took 8,000 to bring his grandson, but his son-in-law gave his mother 3,000, his mother-in-law refused, and I didn't want my daughter and grandson
There is a dialogue in "The Age of Naked Marriage": "I once misunderstood the old saying, thinking that the poor raise children and rich daughters, and I tried my best to create rich conditions for my daughter, lest she be lured away from a piece of cake."
However, I overlooked that such a girl can get lost in rhetoric while being overly protected. ”
What's even more frustrating is that the daughter is caught in the fog of love, and it is very likely that because of her stubbornness, no matter how hard her parents advise, it is difficult to listen, and she insists on rushing to the cliff and turning a blind eye.
For example, in the TV series "Xue Pinggui and Wang Baochuan", Wang Baochuan, the daughter of the Prime Minister's house, fell in love with Xue Pinggui, who was lowly at the time, and was even willing to cut off the father-daughter relationship with his father Wang Yun.
Some girls are even hopelessly stupid, not only disregarding their own happiness for men, but also causing trouble to their relatives, such as in "Double-sided Tape", Hu Lijuan took money from her mother many times for Li Yaping to support her in-laws, which eventually led to her own ruin, not only could not recover her finances, but also lost her beloved daughter, and her parents' later life will also be in trouble.
There is a famous saying on the Internet: "Interpersonal relationships must be mutual, and unilateral unconditional giving will only breed greedy white-eyed wolves." ”
As a parent, you can't just be pure pampering, take care of your child in every way, but also need to be responsible, stop your child when he makes a mistake, give a lesson, and let his child be in awe of his words.
Finally, you should also be a little selfish, don't give everything for your children, and eventually ruin your children and your later life. If the child becomes unreliable, he may have to rely on himself.
What?Mom, you're going back?Don't help me with the kids anymore?Don't give me financial support anymore?What are you kidding?If you don't help me take care of the children anymore, I will have to be a stay-at-home wife, I can't work, do we have to face the pressure of making ends meet?Are we going to eat the wind?You have to come back, do you hear me?”
Faced with Aunt Su's incomprehension, her daughter became even more anxious and shouted loudly: "My husband said, if you don't help us take care of the children and don't support us, we won't visit you again in the future, and when you are old, don't expect me to support you." ”
Aunt Su heard her daughter's words, was silent, and ended the call, and then, on the train, she sat quietly, bowed her head and stroked the table, tears raining down.
Aunt Su, who is 52 years old this year, admitted that the deepest regret in her life is to over-spoil her only daughter, and as a result, she has developed an unfilial daughter who not only disobeys her parents for love, but also intends to bear her parents.
Thirty years ago, 22-year-old Aunt Su married Mr. Gao under the leadership of her parents. In the third year after marriage, Aunt Su gave birth to a daughter. Due to the difficult birth, she not only kept the mother and daughter safe, but also left physical trauma, which made it extremely difficult to get pregnant again.
At first, the in-laws were unhappy that the daughter-in-law gave birth to only one girl. After learning that Aunt Su could no longer have children, her in-laws not only scolded, but also asked her son to divorce and remarry. However, Mr. Gao loved Aunt Su deeply and resolutely refused his parents' unreasonable requests.
As a result, the in-laws sold the property in anger, kicked the eldest son's family of three out of the house, and then went to the younger son's house with the money. And Mr. Gao, with his wife and newborn daughter, can only go out to earn a living. They traveled south to a southern city, where they eventually found work.
During that time, we endured a lot of suffering. My daughter is too young and needs to be taken care of, so I can only earn money to support the family. We were frugal, and our daughter had to go through a lot of hardships. I've always felt sorry for my daughter. ”
As her daughter grew older, Aunt Su began to work, and like her husband, she often left early and returned late and rarely had time to spend with her daughter. Her guilt deepened.
Since she was a child, her daughter was not sensible, often complaining that her parents did not care about her, and often disagreed with her parents. Her academic performance was also not outstanding, which made Aunt Su feel a lot of headaches.
However, when Mr. Gao became more and more intolerant of his daughter's behavior and wanted to discipline her, Aunt Su's inner guilt welled up in her heart, and she would always stop her husband, saying that girls were just a trivial matter. In desperation, the couple could only let their daughter continue to develop.
