Whether you choose to give up or choose to maintain, when there is a third person in your relationship, don't ask me if I should redeem itDon't even ask me why the other party betrayed you?There is only one most important task at the moment, that is, to immediately withdraw and isolate, to protect yourself, because years of counseling have made me summarize a, a very practical criterion of judgment, when a person is energetic, whether it is to give up or retain, most of them can deal with this matter without hurting themselves, but once you let yourself fall into the negative emotions of pain and anxiety, no matter how you choose, most of them will regret it in the end!
The second step is that you have to clearly realize that betrayal is unforgivable, and there is no need to make up for betrayal, once the relationship has been completely over, your only choice is to end the relationship immediately, which I hope all partners must keep in mind, making mistakes is a price, and harm is a cost, so I will say to every partner who comes to consult because of a third party, your first marriage has ended, and now you are sure you want to choose, start the second time?
The third step is to measure the reality in multiple dimensions, and work out a reasonable way to deal with it, consider it from multiple directions such as family, economy, feelings, and children's future development, follow your actual situation, follow your inner voice, if you are not willing to choose this person, don't talk nonsense, find a lawyer to go through the procedure, and divorce by property preservation agreement, but if you are willing to choose the other party again!
Then we continue the fourth step, healing ourselves, this step is the key to deal with the problem, because the appearance of the third person, not only exposes the problems in the relationship, it is more direct, destroying our original trust and expectations for the relationship, this kind of injury is no exaggeration, will make many people in the next few years or even more than ten years, will be haunted.
Manage your marriage well, treat your marriage well, marriage is not easy for a lifetime, you must learn to tolerate and cherish it!If you want to have a smooth marriage and get a good marriage, you must treat your marriage well and not destroy other people's marriages!