In the past, many people thought:Raising children to prevent old ageIt is a matter of course, and relatively little attention is paid to the daughter. They believe that when a daughter marries in the future, it is a spill of water, and only a son can take on the responsibility of taking care of his parents. However, inModern societyThis perception has gradually changed. More and more people are realizing that the gender of their children does not determine whether they are able to take care of their parents, but more importantly, how they are educated and treated well. Only parents who truly think about their children and treat them well can win their children's respect and filial piety. On the contrary, if parents complain about their children's unfilial piety in front of others, have they ever reflected on whether they have done something excessive?
The story of Ah Yuan's husband and wife is a typical example. Ah Yuan's parents have always been patriarchal, and they are very disappointed in giving birth to a daughter, and even call it a money-losing product. At first, they planned to let Ah Yuan's parents take care of his wife's confinement, but after learning that they had given birth to a daughter, they immediately changed their attitude. They refused requests to come and take care of them, and used various excuses to shirk responsibility and say hurtful things. What's even more unacceptable is that when Ah Yuan's daughter suddenly fell ill and needed a lot of medical expenses, Ah Yuan and his wife knelt down to borrow money from their parents, but they were rejected and treated badly.
Ah Yuan's daughter eventually underwent successful surgery and is recovering well. They bought a new house without telling their parents. However, when the parents learned that Ah Yuan and his wife had bought a new house, they came to the door without permission to move in. The wife was very angry about this, unceremoniously reprimanded her parents and demanded that they leave immediately. The parents were outraged, believing that they had the right to live here, and that their son's home was also theirs. However, Ah Yuan's wife insisted on her position, saying that they only cared for themselves when they were in trouble, and treated them very coldly and harshly, but now they want to be taken care of. The wife thought that such an idea was naïve.
Everyone has a sense of gratitude, and if the other person has helped them, they are willing to do their best to help when the other person needs help. Especially for their parents, many children want to be filial, but as parents, if they have hurt their children's hearts, they can't blame their children for being unfilial and disrespectful. While the elderly want to be taken care of, they must also know how to treat their children and daughters-in-law well.
Through the description of the experience of Ah Yuan and his wife, we can see that inModern societyMedium,Raising children to prevent old ageis changing. The idea of preference for sons over daughters has long been outdated, and more people have begun to focus on cultivating the qualities and abilities of their children so that they can live better after their deaths. At the same time, children also gradually realize that their parents are selfless and grateful for their dedication and education, and are therefore willing to do their best to take care of their parents. On the contrary, if parents have done something that hurts their children, the children will resentfully them and find it difficult to show filial piety and respect.
In my opinion, Ah Yuan and his wife have absolutely done nothing wrong. As a child of a human being, giving and giving back is mutual. Whether parents lend a helping hand to their children in times of difficulty, and their attitudes and ways of dealing with their children, will have a significant impact on their children's behaviour and attitudes later in life. For Ah Yuan and his wife, the reason why they are reluctant to let their parents move into the new house is because their parents do not care about and hurt them, if their parents were willing to help them and treat them more kindly, they will definitely take the initiative to help and take care of their parents.
The relationship between parents and children is a two-way street, and mutual respect and love can build a good family relationship. The family is a warm harbor, and every member should do their best to create a harmonious and happy atmosphere. We should learn to think from the other person's point of view, understand the other person's situation and feelings, and communicate with love and care, so that we can build a truly harmonious family. At the same time, for those children who have been hurt, they should also learn to forgive, release their inner resentment, and tolerate and understand with love. Only in this way can we grow together in the family, support each other, and create a warm and happy home.