Not all men are worthy of being called husbands.
Once the relationship is determined, having a man who can call himself a husband is bound to pin all the affection and love of the rest of his life on one person.
After marriage, a woman will habitually treat her husband as a relative and want to be treated in the same way.
However, many times, marriage is an ongoing pursuit of two people's feelings and the beginning of a transformation in the relationship between the two parties.
The relationship before marriage was good, but after marriage it became completely different, and many women found that their friendship with their husbands faded after marriage, and even frankly regarded themselves as outsiders.
Faced with such a dilemma, a wise woman knows that such a response can solve the marital crisis and get her relationship back on track.
Reflection is not your own.
Her actions pushed her husband away.
Marriage is a ship, and husbands and wives are partners at the helm of the ship. Running a marriage is not just a one-sided effort, but it also requires the same amount of energy from both parties to make the ship of marriage move forward smoothly.
If you find that your husband starts to think of himself as an outsider, don't be in a hurry to blame the other person, first see if you haven't worked hard enough in the process of managing your marriage.
The first thing to do is to reflect on whether you have been too busy with work lately and neglected to take care of your husband's daily life and diet, and over time, the other party will feel that you are no longer as close as when you were married, and then estranged yourself;
Secondly, we should recall the small things before marriage and remedy them in time. Only by rebuilding the relationship with patience and faith, and awakening each other's deep emotional tenderness, can we reconcile.
Confucius said: Do not do to others what you would not do to yourself.
Put yourself in your husband's shoes, make up for your own shortcomings, and regain your original sense of intimacy. If you find yourself becoming insensitive and selfish, adjust immediately and let your husband feel your thoughtfulness again.
Take the initiative to talk to your husband.
Look for problems. Sometimes, I think that my husband regards himself as an outsider, most likely because the communication between them is not in place, men don't like to talk, they are not good at guiding men to take the initiative to speak, and the voices in their hearts are less together, even if they live under the same roof, they will naturally feel that the relationship between the two parties is not very close.
Therefore, when you feel that there is a distance between you and your husband, first let go of the mentality of doubt and speculation, take the initiative to pay attention to the other person, and chat with him, so that you will know whether there is really a problem with the emotions between you or your one-sided delusion.
If you notice that your husband is depressed or aggressive, listen to him complain about work troubles and let him know that you care about his feelings. Give comfort and encouragement and show your support.
By awakening your husband's intimacy with herself, you will only push the other person further;Instead, he used his sincerity and concern to dispel the haze in his husband's heart and channel his negative emotions.
This kind of honest communication will make the other person feel that you can rely on and regain the trust you once met.
Try to separate briefly.
Create space for each other.
Just like two hedgehogs, the closer they get, the easier it is to be stabbed by each other's thorns, and they originally wanted to close the distance between each other, but they were stabbed and bled like a river.
The smart way to improve your emotional state is not to keep the other person tightly together, actively leave space and leave a void in the relationship, but it is easier to let the relationship breathe.
Give your husband proper space and encourage short outings to give her thoughts time to sprout.
You also need to cultivate your own interests and hobbies to enrich your life, so that you can increase your self-charm while also focusing your attention elsewhere, so that you will not always focus on your emotional life and have an anxious state of mind that wants to see your emotions heat up.
A brief separation will make your husband realize the inconvenience and loneliness of you in his life and make him value you again.