Zhuang's sister-in-law's name is Gao Shuzhen.
However, the use of this name is rather rare.
In most cases, people Xi call her Sister-in-law, as if she was hiding behind her husband's surname, using the word "sister-in-law" to vaguely define her identity.
Born into a family of child brides, she was able to move from her hometown to Beijing, relying entirely on her status as a "family member". Her husband is a worker, he is a middle-level leader of a company, both of them have stable jobs, and the family conditions are good, but she has never had children. In that era, the light of marriage did bring about a change for her, and her fate was changed by her husband as a full-time employee.
Failure to do so means spending your life in the countryside, with the soil as your companion.
In contrast, the heroine Wen Li is obviously more lucky.
Born and raised in Beijing, he was pampered by his parents and cared for by his sister, he has been committed to his studies since he was a child, and he firmly believes that he has a stable job**. In the eyes of her parents, she was a smart, capable and educated child, but she always felt that she was not a good child. Therefore, she has the ability to stand on the same level as her husband and does not hesitate to ask him to share the responsibilities of the family.
After all, everyone works hard to earn money for the sake of work, and they are not inferior to each other.
From another point of view, Sister-in-law Zhuang's appearance is not particularly attractive.
He was burly, not so delicate between his eyebrows, and he could smell a strong smell of ballast as soon as he opened his mouth. He spoke quickly, in a low tone, and there was a kind of disdain and ridicule in his tone, as if he was saying something, but he was not saying anything, just a kind of ridicule. Compared with Wen Li's delicate and petty bourgeois style, she doesn't seem to have received enough attention and attention.
I reckon that as a new girl, she may feel a little inferior.
She felt out of place with the city, and as a result, her husband's wedding became a special gift, full of haughty mercy and charity, and she could only obey him and look up to him.
Family and friends in my hometown are also urging them to take good care of the male so that a boy and a girl can be born as soon as possible.
That's all her responsibilities and values: taking care of his daily life and food, as well as reproducing his children.
In fact, there is no need to feel wronged, this is already the Xi of all women in our family, and it has been passed down from generation to generation.
She is not as pretentious as Wen Li, isn't it a woman's responsibility to take care of men?Just being responsible for laundry and cooking, as well as handling household chores, is actually not a difficult thing to do.
Gao Shuzhen happily became a bride, but she didn't expect that before the cave house ended, she suffered a heavy blow of fate.
The young woman named Mei Mei led a group of people to stir up the situation, loudly demanding a reasonable explanation from Da Zhuang. Tears glistened in the young woman's eyes, and her shocking red color clung to her marriage like blood in the light of the wedding scene.
Lack of education does not mean lack of wisdom, and even if Sister-in-law Zhuang is not smart, she can understand what is happening.
Unexpectedly, this man had already changed his mind, because he owed a romantic debt, and his real mind was not on him. He is in love with a woman, but he is not willing to marry her. The former lovers are like a rainbow, but the groom always remains silent, does not dare to confront Mei Mei head-on, and always tries to avoid it.
In fact, this is partly a default attitude.
It was the only wedding night, but the gift from the husband was unfaithful. His wife quarreled with him, but he pulled her into the bedroom. Even though I was being ridiculed, I still had a thorn in my heart, and I felt like this pain had lasted for most of my life.
Except to cry silently, Sister-in-law Zhuang had no other choice.
The originally harmonious wedding was shattered, which seemed to foreshadow what could happen in the future.
In the decades that followed, there was no sign of decline. That heart, eager to find flowers and willows, has been brewing and is still unsettling, although it does not cause a violent storm.
There is a difference between Dazhuang and Tong Zhi.
On the subject of marriage, he is definitely a practical person.
Instead of feeling tired in love, follow the advice of your parents and choose a woman who can endure hardships and stand hard work and take good care of herself. After marriage, both parties should have a fixed life goal, and on this basis, they should also pay attention to coordinating various relationships, such as the balance between work and Xi, the balance between family and career, and so on. Only in this way can we get the most intuitive and definite benefits in our married life.
However, human desires are endless.
After satisfying the basic needs of physical and daily life, he began to have a strong desire for spiritual enjoyment, often involuntarily poking his feet out of the walls in search of romance and excitement.
Sister-in-law Zhuang has had the experience of crying and making trouble, and even threatened suicide, but in the end, she can only choose to turn a blind eye.
Even making a big fuss won't help, men are only short-lived honest, and dogs can't change their Xi of eating after all. I'm a man, so there's no need to make a fuss because it's a painful thing. Although life went on, I could only soothe myself with a "forget it" and silently swallowed all the pain.
Unlike Wen Li, she does not resort to fierce conflicts, but is determined to fight to the death.
Women who choose to be in love are actually more likely to be hurt by their marriage. Since the latter is nowhere near as attractive as the former, she may collapse at a huge misstep or even become suspicious of the past.
However, despite this, Sister-in-law Zhuang still has envy for Wen Li.
Sister-in-law Zhuang's envy of Wen Li is mainly reflected in her imitation and hostility.
Once, Wen Li spent a fortune to make a bragi that contrasted perfectly with her slender waist and made her look even more attractive. Its owner is a beautiful and lovely girl. She showed off in the market in this dress, and her face was full of confidence.
Seeing this situation, Sister-in-law Zhuang also created one according to the original appearance.
However, when her not-so-slender body was forced in, a lifelike Dong Shi performance was staged. She looked at me with an almost exaggerated look, "Why am I so ugly?".Wen Li was both angry and funny: "It's like looking in a mirror." ”
After that, Sister-in-law Zhuang also got a job.
