allows us to see a new way of life, a way of life that is not disturbed by the outside world. People who pay attention to their inner feelings pursue the unity of knowledge and action, and their realm makes fewer and fewer people understand them. Rui Xiaodan and ** Ying are not lovers in the traditional sense, they are soul mates.
* The word "cold-blooded" in English is impressive. Xiao Yawen, a shrewd woman, did not translate her admiration for him into emotion, because she understood that falling in love with a man like **Ying was unbearable for any woman. Every pore of him reveals a condescending tolerance of secular culture, which is even to the point of disdain to reason with you, making you feel vulgar and inferior. In a difficult situation, you will feel helpless and hopeless, but the existence of **Yingying is like a heavy stone, making you have to think about a way out.
*Ying is an extreme sane person, he never loses his temper, he never gets angry, and his mind is always unpredictable. If you make a mistake, he won't get angry with you, but will calmly tell you what to do. His presence did not bring you additional happiness or share your sorrows, this is what Xiao Yawen said, living with such a man, normal women can't stand it. Women are emotional animals, but **Ying has no interest in those programmed and tedious things, he only pursues a simple life. In the eyes of women, he is like an emotionless machine.
In the TV series, when Ying's father was seriously ill and was likely to become a vegetative person, Ying's words and deeds were even more shocking. He even asked the doctor how he could get his father to die. This sentence is in our words: Is this a human being able to speak? When the eldest brother confronted him, he went so far as to say that if his father really became a vegetative state, he would stop paying the fee and unplug the oxygen tube. The eldest brother angrily spoke out the hearts of many children, but after careful consideration, we can't help but ask: Is it really for their good to keep the elderly?
Overall, Ying is a complex and contradictory figure. He pays attention to inner feelings, but has no interest in tedious things; He is sensible to the point of coldness, but he has a deep desire for family affection. His presence makes people think about many questions about human nature, family affection and life. After careful consideration, **Ying couldn't help but ask himself if he could really make his conscience pass. He knew that if his filial piety came at the cost of his father's pain and dignity, then he really didn't know what kind of person he really was.
In the eyes of **Ying, true filial piety is not blind obedience, but based on concern for the real interests of the elderly. "In my opinion, taking care of the elderly is not only an obligation, but also for their well-being," he said. ”
And Ying's mother has a different view on this statement. She lamented: "You can say such cruel things as pulling out the tube, it seems that you have forgotten your original purpose of raising children." In order to prevent old age, do you want your son to end up like this? The son you raised with your own hands will end up being treated like this by you. ”
In the face of her mother's reproach, **Ying responded calmly: "If you raise children just to prevent old age, then your so-called maternal love is a bit narrow." Everything you do, at the end of the day, is for yourself, and it's actually an exchange. ”
However, despite his reluctance to change his choice, he still paid for his family's medical expenses. He knew that this was his duty as a son. And his sister is also grateful for his efforts, if it weren't for his help, the family wouldn't even be qualified to bring a bowl of water to the hospital.
My sister has always wanted to renovate the family's teahouse, but Ding's father disagreed. She hopes that ** Ying can persuade her father. In this regard, **Ying disagreed: "The reason why I don't agree to renovate the teahouse is not because it is your father's property. On the contrary, you have set the bar too high for the teahouse to be overwhelmed by the short-lived tea customers. In this way, the original atmosphere of the teahouse will disappear. ”
Although **Ying had advised Rui Xiaodan to resign, he never forced her to make any decisions. He has always adhered to the attitude of perfection rather than change. In his opinion, taking care of a vegetative father is not true filial piety, because such an old man has lost consciousness and thought, and life is meaningless to them. He knew that this was just an opportunity for his children to perform "filial piety", so that others would feel that the three children of the Ding family were really filial. And his behavior also reflects his understanding of "filial piety" - he is not a person who loves to pretend, and he will not care about other people's opinions, let alone change his choices because others despise him.
But at the same time, he also showed his deep love for Rui Xiaodan. Only by understanding his "cold-bloodedness" can we understand his feelings for Rui Xiaodan. It's not that he doesn't love Rui Xiaodan, but he loves her deeply. For him, true love is fulfillment, not change. His love is different and will not be shaken by the evaluation of the outside world.
So, all of this stems from his sense of responsibility to his family and his understanding of life. With his actions, he interprets what true filial piety and love are. His story teaches us that true love is fulfillment, not change, understanding, not contempt. She conveyed her deep understanding to Rui Xiaodan by deciding to resign. If he expects Rui Xiaodan to resign to accommodate him, then this is equivalent to forcing Rui Xiaodan to change for him and make him satisfied. He understands that Rui Xiaodan is not attached to an object attached to him, but a person with independent thoughts. Trying to change her mind is tantamount to destroying her.
Rui Xiaodan's firm attitude made **Ying sigh, he once commented on her: "Her bravery and decisiveness make her not need to rely on me to plan her future." Whether it is family affection or love, **Ying has shown the same calmness and reason, he will not let others get into trouble because of his selfishness, which is exactly what Rui Xiaodan appreciates.
*Ying knows that he will not let Rui Xiaodan get into trouble, and he will not let her go against his beliefs in order to keep her. He knew that when Rui Xiaodan called him ** at an emergency moment, she had only one intention - to say goodbye. He knew he couldn't stop her, and Rui Xiaodan knew he wouldn't stop her. For Rui Xiaodan, even if he stopped her, she would not change her decision.
Rui Xiaodan's sacrifice and courage made **Ying deeply feel that she was his soulmate. He believes that the best love is fulfillment, and that's why he did everything for her. However, those things that he thought were of great significance to her might seem to others to be trivial things that were not worth mentioning, without any substantial return. But what Rui Xiaodan needs is not these, what she values more is the spiritual nourishment given to her by **Ying.
For **Ying, his love does not stop at the material level, and his understanding and support for Rui Xiaodan far exceeds those things that can be measured. He was willing to do anything for her, even if it might be worthless in the eyes of others. His love is selfless, pure, communion and understanding in the depths of the soul. This is perhaps the deepest bond between them – the soulmate relationship. In this world, to love someone is to give her what she really needs, not what we ourselves think it is. This kind of love, like a silent conversation, requires us to listen and understand with our hearts.
* Ying's love for Rui Xiaodan is like a pearl in the deep sea, although it is ignored by the world, it shines with a unique light. When Rui Xiaodan's father refused to let him attend his daughter's funeral, or even reveal the location of her grave, he silently accepted the result. He knew that he was an outlier who was not understood, and that the person who once knew him best had left him. In this world, the only thing he can do is to face it all with a normal heart.
Rui Xiaodan's departure made **Ying like an island, and her heart was full of sadness and endless thoughts. At that moment, as he swallowed the tea, his throat seemed to be blocked by something, only to realize that it was a mouthful of dark red blood. However, despite his grief, he remained sane and strong, knowing that not all love in this world can be reciprocated.
The company is now on the right track, but **Ying chose to leave. He once created a "myth" for Rui Xiaodan, but now this "myth" has become a thing of the past and no one appreciates it anymore. However, even though he no longer had to run around for a living, he chose to leave. Because he knows that there are some things that will not end well even if they are done.
*Ying is such a person, and some people may misunderstand him because he insists on his own ideas. In reality, however, he was just doing his duty. The gap between people is so great that sometimes explanations can be useless. Only by having a clear conscience can we truly face ourselves and the world.
In this long journey of life, we will encounter various challenges and misunderstandings. However, as long as we stick to our beliefs and maintain our inner peace and strength, we will definitely be able to find our own peace and happiness. This is my understanding and perception of **Ying.