Recently, I have found that many people have a misconception that "self-grasping" means having their own ideas, and then everyone will criticize those who stick to their own ideas and firmly follow their own path. This is a typical example of going from one extreme to the other.
Before talking about what is really "breaking the ego", let me first use the concept of "ordinary" as an analogy with "ego".
What do you think is "ordinary"?Is it the life of firewood, rice, oil, salt, sauce, vinegar and tea every day, or does it insist on working in a basic post day after day?
This lyric of Pu Shu in "Ordinary Road" is the best definition of "ordinary": I have crossed mountains and seas, and I have seen mountains and seas, and I have everything in the blink of an eye. I was lost, disappointed, and lost all directions, until I saw that the ordinary was the only answer. ”
Ordinary must be the kind of enlightenment that sees through everything after experiencing strong winds and waves, peaks and troughs.
A young man who has no experience in the world and is not motivated to say that his current "ordinary" life is very good, that is basically nonsense. That's not called "ordinary", that's called "mediocre". That's just an excuse for your own laziness.
In the same way, "breaking the ego" does not mean that we follow the crowd and do not have our own ideas, and we can do whatever we want. That is not called "breaking the ego", that is called "not having an opinion".
And "breaking the ego" means that we have been in the state of "self-grasping" for a long time, and those experiences have made us grow a lot, but in a new stage of life, we have broken the negation and prejudice against the negative things of "self-grasping", and we have begun to be able to accept all the choices and ideas of everyone with a peaceful mind.
It's a bit hard to understand that, so let's take an example.
For example, you have always thought that people should be motivated, and they should go to a bigger world to become more awesome people, and you have indeed made some achievements in this state, but at the same time, you also look down on those "mom boys" and "good girls", this is called "ego". And "breaking the ego" means that one day you suddenly figured out that whether you are ambitious or obey social discipline, it is a life choice, and there is no distinction between high and low. You can treat those "mom boys" and "good girls" with respect and equality, and no longer feel that they are inferior.
At the same time, for yourself, you still aspire to be a better person, but you can also allow yourself to rest and be ordinary, accept your shortcomings, accept that you have not achieved your goals for the time being, and no longer want to be famous. This is the real "breaking of self-grasping".
I wish you happiness.