Despite the heavy work she does, she deliberately brags about her in public washbasins, both publicly and privately, so that her neighbors will look up to her. No, it's her turn to be the "squad leader" today!Look, I'm a woman with a stable job now!
Of course, this is also a challenge to Wen Li behind the scenes: "My salary is not much different from that of the teachers in that elementary school, regardless of age!."”
The other side of pride is the inferiority complex, although Sister-in-law Zhuang shows off on the surface, but in fact it shows her inner timidity and uneasiness, which is also in line with a sentence in psychology: "What is lacking is to show off." ”
In that era, she longed to be a woman like Ms. Bun, to be spoiled by her husband and treated with the kindness of fate.
It's a pity that the tiger drawn is not a real dog, and the superficial imitation will only bring more laughs, but Dazhuang's attitude is no different from the past. He was at home in front of the mirror, staring at himself in the mirror in a daze. Even though she provided him with a very attentive service. But he turned a blind eye to her actions. Whether it's laundry, cooking, giving birth, or even washing her feet, she delivers it directly to her husband.
Everyone praised her for her virtue, her ability, and her knowledge of how to live. However, these traditional virtues did not win the deep care and pampering of the husband.
It always seems to feel heartache.
Frankly speaking, I really admire Sister-in-law Zhuang.
Not to mention other factors, but at least she was strategic, making sure that her husband and son had access to meat during times of food scarcity. I admire that. That budget-conscious attitude, while a bit vulgar, is actually a test of one's ability to coordinate and plan holistically.
Talent isn't just about being good at writing or living a good life, it's actually a very special talent.
On another occasion, the allocation of houses was carried out within the factory.
Dazhuang didn't get the house he really liked, but he could only endure it silently, wanting to suffer an embarrassing loss.
However, Zhuang's sister-in-law couldn't bear it, she rushed into the factory to create a big commotion, and also seized the favorable opportunity of the director's inspection, made a big fuss, cried very sadly, and made a very embarrassing fuss.
In the end, the whole family moved into a spacious home as they wished.
For a scholar like Wen Li, this kind of behavior seems inappropriate. They believe that dignity is a very abstract thing, and it needs to be expressed and expressed in words, not in words, as we can see today. After all, dignity is more noble than anything, and it is impossible to exchange it for a simple house
But in fact, this is precisely the strategy adopted by Sister-in-law Zhuang in order to survive.
She didn't flinch and didn't pay much attention to the issue of face. To many, this seems to be a matter of course. She is more inclined to practical benefits than abstract dignity. After all, face is not something to be enjoyed as a meal.
Therefore, there was a trace of contempt hidden under Wen Li's arrogant exterior, although it was not explicitly expressed, but it was also vaguely revealed between her every look and eyebrows. Her heart is struggling in pain, her life is struggling, her fate is struggling in pain. Her heart is actually very fragile, so fragile that she doesn't even believe that such a person exists. For her, this is undoubtedly a degree of psychological trauma.
However, she never hides her emotions and acts directly and boldly, often making elementary school teachers tremble with anger.
Despite this, the sister-in-law would still provide food and drink for the Tong family, and patiently comfort Wenli when she faced a marital crisis. Even the first menarche of the eldest daughter of the Tong family was handled by her.
Looking back again, Sister-in-law Zhuang's shiny place is still shining.
She represents a model of working people, both industrious and simple, kind-hearted, but at the same time vain, sensitive and critical - a little bad in the good, and good in the bad.
I can even perceive the existence of some people around me from Sister-in-law Zhuang.
It is for this reason that the misunderstanding and affection between Wen Li and Sister-in-law Zhuang have been resolved, and thus become deeper.
In fact, it is also a friendship that we often encounter in real life: despite the ups and downs, it is still full of warmth, it is both the carving of the years, but also our own realization, and sometimes the unexpected joy.
As Sister-in-law Zhuang said: I didn't expect that as we grew older, the two of us would become close sisters.
Unexpectedly, Dazhuang has undergone significant changes.
He has become a member of Lao Zhuang, put away all the flowers and intestines, and his face shows a fresh face of washing away the lead and being a new person, he began to follow his wife's advice, and called Shuzhen one after another.
Sister-in-law Zhuang had the best time of her life.
The two men in the family, one older and one younger, were accommodating and coaxing her, and she could even get angry at buying the wrong packet of sauce and educate her husband to be very obedient.
Sister-in-law's "success" can also be seen as a sign of hard work in a sense."
You see, after half a lifetime of hard work, in the end I still clung to this man and walked with him to the days of growing old together.
However, I suddenly remembered what the Japanese writer Junichi Watanabe once said:
It is only when they get older to a certain point that their feelings for their wives begin to soften. They began taking their wives out to eat and shop, buying gifts for her, and even affectionately expressing their gratitude for their unwavering love over the years in public. ”
In the tenderness of Dazhuang, I am afraid that the "guilt" exceeds the "love".
In the final analysis, the final reunion is achieved after a long period of boiling and hard work, and it is obtained by spending a lifetime of working as a cow and a horse. In this process, it always seems that your efforts are not equal to those in return. At first glance it looks blissful, but deep thinking is full of endless heartache.
By the end of the article, I really didn't know how to make an assessment.
We can't completely deny that, because in the end it's still full of warm emotions;However, defining it as a "happy" marriage may seem somewhat reluctant.
Many people believe that this is what marriage is really like.
The quarrels and unpleasantness between them, as they grow older, gradually deepen their affection and may even become the focus of envy of the younger generation.
When I heard that, I couldn't help but want to cry out loud.
For myself, for my sister-in-law, and for my marriage.