It wasn't until her daughter was in junior high school, as she grew older, she became more sensible and her academic performance improved, that Aunt Su felt a little relieved, thinking that her daughter would make a difference and would change her destiny through hard work. However, it is a pity that in high school, my daughter's grades were still not satisfactory, and she was finally admitted to an ordinary undergraduate university.
I was disappointed to learn her college entrance examination results, but there was nothing I could do. Girls, it doesn't matter if your grades are not good, it's enough to find a good job and marry a good person. I didn't expect much from my daughter. ”
However, her daughter fell in love with her classmates in college, and even violated family rules, and found out that she was pregnant less than half a year after graduating from college. Then she found Aunt Su and told her that she was going to get married.
The daughter's classmate's family situation is not good, she is also from the countryside, and her parents are ordinary farmers. What's even more excessive is that they relied on Aunt Su's daughter's feelings for her son, not only did not propose a bride price, but also did not solve the housing problem, and even proposed a naked marriage, which made Aunt Su feel angry.
Mom, if you don't agree, do you want me to be a single mother?You are also a mother, can you bear it?If you don't agree, I'd rather die. ”
Mr. Gao and Aunt Su are angry at their daughter's unfilial behavior, but they are unable to change their daughter's decision. In the end, they had to grit their teeth and agree to their daughter's marriage, without any bride price, and the daughter and the man rented a house and got married.
I've worked hard for most of my life to raise my son, and now it's time to enjoy life. I don't have the energy to help my daughter take care of the children and take care of her during confinement. If you feel sorry for your daughter, go by yourself, I won't go anyway. ”
The in-laws have no reason at all, and the son-in-law is also unprincipled on the side of his parents. The daughter would only cry in front of Aunt Su, and in desperation, Aunt Su had to rent a house in her daughter's community, work hard to serve the confinement and take care of her grandson. Moreover, because the combined salaries of the two barely exceed 10,000 yuan, and the expenses are huge, Mr. Gao almost has to supplement his daughter's salary of nearly 6,000 yuan per month, plus Aunt Su's pension of more than 2,000 yuan, a total of 8,000 yuan.
Faced with her daughter and son-in-law's fixed income and profligacy, Aunt Su felt anxious. She constantly scolded and admonished, but the two either fell on deaf ears or talked back. The son-in-law even lost his temper with Aunt Su, accusing her of being nosy, saying that she was old. Seeing that her daughter would only blame herself, Aunt Su felt extremely cold.
My wife, I decided to leave. If we continue like this, we will die sooner or later at the hands of this unfilial daughter. Did you know?I heard a conversation when my daughter's house was cleaning, the son-in-law had to give 3,000 yuan a month to his parents to play cards, and they didn't think it was enough, and the son-in-law had to add money. It's also parenting, why do we have to work so hard?”
Mr. Gao couldn't bear it anymore and told Aunt Su that he was wrong for doting on his daughter at the beginning, which caused her to be ignorant, and if he continues to make his mistake now, it will only make his life more miserable in his later years. Aunt Su listened to her wife's words, apologized to him with tears in her eyes, and decided to quit the rented house and leave with her wife, as if she had never given birth to this daughter.
Whatever you want, I don't want my daughter or grandson. From now on, I am not your mother, and you are not my daughter. It has nothing to do with you whether I am dead or alive, and vice versa. ”
Now, Aunt Su and her wife have returned to where they worked, found a job, and worked hard to earn money and save. The daughter and son-in-law frequently called them, but Aunt Su and her wife chose not to answer and refused their request to add friends.
As Bai Yansong said: "Why do others take you less and less seriously, because you are too easy to talk." Whatever you want, you will agree, and whatever you want, you will give it. ”
The reason why your children are unfilial and ignore their parents' feelings for the sake of selfish desires is simply because you spoil them too much and make them think that you are too easy to talk. They know that no matter how ignorant or unscrupulous they are, you will have to ignore them.
They have no scruples when they are troubled and willful, because they know that it is impossible for their loving parents to watch them suffer and ignore them.