In traditional Chinese culture, the family has always been regarded as one of the most important social units. The family is not only the cradle of children's growth, but also the place where they first come into contact with society. Therefore, parents often have high hopes for their children, hoping that they can become excellent talents and win glory for the family. However, in real life, many parents will find a strange phenomenon: why do they always feel that excellent children are from other people's families?
First of all, we need to recognize that every family's education style and home environment are different. Some families may pay more attention to their children's academic performance and extracurricular activities, while others may pay more attention to their children's moral and personality formation. As a result, the challenges and opportunities that children face as they grow up are also different. Some children are better supported and guided in their families, and they may be more likely to show their potential and talents and become "good children" in the eyes of others.
Second, our definition of "excellent" is also different. Some parents may pay more attention to their children's academic performance and competitive performance, believing that only children who excel in these areas are truly "excellent". However, this definition is one-sided, because a person's excellence is not only reflected in academics and competitions, but also in their morality, personality, social skills and other aspects. Therefore, if we only focus on academic and competition performance, we may ignore other aspects of excellent performance, which can lead to a biased perception of "good children".
In addition, we need to be mindful of the impact of society. In modern society, channels such as social networks are constantly transmitting a variety of information and values, including the criteria for evaluating children. Some ** and social media remarks tend to overemphasize children's academic and competition performance, which makes some parents and children have the wrong idea that "only good grades are excellent". This perception will not only affect parents' expectations and evaluations of their children, but also affect their children's self-perception and growth motivation.
So, how to avoid the illusion that "excellent children are from other people's families"? In my opinion, first of all, parents need to establish a correct concept of education, pay attention to the all-round development of their children, not only pay attention to academic performance, but also pay attention to the cultivation of children's morality, personality, social skills and other aspects. Secondly, parents need to respect their children's personality and interests, give them appropriate support and guidance, and let their children reach their potential in their favorite areas. Finally, parents also need to maintain a normal mentality, not to pursue their children's "excellence" too much, but to pay attention to their children's growth and progress, and give them encouragement and support.
At the same time, we also need to recognize that every child is unique and has their own trajectory and direction of development. We cannot simply define a child as "excellent" or "not excellent", but we should respect their individuality and differences, and give them appropriate attention and support. Only in this way can we enable every child to go further and better on their own path.
In short, the illusion that "excellent children are from other people's families" often stems from our one-sided definition of "excellent", differences in family education methods, and the influence of social **. To avoid this illusion, we need to establish a correct concept of education, pay attention to the all-round development of children, respect their individuality and differences, and give them appropriate attention and support. Only in this way can we cultivate truly excellent, potential, and talented children who can contribute to the future development of society.